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Jess Carbino
Jess Carbino has always been interested in answering the eternal question of what do men and women want. As a PhD. candidate in sociology at UCLA, she has been fortunate to combine her work and passion through her research on online dating and relationships. Her research broadly focuses on sex, dating (online and offline) and relationships. In Jess’ dissertation, she analyzes what qualities individuals find most attractive in romantic partners using data from online dating sites and focus groups.

One of Jess’ major passions is sharing information about sex and dating with the public. Jess produces and hosts a weekly radio show on UCLA Radio called "Hook up With Dr. Jess" that delves into dating, sex and relationships from a fun and scientific perspective. The show is divided into segments beginning with dating news stories of the week, Hollywood report, feature stories, expert interviews, dating advice of the week and a crazy first date story. Experts include therapists, attorneys, physicians, dating coaches and authors.

Jess wants her research on dating to influence the online dating industry and works with the online dating site Three Day Rule to accomplish this goal. Through her work as Three Day Rule’s Sociologist, Jess has a firm understanding of how technology influences the meeting and mating process. Jess also heads up Three Day Rule’s date coaching service and is always ready to give advice.

Jess is a native of Philadelphia, Pennsylvania and attended Emory University. After attending Emory, Jess worked in politics on Capitol Hill. Jess has been quoted in multiple major news outlets, including The New Yorker, TIME, and New York Magazine.

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Entries by Jess Carbino

Attractive but Vapid: Swipe Left on New Online Dating Study

(1) Comments | Posted September 29, 2014 | 3:54 AM

A study out this week by a Michigan State University researcher claims that couples who met via online dating sites are three times more likely to divorce than couples who met offline. While a sexy finding, the methodology of the study is deeply flawed.


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Fugitive from the Online Dating Site

(0) Comments | Posted June 9, 2014 | 1:00 PM

Click here to watch the TEDTalk that inspired this post.

Finding the love of our lives is not simple. US Marshals arguably have greater success tracking down fugitives than some singles have finding a romantic partner online. Amy Webb, however, may be the Wyatt Earp of...

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The Prom Draft Experiment: Corona del Mar's Draft

(0) Comments | Posted May 15, 2014 | 5:19 PM

While sports bleed into daily life, most individuals do not take their love of the game as seriously as the students at Corona del Mar High School. To attain the best prom date possible, 40 male students instituted a draft to select their prom dates. Although many do and should...

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The Mommy Penalty on Online Dating Sites

(0) Comments | Posted May 13, 2014 | 3:14 PM

The mommy penalty is most often associated with the economic disadvantages women with children face in the labor market. Women with children receive lower pay and fewer promotions than their male counterparts with and without children. Recent data released by the dating site AYI indicate that the mommy...

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Elizabeth Raine and Belle Knox: Why Sex Work Is Not the New Suffrage?

(0) Comments | Posted May 12, 2014 | 9:23 PM

The oldest profession in the world is alive and well. Although most sex workers historically have not had a public voice, the voice representing sex workers today may be questionable at best. Young, educated women engaged in sex work, such as Duke porn star Belle Knox, recently have found a...

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Top 10 Most and Least Open-Minded Cities for Finding Love

(0) Comments | Posted May 6, 2014 | 11:14 AM

Many of us have a type. While tall, dark and handsome may be most popularly represented in media, other characteristics, such as religion and marital status, may enter in to the ideal partner calculus as well. Depending on the city you live in, you may be more likely to date...

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Equal Pay for Equal Work: A Response to Phyllis Schlafly

(17) Comments | Posted April 17, 2014 | 4:46 PM

While not necessarily carried out in practice, equal pay for equal work has been law in the United States since the 1960s. Phyllis Schlafly, a major opponent of the Equal Rights Amendment during the 1970s and the founder of the "pro-family" organization, the Eagle Forum, suggested in her recent

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Top 10 Political Sex Scandals

(0) Comments | Posted April 9, 2014 | 6:09 PM

The predominance of social media in daily life limits the privacy of high-profile politicians, including their ability to engage in extramarital affairs. U.S. Rep. Vance McAllister (R-La.) is the most recent politician to find himself under fire for an extramarital affair. The Ouachita Citizen, a newspaper in Monroe, La., released...

