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Jill Di Donato
Jill Di Donato holds an MFA from Columbia University, where she's also taught writing. Her debut novel Beautiful Garbage, published by She Writes Press, is available on Amazon. Currently, she is an adjunct professor of English at the Fashion Institute of Technology and teaches at Barnard College. Di Donato has appeared as a relationship expert and women's advocate on several radio and TV programs and is at work on a nonfiction book to inspire and empower girls and women. You can visit her website at and follow her on Instagram at @jddoe.

Entries by Jill Di Donato

Why You Should Stop Using The Word 'Slut' As An Insult: The Story of Emily Lindin's UnSlut Project

(0) Comments | Posted February 20, 2015 | 2:40 PM

Have you ever done something so mundane as gettiing dressed and asking a girlfriend, "Does this make me look like a slut?"

When I was in eighth grade, my father caught me looking at myself in the mirror as I was preening for a bat mitzvah. He told me...

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A Residency of One's Own

(1) Comments | Posted January 20, 2015 | 11:36 AM

You want to be a writer? Glue your ass in that chair and write. Simple, sound advice that's easier said than done. Most writers I know are consumed with pitching projects, getting rejected, getting accepted, getting edited, teaching a class (or five), working at a bookstore, as a barista, as...

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More Than Manis: A Unisex Guide to Winter Nail Care

(0) Comments | Posted December 17, 2014 | 6:06 PM

When it comes to nail care, ladies aren't the only ones who need to keep good cuticle. Guys, you know you dig on a no-polish manicure, and who doesn't like a foot rub? While the nail art and glitter polish trends may be reserved for the ladies and glam-driven dudes,...

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Mulheres notáveis sobre essa coisa chamada feminismo

(0) Comments | Posted December 2, 2014 | 10:43 AM

As pessoas complicam demais as mensagens. Há muitas razões para isso, e elas não costumam ser bem-intencionadas. Feminismo virou a palavra du jour. Mas qual é sua mensagem? Quais são seus objetivos? Por que causa tanta divisão? Vou tentar ser bem direta. E depois compartilhar alguns pensamentos sobre as questões...

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Notable Women On This Thing Called Feminism

(0) Comments | Posted November 21, 2014 | 8:51 AM

People like to overcomplicate messages.There are several reasons for this, and these reasons are not usually well-intentioned. Feminism has become the word du jour. But what's its message? Its goals? Why is it so divisive? I'll try to keep it simple. And then share some thoughts on some of feminism's...

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The Danger of Branding 'Female Empowerment'

(7) Comments | Posted November 2, 2014 | 10:28 AM

You might think now that the Twitter generation is abuzz with feminist discourse, expressing support with hashtags like #YesAllWomen, #SorryNotSorry and #FeminstsAreUgly, that this is a coup for the movement. But there's an implicit danger in marketing feminism, even if amidst its salacious, accessible appeal to the masses it has...

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Shut Up About Women's Bodies

(2) Comments | Posted September 4, 2014 | 5:39 PM

Is it ever OK to tell a woman she's gained weight? In short, no. There are many reasons I can give, citing everything from limiting and reductive theories that equate women to nature and man to culture or the legacy of Wallis Simpson's adage, "You can...

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From Clubs to Catwalk: Q&A With the Downtown Design Duo of Franziska Fox

(0) Comments | Posted August 13, 2014 | 5:08 PM

Julia Fox and Briana Andalore, the duo behind an emerging ready-to-wear body-con luxe line, Franziska Fox, seen this summer on Iggy Azalea, Rumer Willis, Robin Wright, and the penultimate party gal, Lindsay Lohan are white hot this summer as the...

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The Place Behind the Pines: "The Killing" Ends in Light

(2) Comments | Posted August 2, 2014 | 6:23 PM

"Detectives Sarah Linden and Stephen Holder are deeply affected by the murders they investigate in this dark, acclaimed series," or so says Netflix, in its description of the show it acquired from AMC. Season Four premiered August 1, 2014 on Netflix and Linden and Holder continue to be "deeply affected,"...

