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John Tsilimparis is a writer and psychotherapist in Los Angeles and was featured on the hit TV show "OBSESSED," where he treated individuals with OCD on camera. The show aired on A&E and received a great deal of exposure and success. John has also appeared on television as an expert on addiction and other psychiatric conditions. He was featured on "Larry King Live," "The View," Fox News, KTLA-News, and ABC News. He was also featured on several radio programs in the Los Angeles area.

John is also releasing a new book called: RETRAIN YOUR ANXIOUS BRAIN: Practical and Effective Tools to Conquer Anxiety - October 2014.

In his psychotherapy work, he treats individuals suffering from anxiety disorders, particularly OCD, depression and addiction, and also specializes in bereavement counseling. His approach is a cutting-edge theoretical orientation called Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, which focuses on changing individuals' personal thinking and belief systems about every aspect of life.

John is a former staff clinician at Cedars-Sinai Hospital in Beverly Hills, where he worked in an outpatient psychiatric program. At Cedars, he helped patients suffering from severe mental disorders such as depression, bipolar disorder and schizophrenia. He is an adjunct faculty member at Pepperdine University and Antioch University. He teaches classes on the master's level in chemical dependency and supervises students in a Practicum class.

He has also presented many workshops on anxiety disorders and depression to both psychological professionals and the general public. John is a member of the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (CAMFT) based in San Diego.

John Tsilimparis also recently published his latest memoir, "MORTAL BONDS," in Kindle version available to be uploaded. The memoir chronicles the difficult dying of a mother and father -- and their deaths within 13 days of each other. It is also an intimate, true account of personal struggle and transformation. "MORTAL BONDS" is about loving and accepting difficult or impossible parents even when they have wounded you almost mortally. It's about overcoming shame, reconciling the past and present. It's about learning to trust life and death.

Visit the "MORTAL BONDS" page on Facebook.

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The Myth of 'Closure' -- One Year After the Boston Marathon Bombings

(1) Comments | Posted April 7, 2014 | 5:44 PM

A few weeks ago, CNN's Anderson Cooper was interviewing a psychologist in Kuala Lumpur who was grief counseling some of the families of the victims of the Malaysia Airlines flight that vanished. Despite the fact that there was still no confirmation that lives were lost -- because the plane had...

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Got Mojo? 6 Tips to Boost Your Self-Confidence

(0) Comments | Posted February 25, 2014 | 12:59 PM

Got Mojo? 6 Tips to Boost Your Self-Confidence

These six tips are "sustainable" forms of powering your self-confidence. If you use them on a daily basis, you can be your own natural resource.

1) Avoid comparing yourself to others:

The old adage still holds true: "When you compare, you...

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Philip Seymour Hoffman's Relapse: Not a Choice But a Consequence

(0) Comments | Posted February 18, 2014 | 5:09 PM

I recently read an article that said Philip Seymour Hoffman made a "choice" by relapsing on heroin -- the fateful choice that lead to his death and reportedly ending up on his bathroom floor with a needle in his arm. The article also went on to say that since he...

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3 Personality Traits That Stress You Out!

(0) Comments | Posted February 12, 2014 | 5:57 PM

Three Personality Traits That Stress You Out!

Can you relate to any of these?

1. Are you a perfectionist?
Americans are obsessed with being the best. We always want to be number one. Our perfectionism about appearances, achieving great success in our careers or getting straight A's in school...

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7 Practical Tips for Reducing Stress

(12) Comments | Posted November 23, 2013 | 9:36 AM

Deep Breathing vs. Shallow Breathing
Breathing deeply can help to reduce your stress and provide oxygen to your brain to help you focus. Most people do not know how to "deep breath" and so they end up breathing shallow breaths which can cause hyperventilation.

Place your hand...

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Celebrities and Drug Addiction: A Perfect Storm

(2) Comments | Posted July 24, 2013 | 5:36 PM

As we have all seen throughout the years, many celebrities and big name stars tragically go hand in hand with addiction. In the recent past, Amy Winehouse, Charlie Sheen, Whitney Houston, Heath Ledger, Lindsay Lohan, Robert Downey Jr., and most currently Cory Monteith.

As an addiction therapist, in the...

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The End of Prop 8: Psychological Pride Is National Pride

(2) Comments | Posted June 28, 2013 | 12:43 PM

As a heterosexual man living in the United States, I do not have the personal experience of being oppressed by others for who I am or denied certain rights as an American. But as a psychotherapist and mental health clinician for the past 20 years, I have been privy to...

