We had the pleasure of meeting Patti Stanger, star of the hit TV show The Millionaire Matchmaker, at one of our Today Show appearances. We were already fans of her show and thrilled to meet her in person, but we were even more excited to find that this savvy personality is also a genuine, compassionate Hot Chick whose message and beliefs about love and relationships are very much in line with our own. Patti doesn't just set Hot Chicks up with millionaires; she truly believes in love and we were thrilled to learn that she believes the lessons in our book, How to Love Like a Hot Chick, can help the women on her show find not just a man with deep pockets, but the love they truly do deserve.
We're looking forward to partnering with Patti in many ways throughout the coming months, but the first thing we did was ask her a few questions about the things she knows best: love, sex and money. Here are some answers from the woman who is certainly living by our definition of the term Hot Chick and is teaching her clients to do the same.
Q: In How to Love Like a Hot Chick, we define a Hot Chick as a confident, passionate woman who knows what she wants, isn't afraid to go after it and doesn't compete with other women. Do you agree? How do you define a Hot Chick?
Patti: I think there's a little Hot Chick in everyone waiting to come out. Not only do I agree with the statement, I wish more women would realize that you don't have to be a model or an A-list actress to feel like a Hot Chick. I talk to men everyday of the week and nowhere is it written that you have to be perfect in order for them to see you as a Hot Chick. The problem is that the media keeps telling women that unless you look like you belong on the cover of a magazine - they're no longer valuable.
Q: What role do you think confidence plays in finding true love?
Patti: I state in my book "Become Your Own Matchmaker", confidence is the key to ANY endeavor. Women don't realize that when they do things they love and are passionate about - their confidence soars. Men are attracted to women who feel happy and decisive about life. That is the time when a woman is the most attractive to the opposite sex.
Q: Your show, The Millionaire Matchmaker, is a huge success and it seems that men and women can't stop talking about you. How do you think that love and money are really related and can the two ever really be separated?
Patti: Unfortunately this is an area that most people don't want to talk about and dampens the romance. But in this horrible economic climate it is a fact that needs to be addressed. As long as women are in the work force making their own money and decisions, men are going to have to realize that this way of life is here to stay - because it takes two incomes to make it and more now. The sooner you address your style of saving and spending with your mate the better off your relationship will be.
Q: We tell women that they need to know exactly what they want in a man and in a relationship in order to get the love they deserve. Do you think that men and women should be specific when looking for love or that they should keep their options open?
Patti: I always believe a woman should have 5 Non-negotiables that she should stick to when attracting a mate. If the guy does not have these five major things - then she should not give the guy a chance as she's wasting her time. The rest is up to the magic and wiggle room the universe gives.
Q: We advise women to make their men feel sexy and attractive with honest compliments and kind words and are shocked when we meet women who have never told their man that he is hot! What other big mistakes do you find that women are making when it comes to love?
Patti: Appreciation is the key to any romantic success. I love the fact that women want to be adored and told that they are beautiful till the end of days. But they never tell their man this. I have a strict hard and fast rule that says - for every two compliments he gives me - I give him one.
Q: We went on the Tyra Banks Show with Steve Harvey, and he said, "A man is not going to cross the room for your brains." What are your clients looking for in women? What would they cross a room for?
Patti: A man can be drawn across the room with the simplicity of a smile. That's why your pearly whites should always be straight and shiny. I think most of my clients are drawn to a fun, flirty nature in a woman. The problem is, most women do not often feel fun and flirty. That's why they need YOU to release their inner Hot Chick!
Q: Finally, what is your biggest/best piece of advice for women who are out there looking for love?
Patti: DON'T PANIC. It is not a race and today relationships are defined many different ways - marriage is NOT for everyone. Know that love is out there for each and every one of you. But he will only show up when it is the right time. The key is to keep busy with the things that you enjoy and that you're passionate about. Then before you know it... he's tapping you on the shoulder and asking you out.
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