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How To Date A Successful Woman: A Response To 'How To Date A Wall Street Man'

Posted: 02/10/2012 10:02 am

Samantha Daniels has spent 12 years as a professional matchmaker and works with men in the financial industry in New York City. In her CNBC piece, "How To Date A Wall Street Man," published earlier this week, she informed women hoping to snag these successful men that if they studied their target and adjusted their behavior accordingly, they, too, could land a wealthy banker. Her advice included telling only short stories so he can digest them; be flirty, but not too flirty; and, above all "be confident and avoid being a pushover but, at the same time, you shouldn't be difficult. You need to be accommodating of his schedule and time constraints or he will get frustrated and find another woman."

Jezebel took issue with the unflattering picture Daniels' list painted of both women and men, but it's also just hard to understand why the Wall Street man is the ideal catch -- I mean, haven't they as a group engaged in some seriously suspect behavior over the last few years? Given that women under 30 now out-earn their male peers in some cities, it seems like there's less incentive than ever to land a Wall Street guy. A more useful guide would help the Finance Men catch -- and, if he's lucky, keep -- a smart, interesting, successful woman.

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drummer 40
09:26 PM on 02/19/2012
LOL @ the part of the intro that questions why women would want to date men who engage in the criminal and unethical behavior that has contributed to the abysmal state of the nation. Chicks dig creeps who take what they want, and don't let them convince you otherwise.
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JackieSmith890
01:15 AM on 02/20/2012
as if you have any clue what chicks dig.

men dig running their mouths online, especially in the women's section of websites, where they aren't wanted. talk about abysmal state of the nation.
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drummer 40
02:45 AM on 02/20/2012
Actually, I do. I've dated dozens of women and I know what they liked and didn't like. How many have you dated?

And these stories pop up on the main page. I didn't seek out the "women's section" of the site. You sound like a 9 year old boy with a tree house bearing a sign "No girls allowed." Abysmal, yes.
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11:38 AM on 02/13/2012
Successful women and successful wall street men are completely different. The average age for a typical co-op in the upper east side is 27 years old. The average income $600k annually. There are statistically NO women in this category.
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JackieSmith890
01:16 AM on 02/20/2012
not really. men aren't making that type of money anymore, after the males the run wall street basically bankrupted the world.

you have no clue what type of money women are making. now back to call of duty!
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EdCorey1971
08:03 AM on 02/13/2012
The title of the article is: How To Date A Successful Woman: A Response To 'How To Date A Wall Street Man'

The difference between dating dating a wall street man and a wall street women is this...Many women seek out successful men for the "material things" they can offer, while most men are quite the opposite. In general men don't care what women have as much as they care about their looks and personality. Just look at all the older, (much older), rich guys dating women that could be their daughters. We can dance around it if we like, but we know it's all about money; what he can provide for her materially.

If someone wrote an article on "How To Date Rich Older Guys", and as a response to it I wrote 'How To Date Rich Older Gals", I would have a difficult time finding research material on the subject matter because I doesn't happen often enough to do a fair comparison.
11:59 PM on 02/12/2012
how about a man can date with a wall street woman,
will a wall street woman like to share spend time with a man, pay him at movie / nice restaurant,
09:00 PM on 02/12/2012
I like huffpo's counter to the original article since I know successful women who would never put up with "wall street man" behavior. It made me feel better since I'm an educated woman and don't want to be dumbed down for a rich guy. I make way more than enough and wouldn't treat anyone like crap just because I have a good job. The same should be for guys.

On the other hand, I think the original article was for women, who are unfortunately the majority. These ladies don't have an education, a good job, any skills they can use, or in a culture where they can't move up socially. (Some are just lazy though and get by with their looks...) The only way to not be in poverty or have nice things is to find a rich guy. And lots of men love the pretty, dumb girls.
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03:05 PM on 02/12/2012
How to attract a Wall Street guy? A better book would be how to attract a man with character......

Too often, grown women place too much emphasis on superficial characteristics of a man, and we wonder why our marriages are down the drain?
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JackieSmith890
01:18 AM on 02/20/2012
huh? what?

women place emphasis on superficial characteristics, and that's why marriages are DOWN THE DRAIN?

as if males don't care about looks. as if males don't cheat. as if males aren't abusing and causing the breakdown of marriages.

oh good lord. the lengths that people will go to blame women for everything, and leave men scot-free. marriage is a failed institution because it isn't necessary anymore. 100 years ago, women had no access to divorce, employment, education, etc. we had to put up with male crap. we don't anymore. that's what's changed, and it's changed for the better.
01:08 PM on 02/12/2012
ohhh yeah. successful women have it really hard... *eye roll*
10:14 AM on 02/12/2012
that was funny especially Daniels advice lol
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WilliamL
09:38 AM on 02/12/2012
Consider determining what kind of person she is-does she have any degree of empathy for others, does she treat others decent, does she have a life beyond her career and income-look beyond "success" indicators. There are plenty of "successful" people in the world who prove what sorry excuses for human beings. Take a look at her/him without their income and career. What are they really about ?
01:32 PM on 02/11/2012
Wow, this was some article. It really helps me to appreciate what it says there at Luke 12:15, it warns to guard aganist covetousness. The valid point is "even when a person has an abundance this life does not result from the things he possesses". Some good teaching tools are the many people who are "successful" but lack integrity,honesty and loyalty. This is something to think about when getting into any relationship and as the old saying goes "you can't take it with you"
abhorson
Si Si Chiquita. There's a woman worth her ransom
02:48 AM on 02/11/2012
couldn't see the fun in it until the "expensive purse" and "high-end call girl" quip ... that, I (finally) recognized as valid ...

