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Jim Moret

Posted: May 10, 2010 12:19 PM

Hey Hasselbeck, Leave Victims Alone!

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The first time I ever heard of Erin Andrews, she was the target of a "Peeping Tom" who had stalked and followed the ESPN reporter to the various hotels she traveled to for work. He then secretly spied on her when she was naked and recorded her through a modified peep-hole in her hotel room door and leaked the footage over the internet. I do not follow sports so I was unfamiliar with her career as a sideline reporter but she is quite popular, having been named "America's Sexiest Sportscaster" by Playboy magazine in 2008 and 2009. I gained a great deal of respect for Andrews when she went to Federal Court in March to face her stalker her at his sentencing hearing following a plea bargain. He will serve two and a half years in prison.

I applauded Andrews for moving forward with both her life and her career when she accepted the invitation to compete on Dancing With the Stars. In April, it was revealed that Andrews was the target of approximately a dozen recent death threats sent in emails through a sports talk show which are now under investigation by the FBI. Last week, Erin was attacked again but this time, it was a verbal assault from The View's Elizabeth Hasselbeck, who criticized Andrew's wardrobe choices on the show.

"For the past three weeks she's been wearing like next to nothing," Hasselbeck said of Andrews. "As inexcusable as it was for that guy (the stalker) to go in and try to peep on her in her hotel room, in some way, if I'm him, I'm like, "Man I just could have waited twelve weeks and seen this, a little bit less, without the prison time."

WHAT?

The following day, Hasselbeck offered this tearful apology on her show, which she said was prompted by a discussion the night before with her daughter: "Grace, mommy feels really bad 'cause I hurt somebody ... I am really sorry and I wanted to offer that publicly."

But what are we to make of Hasselbeck's "apology?" She did not retract her statement. She did not admit that what she said was wrong. She simply cried and said she was sorry for hurting Erin Andrews' feelings. I thought to myself, "That's not really an apology at all."

Let's look at this logically. Dancing With the Stars is a family show on ABC. The outfits Andrews wears each week (reportedly designed with input from her dance partner) are no more risqué than those worn by any of the other female celebrities over each of the past nine seasons. In fact, they are tamer than most all of the professional dancers' costumes. In addition, they are completely appropriate in the context of ballroom dancing. Andrews is not wearing those outfits on the football field, she is wearing them on the dance floor. Give me a break.

More importantly, let's not forget that Andrews was the victim of a despicable crime. Is she now supposed to be held to a different standard because she was stalked and videotaped? Is she somehow expected to dress more conservatively simply because she was targeted by a sexual predator? That is ridiculous and, frankly, offensive. Andrews was a victim. But she is not living like one. I have never heard her say, "Oh poor me." Instead, I have seen her act with class and dignity and I think she deserves a lot of credit. To all the Hasselbeck's out there I say, with respect, "Leave Erin Andrews alone."

 
 
 

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The first time I ever heard of Erin Andrews, she was the target of a "Peeping Tom" who had stalked and followed the ESPN reporter to the various hotels she traveled to for work. He then secretly spied...
The first time I ever heard of Erin Andrews, she was the target of a "Peeping Tom" who had stalked and followed the ESPN reporter to the various hotels she traveled to for work. He then secretly spied...
 
