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Calling Obama's Bluff on Marriage

Posted: 02/24/11 05:03 PM ET

I don't believe President Obama still has to "evolve" on the freedom to marry for gays and lesbians. The president is the most supportive president in history on LGBT issues. This week's historic announcement that the DOJ will no longer defend Section 3 of DOMA is more proof.

I don't buy it, because we have the president on record when he was in the Illinois legislature "unequivocally" supporting marriage.

I don't believe a man with a Harvard education in constitutional law "struggles" with same sex couples marrying. The concept is not a difficult one to grasp for people with even the slightest amount of intellectual curiosity.

I saw him hug members of our community when he signed the repeal of "Don't Ask, Don't Tell." He was not afraid to embrace gay men in celebration. He is not a homophobic person. As his administration continues to move forward, he continues to prove that he can keep his promises to the LGBT community. Yes, there is more to do like pass a jobs and housing anti-discrimination bill, but I believe he will keep his promise on that when he sees the opportunity to win.

I don't believe his bluff on marriage. I think he always supported the freedom to marry, but he just has not admitted it nationally. Why?

Obama's acting a part for the American public. The elusive movable middle every pro equality campaign director constantly woos is Obama's character.

By speaking publicly about his personal "struggle" with the freedom to marry, others can see themselves in him. "Yes, I'm struggling with that too. I don't quite get it yet," the movable middle can say to themselves.

Then, when the timing is perfect, Obama will reveal his great awakening. Maybe it will be presented with a same gender wedding at the White House, or following a historic win in the courts striking down DOMA for good. Maybe he will make the announcement when he signs legislation repealing the entirety of DOMA. Whenever it happens, it will be one of the greatest acts of theater during his presidency. Through his character of the "struggling American" he will be a living example of how people can change and become supporters of the freedom to marry. "My struggle is over. It is clear to me that love between two men or two women is exactly the same as the love I have for Michelle," he could say.

"If President Obama can change, maybe I can too," people will think.

This strategy of leadership is far more subtle than many of us would like to see, but if it works, then maybe our community should renew our love for theater -- especially when our president is playing the lead role.

 

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I don't believe President Obama still has to "evolve" on the freedom to marry for gays and lesbians. The president is the most supportive president in history on LGBT issues. This week's historic anno...
I don't believe President Obama still has to "evolve" on the freedom to marry for gays and lesbians. The president is the most supportive president in history on LGBT issues. This week's historic anno...
 
 
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ZENNEPHI
10:03 PM on 02/25/2011
Marriage for "same-sex" partners, should be a Unionatic bond. A Civial contractual
communal statement. Yet we have learned so much from Haite/Ashbury on the Bay.
Monogomous couplings that entail in the society, that no other strife can entertwine
between those of us with "Intrinsic-disorder"; that can and usually is traced to failure
in the Home enviorns. Transgendered leaisons all inclusive. {1+1+1=3} TRI NITY.
A contractual agreement, with stiff penalties such is what a Union between those of
the "God-fearing Christian-Right", Man and Wife...
Distinctive Orders can make the "Same Sex" couple feel obligated, by legal Protocal.
to not cheat on the "Queer Nations" of Yesteryear. Thanks. Don't Ask, Don't Touch!!!
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Ioan Lightoller
Proud Gay Pagan Man, Living Happily With Husband
06:32 PM on 02/27/2011
Try to write unstandably, shall we?
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12:40 PM on 02/25/2011
And let's not forget the freedom to marry for bisexuals.
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Ioan Lightoller
Proud Gay Pagan Man, Living Happily With Husband
05:47 PM on 02/26/2011
They have the right to marry the opposite sex. I'm interested in the right for them to marry someone of the same sex if they wish to.
12:30 PM on 02/25/2011
Joe,

I think you made some really great points on this one.

Our President takes up the agenda in ways that allow him to pursue success, not failure. He also does so in a calculated fashion, to make sure it allows others to consider their positions and possibly "change their ways of thinking" using the tools he puts forth.

Great post and thanks as always for your perspective on issues!

Regards,

Michael
CCO OutMaturity
10:11 AM on 02/25/2011
As usual, "Yup."
thanks, Joe
10:05 AM on 02/25/2011
"If President Obama can change, maybe I can too," people will think."

Joe, you almost succeed in making this sound like a BAD thing.

the question is, WHY?
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AnotherTry
Tell me again why we can't be equal?
07:45 AM on 02/25/2011
I don't like this argument. Basically we are meant to not take the president at his word. You know who else doesn't take the president at his word? People who think he is a mus lim. Why is it right for us to believe what we want instead of what he says and not them?
11:34 PM on 02/24/2011
You are totally right on - its a measured approach to show that he is thinking about it, struggling, coming to terms and then accepting. Perhaps inspiring others to do the same, and changing the discourse.
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SonicUltimate
11:12 PM on 02/24/2011
Morals and intellect are not mutually exclusive principles.  Such struggles are resultant from that fact.  The belief that Obama is acting results from the observer not holding the same moral values.
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db08
Embrace each moment, each day!
10:38 PM on 02/24/2011
Interesting perspective Joe. Thanks.
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Sharmine Narwani
09:38 PM on 02/24/2011
Joe, am not sure why you assume "people with even the slightest amount of intellectual curiosity" will support gay rights in the United States. Plenty of smart people here, but we have the least progressive social outlook of any developed nation in the world.

