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Jennifer Boykin
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Jennifer Boykin is a Speaker, Strategy Coach, and Creator of the midlife reinvention community, LifeAfterTampons.com. She is the author of Breakthrough and The Comeback QuickStart Guide and lives in the Washington DC area. You can follow her on Facebook and on her site, www.lifeaftertampons.com where she happily makes trouble for a living.

Entries by Jennifer Boykin

The Gift That Should Have Killed Me

(3) Comments | Posted October 19, 2014 | 9:14 AM

"24 years.

364 days.

Today. Just for today."

That was one of my first thoughts upon awakening this morning.

You see, I am an alcoholic.

Fortunately, I'm the kind of alcoholic who no longer drinks.

Well, at least I'm not drinking today. That is the promise I make to myself...

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101 Ways To Love Yourself More Deeply

(1) Comments | Posted September 28, 2014 | 7:39 AM

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Not long ago, I was blown away by the beauty (inside and out) of a woman I met at a meeting of entrepreneurs. Kelly Newsome, of Higher Ground Yoga, talked about her in-home yoga and doula business for mommas-to-be. She practices and teaches...

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God, bless America

(0) Comments | Posted July 4, 2014 | 9:17 AM

God, bless America.

I added the comma and the lowercase "b" because, without them, it seems like we are making a demand of god, rather than approaching god with the humility of a people who have already received so much.

In my case, I also use the lowercase "g"...

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In Case People Yank Your Chain

(0) Comments | Posted May 20, 2014 | 3:23 PM

Lately, I've noticed how often the outside world yanks my chain. This is particularly true when people around me are stressed, angry and anxious.

When I was growing up, I was the kid that was always hyper-aware of what the adults were doing. I felt I needed to be. I...

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A Word About Your Beautiful Anger

(0) Comments | Posted April 15, 2014 | 6:03 PM

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When I get stuck about what to write about, I'll often ask a friend to give me a word and then just jam on that. This morning's word was "resurrection" and, of course, the first thing I thought about was "insurrection."

A...

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How To Make Peace With Your Past

(2) Comments | Posted March 25, 2014 | 6:58 AM

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A wise woman once told me that the past was good for two things: to learn from and to enjoy.

In general, I don't believe we should spend too much time wandering around in the past. Unless you've done your clean-up work on...

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The Warning Every Parent Needs to Share With Their Child

(11) Comments | Posted March 2, 2014 | 5:16 AM

A friend mentioned recently that her young daughter had had her first encounter with mean girls at school. The girls were being girls and, although they had all been 'best friends forever' yesterday, today it was her daughter's turn to be the group's pariah-du-jour.

Of course this is a painful...

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Celebrating Half-Assery: The Training Bra Blog

(0) Comments | Posted February 11, 2014 | 11:44 AM

One of the reasons it took me 20 years to make a consistent effort toward my Big Dream (Life After Tampons) is because I didn't understand that you don't need a fully-formed idea to begin.

In fact, I found just the opposite. I found that, once I began with a...

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In Case You're Weird

(0) Comments | Posted February 4, 2014 | 2:54 PM

The other night, in the middle of the night, my husband and I both woke from bad dreams at 3:15 in the morning.

I dreamed that I had been passed over (unfairly, of course) for a place on the International Scholars Team.

He dreamed that he couldn't get away from...

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7 Steps To A Brand New You In Midlife

(0) Comments | Posted January 29, 2014 | 5:01 AM

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Suppose you meant to make a change in your life. Perhaps you wanted to lose weight, or write a book. Perhaps you meant to develop a better exercise routine or finish a degree.

Anyway, whatever it was, supposed this -- suppose you started...

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Should I Die Or Should I Go To Work?

(9) Comments | Posted August 25, 2013 | 6:34 AM

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So, as it turns out, I have depression. Well, actually, I "HAD" depression, but now that I'm "all better," I can tell you about it.

The reason I didn't know I was depressed was because I was happy. Or, at least, I felt like...

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I Used To Love Flying

(7) Comments | Posted July 16, 2013 | 8:35 AM

I never made it home last night. After five hours in the Portland airport, we finally left for Chicago (my layover before my final destination of Baltimore). The first flight was running late. But they said that would be okay. They told me they would reroute me to another flight...

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The 45 Mistakes That Lead To Unrequited Dreams

(70) Comments | Posted July 2, 2013 | 6:32 AM

Warning: This post is likely to tick you off.

Really, I'm not kidding. Please don't shoot the messenger, though. I am not speaking down to you from any "Holier Than Thou" Hilltop. I've made EVERY ONE of these mistakes myself -- REPEATEDLY -- and they are the main reasons...

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A Word About Haters

(7) Comments | Posted May 28, 2013 | 4:07 PM

One of the things that has absolutely floored me since I started "being in the public eye" is this: The more successful you are, the more you get to deal with a small but very darkly-motivated tribe of haters.

I guess the first thing that surprises me about haters is...

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The Happiest Day of My Life: Tragedy and Triumph

(4) Comments | Posted April 18, 2013 | 12:05 PM

2013-04-17-GRACE.jpg Today marks the 20th anniversary of the happiest day of my life. My eldest son, Clark, is 20 years old today.

He is the man who never should have lived. Here's why:

The year before Clark was born, I was in a different...

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I'm Sick of Alcoholism

(10) Comments | Posted March 27, 2013 | 5:16 PM

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I'm sick of alcoholism.

This past weekend I went to yet another funeral for an alcoholic who died of her disease.

I'm 51. I went to my first alcoholic funeral when I was 11. That one was my father's....

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Is it Time to Quit? When (and Why) to Surrender

(14) Comments | Posted March 21, 2013 | 4:24 PM

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Recently, I've come to a place of deep acceptance and surrender about a situation in my life that just isn't where I want it to be.

Oh, to be certain, I've tried. In fact, I wanted this thing to be...

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