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When Can We Stop Working?

Posted: 09/17/10 09:37 AM ET

Stephanie Chen, a writer for CNN, recently published "No Retirement for These Older Folks, Just Work" about the fact that more and more people have to keep working well beyond their 'retirement age.' For some, this is purely a function of economic necessity. For others, it is a choice. The piece included two examples, a 91-year-old postal worker and a 101-year-old legislative employee who are still going strong. If we're to believe the predictions from Washington, DC, everyone is going to be working longer as a function of keeping Social Security solvent.

The examples in Stephanie Chen's article are exceptions that prove the rule that states very few folks would keep working if they really had a choice. This unspoken, unwritten imperative has us looking for some strong justification or reasons why people choose to continue working in later life.

As I approach my 70th birthday, I think about the subject of retirement a lot. Most of my friends are betting that I'll keep going until I drop. I love what I do ... so why not? Nonetheless, there is a lot of social and cultural pressure to stop work and do all the things I didn't do presumably because I was 'working.' One of the more compelling arguments for retirement is to step aside to make room for younger people and fresh ideas. Part of my dilemma (and I suspect that of a lot of people) is that the word 'work' itself occurs with some negative connotations--even when we enjoy what we're doing.

The idea that work is a natural, positive and life-long expression of living well just doesn't register for most of us as a possibility. Why?

I think one reason is that our Industrial Age notions equate work with performing tasks. The same structure of interpretation that created the assembly line still applies for virtually all jobs. Just read any job description. The employment 'contract' is based on payment in exchange for performance of recurring tasks that are, in turn, measured by various forms of objective 'outputs.' The human being is viewed as a function in a mechanical process--like a cog in a machine. Clearly exceptions exist, mostly in roles that are inherently creative and people-intensive (such as management, research, marketing and the arts). Yet there are strong efforts on the part of most corporations even in these areas to objectify, systemize and, at the end of the day, attempt to control this more subjective, less predictable work.

Who would want to be a cog in a machine any longer than necessary? Is it any wonder that so many people, particularly in large bureaucracies, count the hours until quitting time and the years until they can retire?

Fundamental to our contemporary view of work is an attempt to measure and objectify work and our relationship with all that goes with it. Ironically, there are many other ways to view work, regardless of one's job.

As most retirees report, the most shocking aspect of their 'post-working' lives is the absence of relationships. Virtually all of our conversations during our working years are structured in the context of relationships with peers, customers, suppliers, managers and employees. When we stop working, we stop receiving requests from all these people. Unless we are involved in other networks in our communities, there is no external stimulus to generate commitments. Except for family and a few friends, we may very well be alone. It is easy to become isolated and to begin a very unpleasant downward spiral that can be considerably more stressful and depressing than anything we ever experienced at work.

Those who are profoundly satisfied in their work and who are not concerned about retirement at any age may very well define work as a network of relationships through which we express ourselves and accomplish something worthwhile. From this perspective, we find that the distinctions between work and play blur. Work becomes a natural aspect of life. A 'job' is now more of a 'deal' where we make an offer and someone accepts and pays us for what we offer. Today, most employees only offer their willingness to perform pre-defined tasks.

Finally, if we view work as something that we generate from within ourselves and express through various relationships, we might also see that the current unemployment situation in the U.S. could be transformed if we could shift the responsibility for creating jobs from the government and employers to the employee. There are very few business people who will not accept a value-adding proposition when they can see a clear return on their investment. In effect, we'd become a nation of entrepreneurial-thinking people looking for opportunities to create and add value, rather than a 'workforce' of people trained at performing tasks and feeling powerless in the absence of a slot in an organization.

One way or another, the idea of work is transforming. In the process, it is revealing a shift from power and possibility as a function of central authority and organization to the individual becoming increasingly responsible and empowered. This is already apparent in how many of today's young adults are coping with the current economic doldrums. They are living and working together in a variety of collaborative arrangements, innovating and creating more and more novel solutions to problems, and 'playing' at making a living--while at the same time holding on to their appreciation for the more qualitative (and not measurable) aspects of life.

I agree with Ms. Chen that America's 70 million Boomers are going to be working for a long, long time. Hopefully, most will be working as a matter of choice. For those of us who are thinking about retirement, I have two recommendations:

1. Never retire to get away from something ... only to go toward something at least as challenging and demanding.
2. Don't ask what you want to 'do,' but ask what you want to accomplish and then who you want to play with to accomplish it.

At the end of the day, work and play are false distinctions. We won't have a balance sheet when we die. Regardless of when and if we retire, what matters will be whether we have lived full out--whether we were working or playing--until the end.

© 2010 Jim Selman. All rights reserved.

