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Jennifer Cullen is the editor of MiddleSexy.com, a web site for women 40+ whose lives are changing: Their bodies, relationships, households and, of course, their sexuality. She also blogs about her modern family life as a mother, writer, former divorcee and wife at Life’s Dewlaps. She writes with knowledge, humor, love and frequently, a little TMI.

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Saying 'I Love You'

(2) Comments | Posted December 17, 2014 | 1:53 PM

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How often do you say, "I love you" to your partner?

Once a day? Maybe twice a day? Or every time you speak on the phone?

I fall in to the every time you speak on the phone category.

That verbal expression of...

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10 Reasons Why Second Marriages Work

(7) Comments | Posted December 9, 2014 | 3:09 PM

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My husband and I had been together for almost three years before we decided to get married. The year was 2006. We had both been married before, had been divorced for a while when we started dating and had young children. Our kids,...

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Reaching 50 Without Any Chin Hairs

(2) Comments | Posted December 1, 2014 | 1:45 PM

I'm turning 49 soon.

(No. No. No. It can't be.)

Thinking back on when I turned 40, I remember saying, "Oh, age is just a number. You're only as old as you feel. Forty is the new 30. Blah, blah, blah."

F*#k that.

Forty-nine is old. Forty-nine is one year...

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A Sexual Dry Spell

(0) Comments | Posted November 25, 2014 | 2:08 PM

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Sometimes, my husband and I hit a sexual dry spell. Meaning that days, and, occasionally, weeks go by without us having sex.

It doesn't mean that anything is wrong with our relationship. It usually just means that he's been working late or that...

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My First Vibrator

(2) Comments | Posted November 17, 2014 | 5:04 PM

Twelve years ago, after I got divorced, a close friend gave me a vibrator and told me to go home and use it.

I was almost 40 years old. And I had never seen one up close before.

It was one of those lipstick vibes. Small, but powerful. It felt...

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College Visit With My Firstborn

(0) Comments | Posted October 22, 2014 | 7:16 PM

My son is a senior in high school this year.

My firstborn.

My 6'1" hairy, gangly, broad-shouldered baby.

Last week, my son and I did what many have done before us: We visited a college campus. We spent the night in a hotel, took a tour the next day, spoke...

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Of Mothers and Sons (and Daughters and Stepdaughters)

(0) Comments | Posted May 13, 2014 | 1:09 PM

I write a lot about my daughter in these pages. Partly because our relationship is teenage girl-mother complicated. And like our hormones, her adolescent ones and my peri-menopausal ones, the relationship is strong but volatile.


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Last year, for Mother's Day, I...

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Gradually Growing Up

(0) Comments | Posted February 3, 2014 | 10:39 AM

Kids growing up: It's a gradual process.

First, they start going down to the playground at the end of the street. By themselves.

And walking the mile home from school. Alone.

Then, yes, we leave them in the house by themselves while we run to the grocery store, thinking, I...

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A Thank You to Kid Cudi, My New Friend

(1) Comments | Posted November 14, 2013 | 5:05 PM

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I knew this week was going to be a crazy one.

I'm working on a new project or two. The first quarter of school is coming to a close for my kids.

And I was driving down to Miami with my...

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I'm Not Fat But My Clothes Are Tight

(1) Comments | Posted July 22, 2013 | 12:35 PM

I'm fat.

OK, so I'm not fat, but I'm heavier now, by almost 10 pounds, than I was a year ago. And I liked my weight a year ago. Really liked it.

But now my clothes are tight.

And I know what has happened.

I can't blame the gain on...

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Talking to My Teen Daughter Without Words

(4) Comments | Posted June 3, 2013 | 7:28 PM

I went to my daughter's eighth grade awards ceremony this morning. I was really proud that she was getting an award for maintaining a 3.5 GPA for the last three years.

I almost didn't go because she usually doesn't want me to go to these kinds of things, but she...

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Walking The Parenting Tightrope

(3) Comments | Posted April 5, 2013 | 5:12 PM

I'm the parent of a teenage girl.

And I'm walking the parenting tightrope, doing the biggest balancing act of my life.

(I don't think that I could have done anything to prepare for this. Even being the parent of a 16-year-old boy hasn't helped.)

If I lean a little too...

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The Divorce Decision

(66) Comments | Posted February 12, 2013 | 12:50 PM

My 18th wedding anniversary is in a few months. Well, it would be my 18th if I hadn't gotten divorced.

Instead, 11 years ago, around this time, I was in the painful realm of trying to figure out if I wanted to stay married to my husband, the father of...

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Ovarian Cancer Sucks. That's All.

(1) Comments | Posted October 22, 2012 | 9:52 AM

I'm afraid of ovarian cancer.

The non-specific symptoms. The sometimes too-lengthy diagnosis time.

The fact that it's called the silent killer.

I've known people who have battled it with all of their being and not succeeded. Good women. Mothers, daughters, sisters and friends who died too young.

Debra Kogan Lyda...

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Wishing My Kids Were Little (Temporarily)

(0) Comments | Posted October 12, 2012 | 8:20 PM

We got to the field for my daughter's flag football practice a little early the other night and she wasn't ready to get out of the car. So I parked and we sat there together and listened to One Direction on my iPhone.

A few minutes before the practice was...

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Parenting an Almost-Teenager

(3) Comments | Posted January 24, 2012 | 10:50 AM

Being a parent is hard.

Being a parent of a 12-1/2-year-old girl is even harder.

My relationship with my daughter these days has a lot of ups and downs in it, more so than with anyone else in my life: her almost-15-year-old brother, my husband, my mother. Even my ex-husband.

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The Most Lamentable Part of Divorce

(41) Comments | Posted October 14, 2011 | 12:15 PM

There's a lot to lament about divorce and that lamenting lasts long after the papers are signed. First, there's dealing with the immediate failure of your marriage. The feelings of hurt, loss, anger and confusion. The financial details and the logistics of living arrangements.

And if you have young...

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6 Tips for Helping Your High Schooler Succeed

(0) Comments | Posted September 27, 2011 | 12:53 PM

My son started high school last month. Which is weird for me because it seems like just yesterday, he was going to kindergarten. The transition to high school, with it's early morning wake-ups and increased amounts of homework, has been pretty smooth. And I think that he, and I, have...

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A Decade I'll Never Forget

(1) Comments | Posted September 12, 2011 | 1:38 PM

I don't get bent out of shape too often. At the age of 45, having been married, divorced, and re-married, with two teenagers and a pre-teen, not much phases me. Clog the low-flow toilet again, kid? Get the plunger and fix it. Don't like what's being made for dinner? Make...

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Can I Go to High School With My Kid?

(11) Comments | Posted September 8, 2011 | 10:33 AM

My son started high school this week. And he's acting like he hasn't got a care in the world, cool as the six jars of homemade jalapeno sauce curing in our refrigerator for 21 days.

Too bad I can't say the same about myself. The past couple of days, I've...

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