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The Boston Bombings: Coping With Trauma

(0) Comments | Posted April 18, 2013 | 3:57 PM

Emotional and psychological trauma is the direct result of very unusually stressful events that tend to fracture our sense of safety and security. These events, like the tragic bombings in Boston this week, leave us feeling vulnerable and scared. It rocks our foundation and makes us doubt our previously-held beliefs...

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The Rational Warrior: Making Peace With Your Anxiety

(1) Comments | Posted January 4, 2013 | 7:20 AM

Making peace with your anxiety and not fighting it is a concept used in everyday mindfulness training that was first introduced to me years ago when I was grappling with severe symptoms of anxiety. Back then, when I first heard it, I thought it was ridiculous. Others might be capable...

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Obama's Victory: Another Big Step for Mankind (and Womankind)

(0) Comments | Posted November 9, 2012 | 9:27 AM

Although I am not very political, I have voted in every election dating back to 1980. I am not an economist or a businessman. I am not a master at foreign policy, I am not a lawyer and I don't know how to fix the health care system. But I...

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Holiday Stress vs. Holiday Blues: Coping With the Hype

(0) Comments | Posted November 5, 2012 | 6:50 AM

What is holiday stress?

There are many reasons why we suffer from holiday stress, but one of the reasons is we unknowingly put undue pressure on ourselves with unrealistic expectations that generally revolve around family, friends, time management and spending.

The holiday hype that starts at the end of Halloween...

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Grief and Loss: Tips on How We Can Help Those Affected

(5) Comments | Posted August 6, 2012 | 8:18 AM

After the 9/11 attacks on American soil that took so many lives, a writer reflected as to why certain horrific life events are so much harder to endure and subsequently so much harder to understand. He discussed the concept of tragedy vs. atrocity. He said that in a tragedy, there...

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7 Tips for Parents to Manage Empty Nest Syndrome

(1) Comments | Posted July 27, 2012 | 2:41 PM

Is empty nest syndrome a real psychological condition to be reckoned with or just a natural process of life? Well, it's both.

With September approaching, many teenagers will be leaving the nest and parents will be left with mixed feelings that are sometimes difficult to manage. Empty nest syndrome is...

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6 Tips For A Healthy, Committed Relationship

(88) Comments | Posted March 9, 2012 | 5:00 AM

Over the many years of treating couples in my private practice, I have used six behavioral directives that help committed relationships last. These directives are of course only effective when both partners are honestly dedicated to the relationship and are willing to change and grow together.

Remember, all couples...

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Break Free From Anxiety: Change Your Belief Systems

(4) Comments | Posted February 16, 2012 | 7:10 AM

If I have a personal belief or a fixed thought that a "real man" is a stoic individual who should never ask for help -- because that indicates weakness -- I will be critical of myself whenever I am sad or whenever I am going through a difficult time. I...

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Creating a Healthier YOU: The Power of Separateness

(2) Comments | Posted December 16, 2011 | 7:22 AM

The kind of separateness we are discussing here does not mean indifference or isolation from others, and it does not mean avoiding intimate relationships either. The power of separateness comes in the form of a human connectedness that values the treasured spaces that exist between us and others. When we...

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Discovering Yourself: Living 'Existentially'

(4) Comments | Posted November 16, 2011 | 8:06 AM

According to existentialist thinkers like Jean Paul Sartre and Soren Kierkegaard, we are born into a cold and empty universe with no meaning. Consequently, when humans fully comprehend this void and isolation is when the "self" is born. The practice of living existentially is a parallel process of defining the...

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What Drives YOU? Take Our Core Values Quiz

(19) Comments | Posted October 22, 2011 | 11:36 AM

Whether we know it or not, we all possess core values that drive our existence. These values are the pillars that support the infrastructure of our lives. They are the reason why we get up in the morning. They are also the fabric of who we are as individuals, because...

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Extreme Acceptance: How to Accept Everything Life Throws at You

(3) Comments | Posted October 9, 2011 | 12:44 PM

Extreme Acceptance: The X Games for the Mind

The concept of "Extreme Acceptance" is purely a state of mind. It is a sweeping mental attitude that in many ways can act as a universal coping skill. It is not a destination or a goal, but instead, the ongoing process of...

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Retraining the Anxious Mind: Challenging 'Consensus Reality'

(19) Comments | Posted September 29, 2011 | 7:54 AM

Over the many years of treating patients suffering from stress, excessive worry and even severe anxiety disorders, I have discovered that many of these individuals cling to the notion of a "consensus reality."

Consensus reality is a cognitive construct we unknowingly subscribe to as ultimate truth. It is a narrow...

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