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John McCain: About My Alex

Posted: 06/17/08 07:09 PM ET

In 2000 my son was 10 years old. As a founder of MoveOn.org, I was working to change leadership in the House and Senate and looking forward to seeing Al Gore elected president. It didn't occur to me at that time that the next president might lead our country into a pre-emptive war which he would have no concept of how to end.

Today my son is 18, and I realize that should our stressed military need to turn to the draft, my son could be among those called. So as I now watch the mother in the new MoveOn "Alex Ad" tell John McCain he can't have her one year-old son, I'm reminded of just how naive I was eight years ago. I really had no idea that I was working to keep my son out of war at the time.

John McCain has taken pride in saying we are in Iraq for however long it takes. He has had over a year to help Americans understand what his plan is in Iraq, and still, all we know is that we should stay for as long as it takes. This approach simply does not work in Iraq, a country where we are not welcome and all too often our soldiers can't even tell who the enemy is.

This occupation of Iraq is something that history really should give us some insights on. Sectarian conflicts go on for centuries. Those of us that think we can fix Iraq by hanging tough are naive or in denial. The Mom in the Alex Ad has more foresight than I did eight years ago by saying by saying "No." to John McCain.

The Iraq occupation is a conflict John McCain has no realistic idea of how to end. He is offering us more of the same. We can't afford more of the same. I'm also a founder of, MomsRising.org. We are working to pass policies that support families and ultimately our future. We are motivated by our children. They cause us to take a long view.

Unfortunately so long as we are bogged down in Iraq, the chance of us investing the way we need to in our future is small. We will continue to be a country that neglects its children and families. Few people realized that out of over 170 countries in the world, only 4 have no form of paid leave for new mothers -- Papua New Guinea, Swaziland, Liberia and The United States of America; our child mortality is 37th worldwide; we have 40,000 kindergarteners home alone after school and 14 million children unsupervised; our health care system is a study in dysfunction; our schools are underfunded and employers are deeply biased against mothers in hiring and wages.

It is time for us to responsibly exit Iraq. We are not making ourselves or Iraq safe. Then we will be able to focus on the very vitally important issues that must be addressed in our own back yard.

The image of one-year old Alex, with his mom saying "No," is about having the right priorities. In addition to being an ongoing tragedy, Iraq is distracting us from global warming, family issues, our economy, healthcare, and other important issues at home. We need to get back on track.

 
 
 
 
 
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FTracy3
My micro-bio is as empty as the rest of my life.
02:01 PM on 06/23/2008
While I guess the ad touches an emotional nerve I'm astounded at how many contributors here are saying that McCain can't have their ADULT sons or daughters (and Alex's mom has apparently already predetermined his adult choice). In a volunteer army I would think that decision should be up to the sons or daughters involved, not well-meaning parents who haven't yet or won't cut the apron-strings. What other decisions will they all be making for their adult kids? Who they marry? Where they live? What line of work (other than the military) they go into?

And Joan, your juxtaposition of unrelated issues is pretty fuzzy thinking: paid leave for mothers, kindergartners home alone after school, biased employers, and a lousy health care system. Didn't all those problems exist before Iraq? Were we just about to solve them all but the plug got pulled because of Iraq?
04:00 PM on 06/18/2008
My 20 y.o. will be entering his 3rd year of college in the fall and I have an 11 y.o. He can't have neither one of my boys, and I am a minority woman and mean what I say!
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samguy
01:33 PM on 06/18/2008
Joan, ur wreckelss, irresponsible wench - you forgot about our crumbling infrastructure such as collapsing bridges and crumbling levees. Watching the footage of these events and of course the Katrina disaster, makes me feel shame for our country.
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JimR
10:55 AM on 06/18/2008
What is never mentioned in these articles is that even if McCain is elected, he will have no power to reinstate the draft. That requires an Act of Congress.
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Trittydi
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01:34 PM on 06/18/2008
True. But the ad doesn't reference a draft.
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Trittydi
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10:23 AM on 06/18/2008
Thank you for your post. This ad also touched a nerve for me. My son is 23 and the US Military will never get him either. Nor can it have either of my daughters - ages 25 and 21. It simply isn't going to happen. I have told him he is better off in jail, while my husband has other options in mind.

I agree with you that America is egregiously off -track. However - since America is only and forever ABOUT war - we have told our children to find a way to emigrate - and not look back. They will also have to worry about their children - for as your statistics prove - we are losing the battle here on a humane level for most Americans. My children may never finish college - or they will incur profuse debt to do so. And how will they afford college for their children? Health care? WHAT health care? What is there to stay for? So that their children can worry about these same problems? To continue to feed the ravaging never-ending appetite of the US Military Industrial Complex? No thank you - there isn't enough young blood in America to keep that behemoth sated

The statistics you offer are wonderful tools in discussions on these issues. I wish you had linked to some of the sources for them, as reliable numbers (from reliable reports) are difficult to acquire/determine.
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10:14 AM on 06/18/2008
I agree with this post because I too have son 19 who I don't want to have to go off to these senseless never ending wars. It's the poor and minorites that would mostly have to worry about this, not most wealthy or well connected. I also think the real reason the NeoCons don't try to help the poor or give health care, or jobs or help with education is because they want these people that lack these things for their "volunteer" armies. The recruiters promise them the world and know that more than half of them will never see these promises fulfilled. Even after they return they are still, not respected and denied a chance for an education, and medical benefits.This country should be ashamed.
09:09 AM on 06/18/2008
I am a Viet Nam veteran who was opposed to that war but was sucked in by the draft. At the time, blame was assigned to the servicemen as much as to the politicians. I have been pleased to see that those who serve now have been honored, and blame assigned to those who deserve it - the politicians.