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It's Good Business: OkCupid's Decision to Block Mozilla Firefox

(10) Comments | Posted April 1, 2014 | 10:28 AM

Finding a relationship, albeit loosely defined for some, is the objective of most online daters. While the advertising of most mainstream online dating sites primarily highlights heterosexual couples, gay individuals are also given the opportunity to find love via the mainstream sites or their affiliates. Given the politically charged issue...

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Defining the Breakup and Consciously Uncoupling: Paltrow and Martin

(1) Comments | Posted March 27, 2014 | 1:10 PM

Breakups are not an uncommon occurrence in Hollywood. Every day TMZ and similar entertainment news outlets report on the latest failed Hollywood relationship. Given the pressures associated with being in the spotlight, being an old, married Hollywood couple is a coveted status for those entertainers fortunate enough to stay together...

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Tuned In And Turned Off

(0) Comments | Posted March 26, 2014 | 11:07 AM

Technology's reach extends across multiple areas of daily life, including intimate relationships. While technological advances, such as online dating, are responsible for creating many relationships, technology does not necessarily impact all relationships positively. According to a recent study by the Pew Research Center's Internet and American Life Project,...

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Hunting for a Husband: Does the Princeton Mother Know Best?

(2) Comments | Posted March 18, 2014 | 5:37 PM

The college woman's to-do list: take interesting classes, make great friends, study abroad in an interesting locale and find a husband. While the first three goals seem standard for young women attending college, the final goal is the most critical to Susan Patton, a.k.a. the Princeton Mom. Last spring, Patton's...

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The Irrational Choice: Online Dating Photos and The Cheerleader Effect

(0) Comments | Posted March 11, 2014 | 7:41 PM

Creating an online dating profile is a daunting task for even the savviest daters. Although words certainly matter, profile pictures are the most critical element in determining whether or not an individual receives an online dating message. Nevertheless, the do's and don'ts of selecting a profile picture may...

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Women Did Not Burn Their Bras to Take Them Off: A Response to the Duke University Porn Star

(3) Comments | Posted February 26, 2014 | 6:02 PM

As a sociologist who studies sex, I found recent reports regarding the Duke University freshman, Lauren A., who was outed as a porn star, to be troubling. Lauren is a young woman trying to complete her education at an elite university and undoubtedly did not want her extracurricular activities to...

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Mover's Remorse: Cohabitation on Valentine's Day

(0) Comments | Posted February 14, 2014 | 12:04 PM

We often think about what to give our significant other on Valentine's Day, but we do not necessarily think about the nature of our relationships. For cohabitors, considering the nature of one's relationship may be particularly critical. Apartment List recently found three surprising stats about cohabitors after...

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How to Not Propose

(0) Comments | Posted February 14, 2014 | 10:26 AM

While many individuals are now sharing the most intimate aspects of their lives online, most would prefer their most embarrassing or painful moments be private. With the rise of viral videos, however, your once private moments may no longer be so private. Although many of us cheer at the wonderful...

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Great Expectations for Valentine's Day

(0) Comments | Posted February 13, 2014 | 1:19 PM

Great Expectations. No, it's not a Dickens novel. It's Valentine's Day. Valentine's Day is filled with expectations of romance and special experiences. While many often assume that Valentine's Day is not as important for men, men too hold expectations regarding Valentine's Day. According to the online dating site

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Technology: Friend or Foe for Your Dating Life

(1) Comments | Posted February 11, 2014 | 5:13 PM

While most of the conversation about technology and relationships focuses on online dating, a recent study by The Pew Research Center on Internet & American Life Project indicates that technology affects coupled individuals as well. According to the study of 2,252 adults in relationships (married, cohabiting or committed...

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For Love of the Game?

(0) Comments | Posted February 4, 2014 | 5:36 PM

Are you ready for some... online dating? While the final word of this phrase may normally be football, there may be a larger connection between the outcome of a football game and online dating activity than one might normally imagine. According to data from the online dating app Zoosk, online...

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Online Dating in the Time of the Polar Vortex

(0) Comments | Posted January 28, 2014 | 12:00 PM

Baby, it's cold outside. The polar vortex may have consequences that are more than environmental. While we always have known that weather affects behavior, Zoosk's recent study indicates that neither rain nor sleet nor snow can prevent individuals from finding love! Online dating activities may vary, however, according...

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