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John DeBellis

John DeBellis

Posted: March 11, 2010 11:04 AM

To Date Republican or Democrat

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I've been single for awhile and though I seem to lack the dating gene, I don't like myself that much where I'm willing to spend the rest of my life in my own company, especially with a limited wardrobe. So I keep trying experimental stuff like smiling and saying hello instead of burying my face in a woolen hat and sneezing. But on those days where I actually contract a date, I've noticed a remarkable difference between going out with a Democrat and Republican.

The most difficult part is getting a Republican of any sort not to say "no," even before you ask them any question. If somehow you can persuade them into thinking by going out with you you're bailing out her father on Wall Street, then you may get a "yes." If you're able to get an actual date, the Republican will only settle for going to an upscale establishment that only accepts credit cards with extremely high interest rates, while the Democrat will actually give you a choice in the matter and might even consider bringing a dish.

Once on the date the Republican will constantly be judging you, not only by the choice of red meat you select, but how rare you prefer it and how many hormones and artificial additives you are willing to ingest for her, but also they expect you to refuse to eat if served by someone they suspect to be an illegal alien or doesn't have a crucifix dangling from his or her neck. Heaven forbid, they have a loud watch and ticking is heard, your date (probably an NRA member) will most likely be packing a weapon and your waiter will be out of a life. The Democrat on the other hand would be willing to go to a food coalition buffet or order takeout from Chernobyl as long as the packaging is recycled.

I once went to an all you can eat restaurant with a Republican but that was only because she thought that the sign should be interpreted as all she can eat, and the rest be tossed in plastic non bio degradable garbage bags. The dinner conversation with a Democrat might range from personal stories to global warming, healthcare etc. With the Republican it is usually about how everything in the world should belong to her, while talking on her cell phone, and pointing at imperfections in your sports jacket.

At the end of the dinner the Democrat might even offer to pay half or at least leave a decent tip. The Republican on the other hand will expect you to buy the most expensive wine, at least one bottle, will eat only a mouthful of food, while watching the rest rot on her plate, and then expecting you to pay the entire bill, leave exactly a 15 percent tip, on your card, or in small demeaning coins.

The Democrat even if there isn't any chemistry will allow you to take her home and at least give you a hand shake. The Republican woman will insist you drive her to the door, opening it for her (even if you're in a car crash and need the jaws of life to get out), and then let you shake hands with her door man while she takes the elevator.

Okay all of this is an exaggeration, but the truth is you may meet and have the greatest time with a Democrat or Republican but I can't see myself spending my days with someone who thinks that global warming is a myth (thus rationalizing killing bears for her fur coat), Jesus was for profits instead of being a prophet, and that dying from curable disease is collateral damage from only being middle class.

P.S. I've never been great at using those dating sights where they find you some one that has similar traits. It cost me a fortune to find out that I have twin sister. So I set up my own fun dating site where I'm the only guy a girl can date. Check out www.datedebellis.com or follow it on Twitter.

 

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I've been single for awhile and though I seem to lack the dating gene, I don't like myself that much where I'm willing to spend the rest of my life in my own company, especially with a limited wardrob...
I've been single for awhile and though I seem to lack the dating gene, I don't like myself that much where I'm willing to spend the rest of my life in my own company, especially with a limited wardrob...
 
 
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01:42 PM on 03/22/2010
aH, SOOOOOOO TRUE. I stopped even considering dating republican in college.

One thing not noted - as republican - by definition - are self-centered, self-serving and well, creepy - take a guess what they are like in the bedroom . . . like I said, no republicans.

I even had a tshirt -

"I don't swap"
I don't do more than one at a time, and
I DON'T DO REPUBLICANS"
10:22 PM on 03/17/2010
Sadly I have experienced the same thing. I won't go out with conservatives.
11:01 AM on 03/17/2010
Wow, not impressed. Talk about stereotyping. The sheer nastiness was practically dripping from this article. Maybe you should just take an add out for democrat females only . That way you would only be wasting your time.
09:57 PM on 03/15/2010
I understand that it is your article, so you are free to express your opinion, however, I believe the way you have written it was mean spirited. You put down Republican and conservative women and that isn't fair. You are stereotyping. I understand that this may have been your experience with these particular women you have dated, and that is fine, but don't assume all are like that. How fair would it be for me to assume the negative stereotype is true that all Democrats and liberals are pot smoking, tree hugging people that live off the government and don't want to work hard? Saying how you feel is fine but be careful of your presentation. You don't want to become who you preach against.
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02:51 PM on 03/15/2010
> I set up my own fun dating site where I'm the only guy a girl can date.

This in and of itself is genius.
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02:48 PM on 03/15/2010
> Okay all of this is an exaggeration

Sounds pretty accurate to me...
04:23 PM on 03/14/2010
He said it was an exaggeration but I don't think so. LOL.
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10:17 AM on 03/13/2010
This cracked me up. I went on a couple of dates with some conservatives before I got married to a fellow Liberal and let me tell you, Republican men are worse than the women any day of the week.

You walk by a homeless guy on your date, he tells the guy to 'get a job' so you throw the guy a ten-spot out of embarrassment. They are horrible tippers so you end up leaving an extra ten on the table for the waiter out of embarrassment. They judge you by what you eat; if you order a vegetarian pasta dish & a salad, they tell you that PETA stands for People Eating Tasty Animals and expect you to laugh at that lamest of jokes.

They are attracted to your independence and impressed with your career when pursuing you, then they tell you on the date 'no wife of mine is going to work, I want her taking care of my kids as her only job'.

