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Jill Brooke
Jill Brooke is the author of "The Need to Say No: How to be Bullish and Not Bullied" and a columnist for Westchester Magazine. She is also a stepfamily coach, the playwright of "What's Eating You?" and a writer for, a site that helps women contemplating, navigating or moving on from divorce heal through self-love, smarts and humor. She has been a contributor to CBS" The Early Show and a former on-air CNN correspondent. Her work has appeared in the New York Times, Forbes FYI, Chicago Tribune, Harper's Bazaar and New York magazine. She has also been the editor in chief of Avenue and Travel Savvy magazines and written columns for AdWeek, Metropolitan Home as well as such rivals as the New York Post and The New York Daily News while miraculously keeping on good terms with both papers. Her skill in diplomacy is why she is an expert on divorce, as well as living with her son and two stepdaughters in a loving stepfamily for over a decade. Her website is

Entries by Jill Brooke

Till Divorce Do Us Part

(1) Comments | Posted March 14, 2014 | 3:20 PM

As any divorcee knows, success is the best revenge.

After her husband Tony dumped her for a younger woman after 34 years of marriage, Ruthe Ponturo poured her angst and need for Spanx into writing the musical, "Till Divorce Do Us Part," now playing in New York City's DR2 theater...

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Older and Fabulous -- It's Not a Fantasy Hollywood Script

(0) Comments | Posted March 5, 2014 | 1:40 PM

Frozen was a victory for Disney at the Oscars, but certainly not for Goldie Hawn or Kim Novak. The blogosphere erupted with icy cold commentary on why these two women hadn't aged gracefully, and instead allowed themselves to be nipped, tucked and botoxed into cartoonish like characters.

I think...

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How Great Is Ronan Farrow?

(17) Comments | Posted January 18, 2014 | 10:35 AM

Some at NBC are worrying that Ronan Farrow may not be their golden boy and too much of a loose cannon.

After all, he disrupted the carefully scripted Woody Allen tribute at the Golden Globes by turning the axis of Diane Keaton's gushing spin and forcing...

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Are There Some Bullies We Like and Is Chris Christie One of Them?

(1) Comments | Posted January 13, 2014 | 6:59 AM

Can we admit that there are some type of bully-ish people that we secretly root for?

Clearly, the term bully is so loaded today that anyone -- whether a politician, business executive or self-important school mom -- will now instinctively steer away from being branded that label....

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Is Nigella Lawson Getting a Raw Deal?

(4) Comments | Posted December 18, 2013 | 9:36 AM

This post has been updated to account for the verdict handed down.

When culinary darling Nigella Lawson accused her ex-husband of "bullying her with lies," it had the whiff of familiarity to anyone who has been torched by a painful divorce. How many of you have felt the shock of...

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Samantha Perelman Should Say No to a Bully -- Even If It's Her Father

(0) Comments | Posted November 15, 2013 | 3:50 PM

I want to know how Samantha Perelman sleeps at night.

Does she toss and turn and feel a tad guilty that she allowed her billionaire father to unleash an epic frivolous battle against her dead mother's family? After all, in society columnist Claudia Cohen's will, she specifically...

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Know BS: Say No to Adult Bullies

(38) Comments | Posted November 4, 2013 | 12:44 PM

Sometimes with trending stories like bullying, it looks as though all the news reports are a continuous story drawn with one brush stroke. In fact, it's more like a Seurat painting. Only when you look up close do you realize that the dots aren't connected but individual points on a...

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Nora Ephron Taught Us How to Live and Die

(89) Comments | Posted December 29, 2012 | 9:01 PM

In reflecting on all the people who passed away this year, I am thinking of Nora Ephron and how this witty, wise and loving woman taught us not only how to live but also how to die.

I last saw Nora Ephron earlier this year at the memorial for best-selling...

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Fifty Shades of Grey Paints Divorce In Truthful Tones

(8) Comments | Posted August 10, 2012 | 1:01 PM

Think Fifty Shades of Grey's Anastasia Steele is an innocent? "Laters baby," as Christian Grey would say. Since her character is a child of divorce, her innocence would have been stripped long before meeting the bondage loving billionaire. Yet the pain of her mother's divorces taught her skills that helped...