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Girls Run the World By Writing It

(1) Comments | Posted May 28, 2014 | 2:05 PM

Do not ignore me. That's every writer's impetus, right? What about the woman writer? Is her push to be heard, to say "I," to demand that others listen, to infiltrate the inner recesses of a person's mind with her claims, is that authorial drive different because she's a woman?

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Deconstructing the Poetry Goddess

(0) Comments | Posted May 5, 2014 | 3:03 PM

The notion of the poetry goddess is as far-reaching as it (she?) is elusive, coy, erudite, and sensual. So much of this construction depends on usage and context -- as is de rigueur for many things we associate with femininity. The poetry goddess can be both empowering and marginalizing to...

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The Shame Spiral

(7) Comments | Posted April 21, 2014 | 10:22 AM

Let me tell you a story of two women. One woman had a bad day: She messed up a presentation at work; didn't get an award she was up for; went out and drank too much, ate even more, called her toxic ex and cried on the phone until he...

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Grief in the Time of Facebook

(1) Comments | Posted March 4, 2014 | 4:36 PM

This question is a cliché, still, it bears repeating: What is the opposite of losing? I come back to this question each time I feel the aching, gnawing, debilitating, infuriating, paralyzing, outer-body experience of grief.

When someone is suddenly gone and you remain, it is like you are living...

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What I Know About Being Single Now That I'm In My 30s

(25) Comments | Posted February 11, 2014 | 7:15 AM

I had my first love affair when I was in the fifth grade.

I think my 11-year-old paramour may have been the first guy to tell me, "I love you." On Valentine's Day, he gave me a red rose and a hot pink pencil with a heart-shaped eraser. He...

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You've Found Someone: Now What? Relationship Management for Busy New Yorkers

(0) Comments | Posted February 10, 2014 | 9:21 AM

Couples Consolidated CEO and founder, Brenndon Knox knows a thing or two about dating in New York. "Every day there are new ways to meet someone -- from Tinder to HowAboutWe -- but who is there to keep your little black book in order?" Enter Knox's New York dating concierge...

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7 Tips to Help You Get Your Flirt On

(2) Comments | Posted January 12, 2014 | 12:03 PM

If we could all walk into a party and booty wave like Beyonce, working the room at a holiday party would be NBD. And although we might not all look, sound, or dance like her, we can all take a cue from Queen Bey's self-confidence. The key to...

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Writing About My Sex Life Might Be Ruining My Chances of Happiness (But I'm Not Going to Stop)

(3) Comments | Posted December 30, 2013 | 11:14 AM

People are always telling me their secrets. But who is here to listen to mine? I’ve toiled over this essay, the last one I write in 2013, as I prepare for the New Year, filled with the notion of clean slates and past reflection. The story was supposed to be...

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What to Do With Holiday Lustovers

(1) Comments | Posted December 15, 2013 | 11:00 AM

We've all woken up with a holiday lustover. You know, after "indulging" your sex drive when all rational and logical thinking tells you otherwise. Navigating the terrain of holiday hook-ups is tricky business. For about a month, all emotional relationships are heightened; I mean, it's the most wonderful time of...

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Why Do Women Bond Over Fat Talk? And Can We Please Stop?

(13) Comments | Posted November 27, 2013 | 2:05 PM

The other night I was surrounded by a group of gracious, intellectual, and supportive girlfriends at KGB, the legendary (to writers, anyway) bar in the East Village. One of us was about to take the mic to read from her upcoming novel that's already garnering buzz. We were giddy, imbibing...

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What Men Want: Thrillist Launches Supercompressor Selling Hi-Tech With Style

(0) Comments | Posted November 22, 2013 | 2:53 PM

Forget Inspector Gadget, today's hi-tech man is a man of style. In a world where your phone says as much about you as your shoes, (I see the birth of a new meme here) geeks are chic and men use technology for everything from dating to finding the latest culinary...

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