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A Purple Heart for Christmas

Posted: 12/14/11 10:30 AM ET

I'm glad the United States is bringing America's sons and daughters, our troops, home from Iraq before Christmas.

My son Bryan died in Iraq, in a town named Albu Hyatt, north of Bagdad, Sept. 6, 2007.

He and 3 others died, but 40 to 50 troops behind them lived.

A suicide bomber gunned a newer model truck, loaded with explosives, at them from a checkpoint less than one block in front of them.

I reenacted this event with my truck, and found Bryan had one and half seconds to react in this quick ambush.

The West Point graduate who designed this roadblock got a bronze star and then a job with a private contractor.

And I got Bryan's Purple Heart for his service.

The Iraq war has only affected a few families personally, unless you count higher fuel prices and a larger national debt.

The ones closer to the war have had their lives changed forever.

Just like mine, and Bryan's friends, who put the fire out while others in America were attending football games.

Looking forward to Christmas I think of past years, when we would play cards until late in the evening. Sometimes laughing until our eyes watered.

This upcoming Christmas, I thought about putting Bryan's Purple Heart medal at his chair and deal out the cards. But I know it will not be the same,

It all began with him pledging allegiance to the flag and starting each sporting event with the Star Spangled Banner.

America was someone he trusted to always tell the truth.

He trusted our leaders as he trusted teachers and coaches to be on the right side of humanity.

Never did he think the people behind our flag would lie to him, burn his remains and throw his ashes into a landfill.

He was awarded a purple heart, but no answers to the Iraq war.

George Bush shrugged his shoulders and said "faulty intelligence, next question please." Later I heard him say he wishes he had better intelligence at the time.

So, if George Bush wishes this, why not tell us who was responsible for this faulty intelligence, because each source would lead to a person's name.

I know it's awkward for our Justice Department to investigate the ones who appointed them, so this would relieve that pressure.

And heaven forbid, we don't want to make this mistake again.

Maybe I should be happy with a Purple Heart medal here at Christmas, knowing we are free of Iraqi drones overhead. And not look at our rulers behind our flag.

But it's hard not to when you lose a son.

 
 
 
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Handyman2
I liked Ike.
12:40 PM on 12/15/2011
I read you post with tears in my eyes. As a father of two sons, I can't imagine your loss and I know there are over 4,000 other American families whose hears have been broken. I can't help but wonder if it was worth the price.

A Vietnam Vet.
09:37 AM on 12/15/2011
I'm so terribly sorry for your loss. It's unspeakable.
ThinkCreeps
Seriously, it's time.
08:12 AM on 12/15/2011
There is of course no way to ease the pain of the loss of a child.

I am sure that your son died doing his best to protect his comrades, and doing his assigned duty in very difficult circumstances. I would suggest that his comrades and the designers of the checkpoint would also have done their best in difficult circumstances to protect your son and return him to you. As you say, the responsibility for your loss, and the loss of over a hundred thousand other lives in this near-decade-long misadventure lies much further up the chain of command.
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gtt
This is not your father's republican party.
07:50 AM on 12/15/2011
Mr. Scripsick, God bless you, your family and your dear son. Few Americans have given so much to the preservation of our country. May you have peace this holiday season and throughout the new year. Thank you for sharing your son's story of bravery and sacrifice.
02:54 AM on 12/15/2011
The ones responsible for faulty intelligence leading to war are Bush and Cheney. They made the decision to overlook all the indicators that there was no reason to go to war in Iraq. No one made them act on the faulty intelligence without verifying it and being very, very, very sure.

Whatever bad info anyone gave them, it wasn't as much the intelligence being faulty as the intelligence being cherry-picked for information to support a desired war. They wanted a war and they found an excuse.

There's another guilty party. The majority of Americans who were wildly enthusiastic about the invasion of a foreign country that had not attacked us and posed no real threat. Why should the WH hold back when they saw that they would rally the people behind them. War presidents don't lose elections when the people believe in the cause.

We need to teach civics and ethics in school, as we once did when most Americans believed in the importance of national honor and citizens' rights.

We're all complicit. One thing I'm sure of about Iraq:

If the people who threatened those who spoke against the war had to go to Iraq and enter battle - or if their children did - there would have been no war. And if we had a draftee army, there would have been no war.