Now, I am concerned that support for the troops is drifting back to the Viet Nam attitude. This poster and the mother in the "Alex" commercial lean toward denigrating the troops. Even if McCain were elected twice, he could not send Alex into war. That would take another Republican and a draft.

Who can look so far into the future to decide that his/her son/daughter should not serve? My daughter is as opposed to the Iraq war as I am, yet she is attending the Naval Academy and intends to serve our nation. Just because we currently have an idiot for commander in chief does not mean that our nation does not need a defense. Even if McCain were somehow elected, the nation will need a defense. And that defense will be the stronger if our service branches are not populated by fools.

While I completely empathize with Alex's mom, she is shortsighted.
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Trittydi
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10:28 AM on 06/18/2008
Alex's mother may just understand this portion of US History.
http://globalresearch.ca/index.php?context=viewArticle&code=EBB20061022&articleId=3558
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11:56 PM on 06/17/2008
The news that didn't get reported in the mainstream media last week: The Australians just jumped back on their ships and left Iraq; their explanation - "the worst mistake we could have made" - not 'peace with honor', or any of that crap, just 'we made a mistake, we're outta here.'
We can learn a lot from them.
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Trittydi
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10:29 AM on 06/18/2008
Our War-mongering Corporate media will be sure Americans DON'T learn from that - by not reporting it.
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JimR
10:53 AM on 06/18/2008
Source?
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Guitarsandmore
devoted father, community activist, musician, reti
02:38 PM on 06/18/2008
Australia ends Iraq combat role

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/asia-pacific/7430600.stm

Australia, one of the first countries to commit troops to the war in Iraq five years ago, has ended its combat operations there.

…"Of most concern to this government was the manner in which the decision to go to war was made: the abuse of intelligence information, a failure to disclose to the Australian people the qualified nature of that intelligence," Mr Rudd said.
He added the public had not been told of a pre-war warning that an attack on Iraq would increase, not decrease, the terrorist threat to Australia. ….

Our soldiers have worked tirelessly to ensure that local people in southern Iraq have the best possible chance to move on from their suffering under Saddam's regime and, as a government, we are extremely proud of their service," he said in a statement on Sunday.

He singled out the Australian contribution to the Iraqi army's Counter Insurgency Academy as a "lasting legacy".
08:26 PM on 06/17/2008
War is a defining event in national life. Nothing, not going to supermarket by yourself for the first time, not learning to drive, not petting on your first solo date, can compare with the catastrophic perceptual shifts precipitated by war. War clears the mind of superficial concerns. At war, the difference between a gas guzzling SUV and a gas sipping econobox drifts into insignficance. Other countries have wars all the time. Europe's big on them. They've had two huge and many smaller ones, and these just in the last century. The Middle East can be redefined as a war in progress. Africa, India, China, southeast Asia, all war torn areas. And South America? We ourselves have invaded it twice and destabilized it numerous times during the last fifty years. During the Civil War, people of means could buy surrogates who'd go to war for them. Why not re-institute this instead of condemning war in general? During the Civil War, the North conscripted immigrants right off the boat. If immigrants want to come here so badly to take advantage of our democratic way of life, let's do this again. I completely agree with the writer, and with all middle and upper middle class mothers, that your (their) kids shouldn't go to war. But, really guys, why throw baby out with the bath water?

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Yours sincerely,

The Playdo Institute
Handel Glassberg, President
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reggieb
09:12 PM on 06/17/2008
No, let's condemn war in general.
08:17 PM on 06/17/2008
It's astonishing how naive people continue to be.
07:37 PM on 06/17/2008
I am with you on this one, Ms/Mrs Blades. My son turned 18 last November, and the lady in my life has a son who turned 18, 3 days after mine. Now that they are looking to college, I find that I have to explain to them that they need to register for the Selective Service in order to get Govt Financial Aid. I worry that the draft will be re-instated sooner than many might think if we keep these Neo-cons in perpetual power.

My son is the only child I have as is my friend's. I served in the Military during Gulf War #1, but at that time we did what the US is famous for: protected the weak(er) nations...not invading them.

It's a shame that each day something comes about about the criminal, unethical behavoir of the current Admin, yet, where is the uproar!?
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rini
Physician & mother..struggling musician
10:03 AM on 06/18/2008
I have a ten year old son and a thirteen year old daughter.

O Canada.....

(I guess I should be learning the rest of the song ASAP)