and the part about the assistant scheduling dates... oh, so true... but it's not personal, she'll schedule the family baptisms also ... she'll also answer emails in "his" name ... might even tell you what a wonderful time "I've had"... my advice, "be good friends with the assistant" ...

so, why would a man want to date a "successful" woman again ??
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texastrixie
I invented the internet.
11:57 AM on 02/12/2012
The same reason a man dates any woman - he likes her and she interests him (and vice versa). Remember guys, its only money, not a cure for cancer.
12:08 AM on 02/13/2012
yes right on,
remember woman is only like to smell a man things and not real LOVE a man,
woman is a fake lover, lift up face, too much thick makeup chair, implant boobies, spending tooo much foolish around at shopping store from a man pocket
abhorson
Si Si Chiquita. There's a woman worth her ransom
06:31 AM on 02/14/2012
funny.... so, I am going to be interested in a woman because how much money she makes??? maybe.. if it's a choice between that and a nail gun pointing at my forehead...
12:55 AM on 02/11/2012
It will be interesting to watch this as the prospective father of the bride. My first 2 daughters are married. I have a girl who will be going to college next year at 15, heading either for advanced engineering or an engineering/medicine program. She clearly will be very successful, but is quite an introvert. It will be interesting to watch her go through the process. She has already figured out that she may need to go the house husband route.
abhorson
Si Si Chiquita. There's a woman worth her ransom
02:49 AM on 02/11/2012
if she's a doc she'll marry another doc ...
11:28 AM on 02/11/2012
That's what parents did, and it's quite common.
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Dave Ryan MD
Surgeon. Husband. Father. Democrat.
07:50 PM on 02/12/2012
Then they'll breed little docs together. In my wife's case, if you look back five generations, there was a doc there as well. So far, we've got one doc kid, but we're not through yet.
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JackieSmith890
06:49 PM on 02/11/2012
why do people act like getting married is an inevitable thing, like dying?

tell your engineer daughter she doesn't ever have to get married, she'll be more successful because of it. she's not going to find a "house husband" anytime soon, american males have far too big egos for that. it's just going to hold her back, who knows what she can accomplish if she's allowed to really use her talents instead of wasting time taking care of some unemployed load who plays video games all day?
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drummer 40
09:31 PM on 02/19/2012
LOL - I would have been tarred and feathered for suggesting the last woman I lived with who didn't want to work was just an unemployed load (although eventually I broke up with her and sent her home to daddy). It's perfectly OK when women just want to stay home, isn't it? Love the double standard.
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Callyson
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11:12 PM on 02/10/2012
Jessica--love your reply! Wishing you lots of success and love...
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jf12
Occupying myself
05:12 PM on 02/10/2012
1. be good looking
2. make sure she sees other girls with you
3. treat her poorly
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JackieSmith890
11:06 PM on 02/10/2012
this is about dating women, dear.

1. i'm sure you don't look like a young brad pitt
2. that's why there aren't any girls around you
3. no woman will stay around you long enough for you to treat them any way at all
abhorson
Si Si Chiquita. There's a woman worth her ransom
02:53 AM on 02/11/2012
he WAS talking about dating women... rich types...
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nix28
Embracing honesty and its ugly step-sister, truth.
01:58 AM on 02/11/2012
1. Don't be pitiful.
2. Don't wallow in that self-pity.
3. Don't broadcast that you wallow in self-pity in a pathetic attempt to get attention and sympathy.
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jf12
Occupying myself
12:59 PM on 02/11/2012
That would get me a date with a successful woman?
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The Corporate Champion
Conservative, because someone's got to do the work
04:41 PM on 02/10/2012
Samantha Daniels seems like my kind of a woman. It's refreshing to see a woman who actually knows what's going on in mens' lives rather than make up some poor excuses on why both sexes are dissatisfied with each other.
11:21 PM on 02/10/2012
I need to work all these theories and see if they will translate into what Iam looking for.
01:36 PM on 02/11/2012
Nothing regarding sex or love happens when you're "looking for it". It something that happens when you're involved in other things. I spent 20 years going to singles bars, night clubs, dating parties, etc and never found a meaningful relationship. But when I volunteered at a homeless shelter, I met another volunteer who became a close friend, then a soul mate, then a loving partner in life. I never asked for anything, just gave all i could and got back 10 times more.
abhorson
Si Si Chiquita. There's a woman worth her ransom
02:55 AM on 02/11/2012
neah... she's not playing fair ... she understands the gig and is teaching women the right tricks... that kind of woman WORRIES ME !!