We only went and then stayed there 9 years because we were sacrificing other people's children in our beloved lost cause.
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themightyabealrd
screw the real world-I'm an artist!
09:30 PM on 12/14/2011
Nothing in Iraq or Afghanistan is worth the life of a single US soldier. The leaders who took our military forces into those lands have a great deal of explaining to do. There are thousands of American families who are feeling their loss at this time of year and Mr.Scripsick is an eloquent spokesman for them. May he and his family find solace in their memories and togetherness. this holiday season.
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1johnf
What would Studs say?
09:01 PM on 12/14/2011
Please accept my most sincere condolences for the loss of your son. His bravery and courage has me in wonder. I can only hope that the knowledge that there are people out here who truely grieve with you offers some solace and comfort to your pain.
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AnneTally
tea parties are for little girls
08:34 PM on 12/14/2011
Bless you and your dear son.
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08:19 PM on 12/14/2011
Just wanted to say I'm sorry for your lost but there is one thing you can stand proud of no matter what people may think of this war wrong or right your son went over there so people like me and the rest of on here can have a voice.We may not always agree with each others opinion But that's what your son fought for are rights are freedom and our peace of mind knowing that their is someone like him that god put on this earth to protect us from people who wish to do us harm.And to people who disrespect our veterans for what they have done for us you have know idea what it means to wear your heart on your sleeves which your son and others have done everyday serving in our Military Forces.Even though i don't know your son he is and always will be a hero to my family and I.God bless with Respect and Honor.
08:17 PM on 12/14/2011
My heart more than bleeds for the lose of your beautiful boy. As misguided as I believe this war was I greatly thank you for his service to our country.
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nancy kriescher
exrepub08dem
08:09 PM on 12/14/2011
Dear Sir, I am not going to write words youv'e seen a million times. I remember everything, 2003, and beyond. I write daily on Veterans and the Fallen' of Iraq. Every day, somewhere, I write about the lack of coverage on the Iraq War, No questions, offerings of Concern which was a Sad, Tragic Time in our History. I get angry that people just go about their lives, complaining about little things. To imagine your thoughts, and daily reminders, of Bryan, So personal. I get angry over personalities that grab the spotlight, and think so much of themselves. Plastic Heroes, worshipped by many." Hero' is not a worthy word in my estimation, of your son, and thousands like him, who took their orders.did what was required of themselves, Bit their thoughts, held their fear, and hoped for the Best. Bryan, is a voice, a smile, a hug, a laugh, he is the young son you watched grow up into a man. you have those reminders, but, you don't have Him." Bryan Scripsick, I love you. I cherish your life, your sacrifice. You will NEVER be foregotten."
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nancy kriescher
exrepub08dem
07:25 PM on 12/14/2011
Sir, I am not going to say the words you have heard a million times. I left the Repub. Party mentally in 06' I started reading about the campaign for the Iraq War, and the Propaganda machine. " I remember the flip comments from President Bush, and the comments of talking heads on a certain Cable News Channel. " I learned I was not a Patriot." Since the last 2 years of his Presidency, when an overwhelming sum of Americans felt the War was unneccassary, I voted for Pres. Obama. He said he would bring them home as soon as reasonable. I cried when I read the stories of Fathers, Mothers, Wives, Siblings, Who were unable to show their anger, as it was a tricky place to go.. I think of those, who died on foreign ground, away from family, and the families always wondering what they went through, over there, in the last seconds of their lives. Hero" does not seem Worthy enough for these thousands of human beings, that bravely took their orders, and believed.' You are a Father, who lost his son, Bryan, to imagine the loss is to imagine the loss of a hug, a voice, a young boy, and an infant. you don't have HIM." Thank You For Sharing This Story , and as I write this.. I put myself in his shoes, and his fathers'.
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errol44
Just in town for the GOP circus
04:39 PM on 12/14/2011
Thank you for sharing your and your son's story. And as a veteran myself, thank you so much for the sacrifice of your son and that your family.

Something you mentioned is very important, it is something that is often overlooked and almost never talked about, that is: "not making the same mistake again." And I worry about this because by not holding anyone accountable for the devious actions that took us into Iraq in the first place, we have left the door open for another would-be warrior to impose their will on the world as our commander-in-chief. I can only imagine what someone like Gingrich (described by another conservative as a "human hand grenade") would do if given the same executive exemption from accountability that George Bush and Dick Cheney have enjoyed.
04:05 PM on 12/14/2011
My sincere condolences sir. I cannot imagine the pain you must feel for the loss of your son. I feel compelled to state that if Ron Paul were President, he would not value the lives of our soldiers so cheaply.
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NavyCaptret
American
02:53 PM on 12/14/2011
There is no solace for your loss. But your post reminded me of a speech given on Nov 13, 2010 by Lt General John Kelly, USMC, to the Semper Fi Society of St. Louis, MO. This was 4 days after his son was killed by an IED while on his 3rd Combat tour. During the speech, he never mentioned the loss of his own son. He closed the speech with the moving account of the last 6 seconds in the lives of 2 young Marines who died with rifles blazing to protect their brother Marines. The 2 died standing post at the entrance gate of an outpost that contained a makeshift barracks housing 50 Marines, in circumstance that must have been similar to those you describe here. It doesn't justify or mitigate the loss of your son, but it's worth reading. It can be found here: http://thebulletproofmonk.blogspot.com/2010/12/last-six-seconds.html