 
 
 
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Tina Traster
12:58 PM on 09/20/2010
I'm a writer. The line between life and work blurs constantly. I'd like to stop worrying about money, which most writers never do. But I can't imagine I'd ever want to stop writing.
Tina Traster
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08:04 PM on 09/18/2010
I am a nurse. I work a lot with hospice patients. I would dearly love to quit working, so I could volunteer to do the fun part of my job, talking with patients, doing their nails, etc. The stressful hard working part of my job is not fun. So if I could retire......I could do the fun part of my job that I do now. Plus do nails, activities, etc. My job just kicks my butt, 12 hour shifts, running, stooping, passing meds, doing treatments, etc. I'm 58 years old and wonder every day if I could actually make it to 67 to retire. I only work 24 hours a week, due to a disability. Working hard as a nurse should be left to the young ones, shift work, lifting people , being so very busy for 12 hours without a break.
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Caledoniaz
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03:48 PM on 09/18/2010
Even for those of us who love our jobs, it's HAVING to do it that we want to retire from.
07:11 PM on 09/18/2010
There you go, agreed! The worriation of having to earn money takes the fun out of working, at least for me. I often think that if I didn't have to work, I would anyway, and would enjoy it more knowing I wouldn't have to please authoritive figures and evaluations that help me earn my bread and butter.
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SShaw490
11:57 AM on 09/18/2010
I learned a lot about the fundamental nature of work from my wife's grandfather. He worked for the Santa Fe railroad through his "working life", and when he stopped doing that, he owned a ranch. Every day of his life except Sunday, he got up and worked. If he woke up in the morning and he was alive, he worked. Work was a natural function in his life; it was not a series of tasks that had to be completed and then he could thankfully stop working, it was a state of living, like breathing.

Since he wasn't trying to complete a list of "to dos", his work presented no pressure to him. Whatever he left undone today he'd do tomorrow. He didn't really care about tasks, he cared that he was able to go out and do this, then do that, then do something else.

Work is a function of life. It is not punishment, or an unpleasant experience that we have to live through. It is part of the flow and rhythm of the universe, it's our gift to it and its gift to us. If you can't find that rhythm in your work, maybe you're doing the wrong job.
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missouriwatcher
military veteran, veteran teacher, father, grandpa
09:47 PM on 09/17/2010
Hmmm, I have always dreamed of the day when I could retire, devote time to my hobbies, travel, and visit my kids and grandkids whenever I felt like it; but thanks to Wall Street and their enabling Congresspeople, I've lost so much of my retirement benefits that I will probably have to work until I drop in front of the class.  About this, I am definitely NOT happy.
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sunnybunny
01:56 PM on 09/17/2010
I would like to do something I felt was worthwhile all day every day rather than contributing to the profits of a greedy corrupt huge corporation just so that I can pay my bills and be broke again - and be too tired and have no time to do things I feel are truly important. I don't really want to retire - I just want to do something different, but I feel trapped because I don't want to go from the frying pan to the fire.In this economy I always hear how lucky I am to have a secure job.
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missouriwatcher
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09:44 PM on 09/17/2010
Excellent!  Expresses my opinion very well.  You definitely deserve to be fanned and faved for this post.  #23
01:56 PM on 09/17/2010
As a 56 year-old single mother of three children, 12, 13 and 15, I hear your points, and am always stopped short by MONEY. I work two jobs: a full-tome job that just about pays the bills, and a part-time job that feeds my soul, comes from a place of passion, service and joy, and therefore blurs the distinction between work and play. Where I get bogged down is in figuring out a way to switch the jobs around. In finding a way to have the part-time job become what pays the bills, so I can jettison the full-time job. I have not yet been able to "take the leap" because of money. I am not a trust-fund baby (plentiful here in Santa Fe, and plenty annoying, let me tell you), and cannot risk my children's futures. And yet, I know my happiness impacts theirs. Any words of wisdom? No "wu-wu" platitudes, please, but concrete suggestions for daily practices to open up the channels to creativity would be greatly appreciated.

p.s. my second job is as a facilitator/dj for an ecstatic/sacred/freestyle dance community.

www.embodydancesantafe.org
01:36 PM on 09/17/2010
I was just thinking the other day 'how long before I retire?' I am in my late 40's and am already thinking about retiring because I've found myself not wanting to work anymore. Yes, I have to work in order to live, eat, etc. but these days I find myself getting more and more tired of doing the same thing, getting up at the same time each day, etc., etc. I realize that I have to stop working in order to live but alas, I cannot afford to do that. My job is blaaahhh and I want to get out of it and find something more fulfilling and less stressful and blaaahhh. But retiring is something I'm looking forward to even though I've got a ways to go.
10:10 AM on 09/17/2010
I more than agree with the points made in this article. If we take the task of creating and finding jobs to the government and make it something that we as people do to find interest, work might become something that is more of a fun thing everyday. People these days look as working as a task and something we get done for money and support in our lives, but who said it had to be crucial "work"? America has come into an economic downfall that takes jobs from others and make it a task to now find a job simply to support their family and it is no longer an interest for them. Most Americans love their job and will work past retirement, so this idea that has been created to work until you get too old is just plain stupid. The rest of the Americans are simply in in to make money and go up on the economic scale, while the older folks do it to stay active and because they come from a different time where jobs were created by interest and money came along with that.