The New York Times announced that Routledge, the company which publishes Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity, has announced that starting in 2014, they will begin publishing a new journal titled Porn Studies. According to Routledge's Announcement (which you can read at here), the
journal "will be the first...

Since my last blog post, "Guys on the 'Side': Looking Beyond Gay Tops and Bottoms," in which I introduced the term "sides" to describe gay men who simply don't prefer anal sex, I've received many emails from gay men who do prefer anal sex who describe the problems...

Gay men are constantly referring to and defining themselves as "tops" or "bottoms." When they consider dating or simply hooking up, gay men typically ask the other guy whether he's a top, a bottom or "versatile." It's important to find this out as soon as possible, because if you are...

Magic Johnson has publicly come out that his son is gay http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/04/02/earvin-johnson-iii-magic-johnson-gay-son-boyfriend_n_2998117.html. I purposely use the term, "come out" because when a child comes out of the closet, some parents immediately go into the closet with the secret that they have a gay child.

Another father made...

Whether you're gay, lesbian or straight, marriage can be simple! Relationship science can make breakups and divorce a thing of the past.

This is the premise of Making Marriage Simple: Ten Truths for Changing the Relationship You Have into the One You Want, a new book written by...

April DeBoer and Jayne Rowse, a Detroit couple suing the state of Michigan over its ban on gay adoption, have expanded their lawsuit to take on the state's marriage amendment. March 7, 2013, a judge could decide to overturn that ban.

I have a special interest in this...

The biggest referral source for my therapy practice is the computer. Why? Because of internet infidelity. With one click of the keyboard, women can discover a whole world her partner is engaged in and would have never known otherwise.

It makes sense there is high reactivity as discovering sexual material...

Valentine's Day brings up issues for many people, whether single or partnered. It can be a day that brings you joy, a day that brings you regrets or resentment or simply be yet another day that you tell yourself you don't really care about at all.

But let's face...

With the holidays approaching, I ask people in my therapy office what they are doing. They tell me about going to visit each other's families and friends together. However, my lesbian and gay couples often tell me how each goes to his or her own family gatherings and not to...

It is so hard to believe that people are still trying to use the purported link between pedophilia and homosexuality. The old, tired argument that pedophilia is linked with homosexuality is wrong on many levels.

First, we need to clarify our definitions. When discussing sexual abuse and...

Words can hurt. Verbal and psychological abuse can be harder to recover from than actual physical violence in the sense that when physically harmed you are taken seriously and people believe you. When it is verbal and covert people tend to blow it off and minimize it. The fact that...

Since the U.S. Military has removed the ban against lesbians and gays, I have been receiving invitations to come and speak to them on Gay Affirmative Therapy. It is my pleasure to be invited and share what I know to military mental health professionals. I will be at the United...

I need to come out -- again! I need to admit that up until recently I have been transphobic. I can admit this today because I have made a complete change and have removed most of my negativity around transgendered folks.

The evolution of how I feel toward transgender folks...

In the past few weeks there have been numerous speculations that John Travolta might have been sexual with men and therefore might be gay.

Our culture is obsessed with men who have sex with men and quickly label them as bisexual or gay. The gay community becomes angry toward...

With the passing of Whitney Houston and now Donna Summer, I've been thinking about why divas are so important to the gay community.

I have my own case of diva worship: I adore Diana Ross, Cher, and Oprah. I call their birthdays the "Gay High Holy Days" and celebrate....

In December 2011 Troy, Mich. mayor Janice Daniels was held accountable for a homophobic statement she made on Facebook. She said, "I think I am going to throw away my I love New York carrying bag now that queers can get married there."

Janice Daniels has started...

A new book is coming out titled, The Myth of Sexual Addiction, by David J. Ley. In it he talks about how sexual addiction is not real. I disagree. While it is true that sexual behaviors get labeled as sexual addiction when they are not, and that sexual addiction may...

As Proposition 8 in California was ruled unconstitutional, I was reminded of my own first two marriages.

My husband Mike and I have been together for 19 years this year. We were legally married in Provincetown, Mass. in 2004. This wasn't our first marriage, however. But there were no divorces...

When actress Cynthia Nixon declared that for her, being gay is a choice, she received much negative backlash from the gay and lesbian community. I don't see her revelation as negative as much as I appreciate her giving us an opportunity to discuss a very complex concept of sexuality.

Lately we are seeing the negative and traumatic effects of bullying every day with the media's focus on gay teen suicides. The effects of bullying are enormous and have long-lasting effects on one's life. It leaves its victims feelings afraid, alone, angry, powerless, and hopeless. There is much hope and...