And forget music....they love their bad top 40 guitar rock and say "I don't like that weirdo music" when you say one of your favorite bands is New Order.
02:07 PM on 03/17/2010
You know, I never realized some character traits of people I know were political based, until this article. Most of the republicans I know are very judgemental.
My brother in law and ex- father in law are both wealthy, and I've never seen such terrible tippers.
The republicans we know send me and my sisters all these anti-liberal type of emails, never considering we might not be conservative. However, they are highly affronted by any missives of a progressive bent.

Some democratic traits:
Too empathetically trusting:
---Assuming everyone that is in dire straits has nothing to do with putting themselves in that position.
---Assuming no one is gaming the welfare or unemployment system.
02:51 PM on 03/12/2010
I think John DeBellis is a very funny writer.
I truly look forward to his wonderful blogs.
John, write more often.
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05:18 PM on 03/12/2010
Rick you're the best. At Catch all us comics wanted to be you.
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08:29 PM on 03/12/2010
I don't think you exaggerated at all. I thought you were right on point. I actually can't stand republicans, men or women. You'll never see me at a teaparty or a Palin/Bachmann rally. I think they should all move to Alaska, both male and female republicans. I can actually give you a list of them that I never want to see on TV, from Rove to Boehner, from Dick to Liz, etc. I'll even pay higher taxes to facilitate their going away party.
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11:57 PM on 03/11/2010
Okay. You almost had me.

I even stand to inherit a rusty anvil.

However, I am Sicilian and I make it a policy never to date Italians.

Too bad, really. I'm a great cook.
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10:20 AM on 03/13/2010
I married a guy who is half Sicilian, half Irish. Best of both worlds. Good cook and fun to party with.
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mlaiuppa
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11:52 PM on 03/11/2010
15%? I would have thought she would draw the line at 10%. Or even less.

After all, you're paying for the meal and they are on salary. What do they need any extra money for? They're doing their job, right?
01:20 AM on 03/16/2010
lol There was a letter to the editor of our paper tonight that actually said this!
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Melanie Chartoff
08:36 PM on 03/11/2010
Boy oh boy will this make you popular with very few Dem dames--but, hey, you can only afford one date a week anyway, at these prices, so that may be all you want. Meanwhile you can just recycle yourself --with such clever talk you can entertain yourself forever.

You made me laugh. That happens so rarely, I'm joining your website.
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10:21 AM on 03/13/2010
I don't know, I think he showed that Dem dames are open minded, compassionate and flexible; I think that's pretty accurate. Though, I would like the guy to open the car door for me on the first date, that's just being thoughtful.
08:05 PM on 03/11/2010
Completely agree with the author. I am married and both of us are Democrats. We both have wondered how in today's ages it is possible to have a blended marriage (D&R) unless it is an abusive kind. In my parent's day, folks got along with each other, but now Republicans are so mean and petty. Living in Tennessee, we receive the most vile viral emails and Repubs think it is funny or factual; it is neither, the only thing it is, is racist.

So if you are a racist, pollution loving, anti-science, muslim fearing, Hummer driving, Dixiecrat, you might just be able to date a Republican. Nobody else though could do such a thing.
11:39 AM on 03/12/2010
Did you really accuse Repubs of being mean and petty when you wrote garbage like that? Please tell me that this was a joke post, because if it wasn't you must be one of the most h@te filled person I've came acrossed in a long time. I am just amazed at the hypocrisy of people like you, who claim to be better than everyone that doesn't agree with you and then go and write this dribble.
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12:23 AM on 03/14/2010
My teabagging brother-in-law circulated an illustration of Hillary Clinton being crucified, and the cross being burned on Barack Obama's lawn. He and his wife thought this was hilarious. Do all Republicans laugh at this kind of filth, or just southern ones?
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John DeBellis
02:16 AM on 03/24/2010
Noitce that this piece is posted in the comedy section. Its an exaggeration playing on stereo types. Of course not all men and women of any political party are all good nor are they all bad.
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John DeBellis
11:45 AM on 03/12/2010
I loved your responce. It must be tough being a Democrat couple living in Tenn. We need more of you down there.
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06:34 PM on 03/11/2010
Stupid article. That's a very cute way to bash Republicans by generalizing how Republican women act. You must be really bored to spend the time to write this nonsense. It's not even funny. Ann Coulter would write something like this but just have it be reversed but it would probably be funny. Good luck being an bored ideologue.
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12:27 AM on 03/12/2010
And yet... Ann Coulter behaves EXACTLY the way he described a GOP date...

My old boss started dating a few months ago, and having less political inclinations than the average snail, had a few random blind dates with women of both persuasions.
Funny that he came to almost the same conclusions...
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John DeBellis
02:20 AM on 03/24/2010
Ann Coulter isn't funny, she's tragic. You can hate the piece and not think it's funny. I'm fine with that. But how can you be a member of EndRacismNow and even remotely think she's funny. She's one of the most vile hate mongering people alive, if she's in fact that.
11:46 AM on 03/11/2010
I'm a Democrat and I live in Texas. Based on your article, we are highly compatible. Also, based on being the lone liberal in a sea of religious right, tea party wingnuts, I'd appreciate it if you could import yourself. It gets a bit lonely down here...
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John DeBellis
11:48 AM on 03/12/2010
It has to be tough being a liberal in Texas. It's a big state there has to be more than one of you. Although I hear Austin is great.
09:56 PM on 03/13/2010
The only thing wrong with Austin is it's surrounded by Texas