When 4 of the 5 most populated Muslim nations (Indonesia, Turkey, Pakistan and Bangladesh) have voted in female heads of state - and we are still debating whether "Americans" can handle the concept of a female president - I cannot imagine why anyone thinks gays rights are coming anytime soon.

Even if Obama were to publicly endorse love in ALL its manifestations as he should, the next Republican president would reverse gains. This is a fundamentally conservative country, and it seems to be getting worse all the time.

I agree with your article - wish I could feel more positive about things.
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Ioan Lightoller
Proud Gay Pagan Man, Living Happily With Husband
05:49 PM on 02/26/2011
Fanned and faved for truth! This country is so unevolved it is pitiful.
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Jim Pasterczyk
Banned!
09:33 PM on 02/24/2011
"I don't believe a man with a Harvard education in constitutional law "struggles" with same sex couples marrying." Yes, one would think, but on the other hand many of the reactionaries on the current court have Ivy law degrees yet there are so many 5:4 decisions handed down from there.
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talkstocoyotes
09:47 PM on 02/24/2011
"Struggle" has become Obama's personal synonym for "I don't want to offend the homophobic preachers by doing the right thing."

Hopefully he eventually will; but it's a disgrace that it hasn't been done a long time ago.
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Soulmentor
"To thine own self be true...."
01:11 AM on 02/25/2011
Get a grip on the reality of American politics. Would you rather the most gay supportive President we've ever had bet his political future on an impulsive, ill advised fast push and quite possibly lose his office and influence, or do the slow and difficult but more probably successful process and remain in place to continue to do so? Are you plain blind to not see that he is sneaking this into place incrementally, letting the public get used to the idea piece by piece?
Yes, its a disgrace that it's taking so long, but the onus of that is on the general public, not this President....or Pres Clinton either, who did us a favor by breaking the dialogue wide open.
There are skirmishes remaining, but we've won the war. Gays must stop witlessly trying to snatch defeat from the jaws of victory.
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Jim Pasterczyk
Banned!
02:34 AM on 02/25/2011
This is not a first term sort of thing to do unless you want it to be your only term.
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AZreb
equal-opportunity Independent heathen
09:28 AM on 02/25/2011
Far too many with educations in "constitutional law" seem to be able to twist and turn that law to fit their own ideological and political agendas.
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Jim Pasterczyk
Banned!
03:43 PM on 02/25/2011
Yes, I can think of four or five people like that off the top of my head.
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wonketteRAWKS
Hypocrisy is prevalent in BOTH parties!
07:55 PM on 02/24/2011
Uhhh ok, sure, yeah, right!
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Chris Marshall 3
07:25 PM on 02/24/2011
Just for the record DADT is not repealed yet. What transpired was grounds to start a repeal, not necessarily a repeal itself. All the branches of the military must come together then write up a brief of when they "feel" is the necessary time to repeal, then if everything is all hunky dory they got sixty days to stick with it, or scrap it and start over. After those sixty days then it goes back onto the presidents desk and then DADT is repealed. So it could be in a month, or it could be in the next 20 years. But right not it is certainly not a repeal. In reality it will most likely be the SCOUS that repeals it within the next two years.
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Ioan Lightoller
Proud Gay Pagan Man, Living Happily With Husband
05:50 PM on 02/26/2011
Fanned and faved! Hi Chris! Ioan from change.org.
10:39 AM on 02/28/2011
DADT is repealed.

The President gets to set military policy in any area not covered by existing law. DADT set the policy on gay people in the military. As long as it was in effect, the President had absolutely no say in the matter. Step 1 for allowing gay people to openly serve was to get rid of the law.

Currently, they're setting up training procedures to tell service members what is the new military policy. While it does not yet seem possible for people to simply be out, that time will come soon.
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Douglas Campbell
07:00 PM on 02/24/2011
Good and accurate article.
Thanks Joe.
06:28 PM on 02/24/2011
While I am in favor of gays getting married a president can not pick what laws he will defend. This is going to set a dangerous standard for future presidents going from Roe V Wade to other case laws. Over turn this law in the courts.
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Joe Mirabella
06:44 PM on 02/24/2011
Actually the President is not breaking new ground. Justice Departs under nearly every modern President have made similar choices about laws they found unconstitutional. That's why the LGBT community was so upset that the DOJ defended DOMA and DADT to begin with. It is a perfectly legal choice and a good one in this case.
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talkstocoyotes
09:49 PM on 02/24/2011
This and other similar statements are good examples of why reviving civics courses as part of basic education would be a good thing. The confusion with an obligation to enforce existing law and to defend it are on a par with the notion that it's acceptable to vote on civil rights.
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Ioan Lightoller
Proud Gay Pagan Man, Living Happily With Husband
06:36 PM on 02/27/2011
Civics courses are no longer being taught? That explains a lot of the ignorance of things political in this country. I really wasn't aware that civics was no longer being taught. Now, that is to the benefit of the ruling classes. They can tell the masses anything they want--such as "it's OK to vote on the civil rights of others" and the masses will go along with it.