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Is Lust Ever Worth Breaking Up Your Marriage?

(407) Comments | Posted July 24, 2012 | 2:45 AM

"Regrets. I've had a few," Frank Sinatra crooned in his famous song. But how often do people regret their divorces?

Even thrice-married Donald Trump once revealed to a former employee that he wished he didn't detonate his 15-year marriage to Ivana Trump by having an affair with...

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What All Single Divorced Mothers Can Learn From Barack Obama's Mom

(129) Comments | Posted May 8, 2011 | 12:40 PM

For any single divorced mother hoping that her child will succeed despite the drawbacks of having to carve out a career while organizing grocery shopping, school work, penny pinching and getting enough sleep to combat exhaustion, may I present President Barack Obama as the poster boy for possibility.

After all,...

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The Moment I Knew

(2) Comments | Posted April 6, 2011 | 8:38 PM

One night I was sick with the flu....I used to joke that I had the curse of competency in that I required very little and was happy to be a full time cheerleader, chef, social director and career girl who also brought home some bacon too.. But this night, coughing...

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Did Feminism Cause Divorce?

(114) Comments | Posted March 17, 2011 | 11:58 AM

In her latest book, A Strange Stirring, historian Stephanie Coontz rewinds the tape to the 1960s, when Betty Friedan wrote The Feminine Mystique, and points her historical lens on this book, which many believed sparked the feminist movement which in turn caused divorce rates to spike. Did Betty...

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AshleyMadison's CEO Thinks Affairs Help Keep Marriages Together--Do You?

(360) Comments | Posted February 25, 2011 | 10:21 AM

Do affairs lead to divorce? Noel Biderman, the CEO of, the web's premier site for wannabe adulterers, doesn't think so. With 8.5 million users and paying customers in over 10 countries including the U.S., Canada, Australia, England, Germany, Switzerland, Austria, Ireland, New Zealand and Sweden, Biderman (a former sports...

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The Biggest Mistake Women Make With Alimony

(303) Comments | Posted February 4, 2011 | 9:17 AM

It kind of boggles the mind that Camille Grammer, the soon to be ex-wife of Kelsey Grammer--the prolific and talented actor in such hits as Cheers and Frasier--can wave her manicured hand dismissively at a reported $40 million payout and say she wants more for the 14 years she was...

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Raoul Felder: Divorce Lawyer Weighs In On Celeb Splits, Divorce News Of The Day

(295) Comments | Posted January 21, 2011 | 10:32 AM

Raoul Felder has been called the "Duke of Divorce," and with good reason--he's known for duking it out in court for his clients. After 30 years as America's most famous divorce lawyer, representing such clients as Mayor Rudy Giuliani, Peter Cook, the wives of Patrick Ewing and writer Tom Clancy,...

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Who Gets The Pet In A Divorce?

(67) Comments | Posted January 10, 2011 | 2:47 AM

It is no secret that divorces can derail into a real dog fight. But nowadays it's more likely that Fluffy or Rover could be part of a custody battle. "No way," you may laugh, thinking your ex is barking up the wrong tree? Well think again.

According to the...

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A Decade of Crimes of Passion

(31) Comments | Posted December 31, 2010 | 11:23 AM

You are not alone in thinking that divorce is a bizarre experience that can stir all sorts of passions--and lead to crimes (this one being the latest). For over a decade, I've researched the bizarre ways in which people push the limits of the law (and sometimes even...

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Isn't Love Complicated? A Look At The Jilted, The Jilting and The Jolted Public

(15) Comments | Posted December 24, 2010 | 10:18 AM

Two families have been attacked and we have witnessed the crime scene.

Except it wasn't discussed as a crime in the New York Times but instead as a celebration of "love conquers all and forget the kids."

Last week, the New York Times 'Vows' section published the wedding...

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If You Were More Religious, Would You Have Stayed Married?

(126) Comments | Posted December 17, 2010 | 9:40 AM

With marriages feeling as disposable as Bic pens, one starts to wonder what keeps people together permanently so that "till death do us part" becomes more of a reality and not an unrealistic dream. This was a conversation that took place with a group of my girlfriends gathered together for...

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