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John Backman
As a longtime writer and associate of an Episcopal monastery, John Backman writes extensively on spiritual topics, including contemplative practice and its ability to help us dialogue across divides. His new book, Why Can’t We Talk? Christian Wisdom on Dialogue as a Habit of the Heart, will be published by SkyLight Paths Publishing in fall 2012. His articles have appeared in numerous faith-based publications, progressive and conservative, including Fellowship, Episcopal Life, Presbyterians Today, The Living Church,, and Prism. He maintains a blog at

Entries by John Backman

Behind the Marriage Controversy, a Massive Confusion About Love

(6) Comments | Posted August 28, 2015 | 10:31 AM

Earlier this summer, one of the Episcopal Church's more conservative bishops wrote a pastoral letter to oppose the Church's approval of measures to support marriage equality. Before explaining his position, he wrote, "I pray that regardless of which side of the issue you find yourself on,...

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How Do We "Move on" After the Supreme Court Ruling?

(114) Comments | Posted June 23, 2015 | 11:40 AM

"We've been talking about this for weeks," he shouted. "It's not hard, people, yet we keep dancing around the issue. I'm sick of it. We need to vote now and move on."

The vote in question, from a church meeting some 25 years ago, concerned whether to expel a member...

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Bruce Jenner and the Virgin Mary Show Why Privacy Is Good for You

(0) Comments | Posted May 11, 2015 | 4:06 PM

A whispered remark destroys a career. Corporations share our personal details with our consent. Social media is rife with oversharing.

Have we given up on privacy entirely? Does it matter?

Two stories, with eerie similarities across two millennia, tell us it does. The experiences...

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Could This Bible Story Allow Conservatives to Serve Same-Sex Couples?

(17) Comments | Posted April 9, 2015 | 3:19 PM

Dear Christian baker,

After all the news out of Indiana and Arkansas recently, you may still wonder how to remain faithful to God (as you understand God's will) and obey the government's anti-discrimination laws. Maybe you see this as a moment for taking a stand, putting a stake in...

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Jesus Died for Our Sins... What Does That Even Mean?

(4) Comments | Posted March 31, 2015 | 10:11 AM

I have no idea why a teenage existentialist would ever end up in a Christian coffeehouse. Still, there I was, listening to an acquaintance share her faith in Jesus. As she gushed on about her Savior, I kept stumbling over her favorite phrase: Jesus died for our sins.

I got...

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Enough with the Either/Ors: Or, Why 'Gay Christian' Is Not an Oxymoron

(19) Comments | Posted January 23, 2015 | 1:01 PM

Most of the time, when I tell friends about the annual conference of the Gay Christian Network, they say, "Gay Christian Network? Sounds like an oxymoron."

Alas, the "oxymoron" stereotype is alive and well. You can't be gay and still be a Christian. You can't...

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Perhaps God Wants Us to Just Listen

(1) Comments | Posted December 4, 2014 | 1:18 PM

Lately I have felt called to listen more deeply than I ever have.

Events of the past year -- the tensions in Ferguson, President Obama's immigration order, the gender conflicts expressed in #yesallwomen, the rise of the Islamic State -- have shown me how much I don't know about...

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What If Death Is Nothing to Fear?

(5) Comments | Posted October 31, 2014 | 12:18 PM

We filed out the church doors to the memory garden where a small hole had been dug. The minister laid my parents' urn into the hole and invited family members to place a spadeful of dirt on it. As I nudged the shovel into the dirt pile, then poured soil...

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Can Faith and Football Still Mix?

(2) Comments | Posted October 10, 2014 | 4:10 PM

Last month I stopped watching football.

I didn't do this because of the disturbing news from the NFL over the past year: the evidence of damaging effects from football-related concussions, the stories of players endangering the safety of their partners and children, the apparent rise in...

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Are We OK the Way We Are?

(0) Comments | Posted September 5, 2014 | 12:26 PM

The priest lifted the bread and wine in the air, representing the body and blood of Christ, in the way I have seen clergy do for decades. But her next words were off script, and they sent a jolt through me.

"Behold who you are. Become who you receive....

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Eternal Truths Need Unpacking, Not Defending

(1) Comments | Posted June 10, 2014 | 6:05 PM

I don't know whether God consists of three people with one divine essence, as Christianity claims. I do know that I love to think about it.

Perhaps that's a good way to handle our "eternal truths" going forward.

Many observers have written about the change occurring in the Christian...

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For a Friend Who, Like Me, Has Thought About Suicide

(0) Comments | Posted May 21, 2014 | 7:57 PM

I think about suicide a lot. If you do too, I want to run an idea by you. See what you think.

I don't have to tell you that a lot has been written and said about suicide. A search for "suicide" on Google Scholar yields 1.7 million hits....

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Did Jesus Know What He Was Doing? Do We?

(1) Comments | Posted March 31, 2014 | 4:36 PM

From that time on, Jesus began to show his disciples that he must go to Jerusalem and undergo great suffering at the hands of the elders and chief priests and scribes, and be killed, and on the third day be raised. -- Matthew 16:21

What did Jesus know, and when...

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How Human Was Jesus?

(35) Comments | Posted February 24, 2014 | 11:00 AM

"Do you also wish to go away?" -- John 6:67

The Christians of my teen years were big on optimism at all costs, and they used verses from the Bible to support their claim. A girlfriend once interrupted my confession of weakness with "I can do all things through...

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The Bible Lesson You Might Have Missed

(2) Comments | Posted January 21, 2014 | 12:06 PM

"[The high priest] can deal gently with the ignorant and wayward, since he himself is subject to weakness..." --Hebrews 5:2

"Now there was a Pharisee named Nicodemus, a leader of the Jews. He came to Jesus by night..." --John 3:1 -2

I read these verses the other day and wondered...

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Aging Well Through the Presence of God

(0) Comments | Posted January 8, 2014 | 11:04 AM

I am paying attention to old people.

This is not from some noble sense of "respecting my elders." It is not even because an ancient in-law is living in my house. Rather, I believe older people -- at least the role models among them -- can fill a big...

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Putting the God of Vengeance in His Place

(131) Comments | Posted November 20, 2013 | 2:58 PM

Not long ago, my church's lectionary (a fixed order of sacred readings for each day of the year) prescribed 2 Kings 17:7-41 to be read over two days. In that passage, the author interrupts the Hebrew scriptures' long, compelling narrative of kings, prophets, and events to sum up...

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The 'And Yet' of Syria, War and Peace

(3) Comments | Posted September 24, 2013 | 7:53 PM

We have to do something about Syria's chemical weapons. And yet...

No person of compassion can ever sanction war. And yet...

There is a great deal of power in that tiny phrase. And yet stops us dead in our tracks. It confronts us with an entirely different aspect of...

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Why We Can't 'Move On' from Race -- And Why We May Want To

(42) Comments | Posted August 19, 2013 | 11:13 AM

"Can we please just move on?"

I heard this refrain running through the endless conversations about the George Zimmerman verdict. You might take it as an indication that everything on the topic of race in America has already been said -- that now we're just talking in circles.

To me,...

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3 Other Things Christians Ought to Worry About

(79) Comments | Posted July 12, 2013 | 1:27 PM

"You tithe mint, dill, and cumin, and have neglected the weightier matters of the law: justice and mercy and faith. It is these you ought to have practiced without neglecting the others." -- Matthew 23:23

Like many of Jesus' recorded sayings, this critique did not exactly endear him to the...

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