 
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MsMassachusetts
Things do not go better with Koch!
11:07 AM on 05/11/2010
Doesn't her husband Tim The Benchwarmer work for ESPN now? He probably said something at home about how attractive Erin is and that set La Liz off.
11:39 PM on 05/10/2010
All the while, Hasselbeck wears mini-mini skirts on the show that go right up to breakfast time when she sits down.
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aznurse
09:02 PM on 05/10/2010
and she said it was her 5 year old daughter had more sense than she did. She probably got that sense from her father.
As usual, her apology was all about her.
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momstudent
08:43 PM on 05/10/2010
Excellent post Jim..HP bring Jim back for more articles..
05:17 PM on 05/10/2010
THANK YOU!!! I couldn't believe Hasselbeck's "apology"- not a word about her being so wrong, and the implications as you so well describe. Rather, evading all that by trying to frame it as "hurting someone's feelings". What an insult. I've felt sorry for all the "piling on" towards Hasselbeck but no longer do after this.
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momcat54
10:47 PM on 05/10/2010
SHe's not a brain trust and follows the Palin line . I;m NOT a fan
04:53 PM on 05/10/2010
It was a typical GOP "apology." She didn't take any personal responsibility for what she said, or why it was wrong.
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08:43 AM on 05/11/2010
fauxpology based on GOPology delivered with grand hypocrisy
03:33 PM on 05/10/2010
The very idea of the View makes my teeth hurt, and the few times I've checked it out, it was as ghastly as I'd imagined. But Ms. Hasselbeck -- discovered as a contestant on Survivor -- continues to reach new lows with her narrow-minded, conservative, intolerant, anti-feminist remarks. For her, it appears to be 1952. I'd say she should be tossed from the show, but mostly, the show should vanish if this is the sort of commentary that's considered worthy conversation.

Andrews has behaved with class thru an ordeal; everyone involved in the View should be ashamed of themselves. As to Hasselbeck, I don't think you'll get a sincere apology: she believes what she said, she's just doing the don't sue me dance.
schatsie
banks are more dangerous than standing armies
08:45 PM on 05/10/2010
I just want Whoopie to ask the H if she condones incest because of course the young girls are asking for it.....
10:18 PM on 05/10/2010
I totally agree that what she said was wrong. I don't watch the view often, but I read what she said, it was uncalled for and out of line.

If they are going to do some tossing from the show, why not toss Joy at the same time to balance the equation and pick two new people. Joy tends to be rude, when there is someone that she doesn't agree with politically. Sure, she acts like it is part of a comedy act.
Whoppi, who I believe leans left, is usually respectful even when she doesn't agree with the guest.
Just my two bits! :-)
03:12 PM on 05/10/2010
the perfect apology contains:

a detailed account of the situation
acknowledgement of the hurt or damage done
taking responsibility for the situation
recognition of your role in the event
a statement of regret
asking for forgiveness
a promise that it won't happen again
a form of restitution whenever possible
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catcancook
Obama/Biden 2012
01:59 PM on 05/10/2010
Yes, Elizabeth needs to go! Barbara Walters needs to step-up and fire this woman. Elizabeth has just crossed the line this time and her comments about Andrews were irresponsible. I am surprised that the crew on "The View" is not more outraged at Elizabeth right now. This is not about Erin's outfits at all. Elizabeth has some issues and one is foot and mouth disease..big time.
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Milash
It says I should edit my micro-bio, so I did.
11:07 AM on 05/11/2010
Unfortunately, she also gets them massive press for these thoughtless diatribes.
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BlackJAC
It's better to be a black king than a white knight
01:50 PM on 05/10/2010
Hasselbeck's apology was nothing more than something that the people in both Legal and Public Relations insisted she do just to shelter their own donkeys from official retaliation. If I were Erin I'd consider THE VIEW to be a no-go zone for as long as Hasselbeck's on it.
12:55 PM on 05/10/2010
First let me say I though EH went way too far. Second, about 3 weeks or so ago there was something here about Erin getting death threats and most posters here dogged that poor woman. Many said it was untrue and all it was was a publicity stunt, so those posters need scolding as well. I will admit the first time Erin came out on stage so scantily dressed I was a little surprised. A stalker is so scary and well, death threats, goes without saying. I know during football season she went nowhere without bodyguards. Oh well, it is her decision to make and I admire her for not letting the whackos scare her into hiding.
12:53 PM on 05/10/2010
Why is that today that most "apologies" are always about how you've reacted, not about what I said is wrong?
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BlackJAC
It's better to be a black king than a white knight
01:13 PM on 05/10/2010
Because people now believe Free Speech to be carte blanche for D-bag antics and to take offense to such antics is dismissed as political correctness.
12:09 AM on 05/11/2010
Because a real apology means feeling sorry on behalf of the person you've wronged, not feeling sorry for yourself once people start backlashing.