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Jonathan Alpert is a licensed psychotherapist, executive coach, columnist, and author of the book, BE FEARLESS: Change Your Life in 28 Days. His book is published in the US, the UK, Germany, Brazil, Portugal, Spain, Japan, China, and Taiwan. He is also one of the media’s favorite sources for no-nonsense advice, quotes, and commentary.

His insight is regularly tapped by major national and international media outlets, including television, newspapers, magazines, radio, and online. He has appeared on such nationally televised shows as TODAY, Good Morning America, CNN, FOX News, and NBC Nightly News.

Jonathan’s critically acclaimed New York Times Op-Ed piece In Therapy Still? Enough Already (April 22, 2012) continues to garner international attention and has led to much debate.

Alpert appeared in the 2010 Oscar winning documentary “Inside Job,” where he commented on the psychological underpinnings of the 2008 financial crisis.

As a therapist, he counsels everyone from corporate executives to professional entertainers to the general public. His style of therapy leads to astonishing results and many of Alpert’s clients see improvements by the end of the first session while most graduate from therapy within just a few months.

Entries by Jonathan Alpert

Defeating the Workplace Bully

(0) Comments | Posted April 1, 2014 | 12:24 PM

According to the American Psychological Association (APA), a national survey by the Workplace Bullying Institute indicated that 35 percent of American adults reported that they have experienced bullying behaviors at work and another 15 percent said they have witnessed others being bullied. My practice certainly reflects this. Clients...

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'Honey, We Need to Talk' -- Facing That Dreaded STD Conversation

(0) Comments | Posted March 27, 2014 | 10:48 AM

As we approach National STD Awareness Month in April, it's important to address what for many people can be a hugely anxiety-provoking conversation: speaking to their partner about sexually-transmitted diseases. Let's say you meet someone, are getting to know the person, and intimacy is starting to develop. How...

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The Dos and Don'ts of Getting Past a Breakup

(0) Comments | Posted March 21, 2014 | 2:07 PM

Relationships are a big social experiment. Think about it: Two people meet by a variety of circumstances, whether that be in real life or online, and the hope is that things stick. For most, the desire is to forge a bond and a lasting relationship. The reality, though, is much...

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The Habits of Happy People

(7) Comments | Posted March 16, 2014 | 11:21 AM

Most people have something that gnaws at them at night, a problem or unrealized dream somewhere in their lives that causes them to feel incomplete, dissatisfied and unhappy. For them, happiness feels unachievable and elusive. However, addressing and conquering their fears helps them to achieve what they once thought was...

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10 Signs He's Cheating

(0) Comments | Posted February 26, 2014 | 12:15 PM

There's no doubt that cheating is on the rise. The number of cheaters and victims of cheating I'm seeing is twofold compared to just a few years ago. If this is any indication of the national trend, then it's an epidemic of sorts. Are more people cheating? Quite possibly. But...

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6 Ways to Defeat Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)

(4) Comments | Posted February 21, 2014 | 10:27 AM

The winter of 2014 has not only strained snow removal budgets and school systems, but also peoples' moods. Because of this, I, as a psychotherapist in the Northern Hemisphere of the U.S. have seen an influx of patients for symptoms of Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD). The Polar Vortex and the...

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All Alone? Fearlessly Conquer Valentine's Day Blues

(0) Comments | Posted February 10, 2014 | 12:26 PM

"I feel so sad being alone on Valentine's Day." "Will I be alone forever?"
"I hate being single."

I hear this so very often leading up to Valentine's Day. As long as there's a holiday celebrating love and romance, there will be people who will feel sad, lonely, and...

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'Help! He's More Into Sports Than He's Into Me'

(1) Comments | Posted January 27, 2014 | 2:13 PM

Ladies, just one more game and you will have made it through yet another season of football, hopefully unscathed and your relationship still intact. The sad reality is that simple lifestyle issues and differences in hobbies/interests can wreak havoc on a relationship. In fact, it is one of the top...

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Bedtime Wind-Down: 10 Tips for Better Zzzs

(0) Comments | Posted January 22, 2014 | 1:35 PM

There's no doubt that sleep issues contribute to both mental and physical health problems and also to societal stress. For proof, look no farther than the Metro North train accident on Dec. 1, 2013. Reportedly, the train's engineer fell asleep at the controls as the train approached a curve. Also...

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Raging About Road Rage?

(0) Comments | Posted January 15, 2014 | 11:16 AM

Road rage continues to be a huge problem, as streets and highways are often where people's emotions, dramas, stress, and anxieties play out. I've treated clients who have been on both sides of this: the road rager and the victim. The perpetrator suffers from what is known as Intermittent Explosive...

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Resolutions? 10 Powerful Questions Before You Start

(0) Comments | Posted December 30, 2013 | 1:26 PM

The new year is here, and like so many people, you're probably making resolutions and thinking about all the things in your life that you don't like. For example, maybe the 15 pounds you put on last year, or the career that is still unfulfilling and boring, or the relationship...

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'Mom, Dad... I'm Gay': Tips for Coming Out

(0) Comments | Posted December 17, 2013 | 11:24 AM

The holiday season can sometimes bring up sensitive issues for people and families. Naturally more time is spent with those we're close to so these issues are more salient than they may be during other times of the year. One such issue is coming out to family. For many, the...

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Dealing With the December Dilemma

(0) Comments | Posted December 8, 2013 | 5:14 PM

Christmas and Kwanzaa are just days away, Hanukkah has just ended, and as always, for many people the issue of interfaith relationships still poses a conflict and end up fighting over what to do and where to spend the holidays. If you're fighting over this issue, that tells me three...

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Can Self-Loving End Your Love Life?

(0) Comments | Posted December 2, 2013 | 2:18 PM

Believe it or not, I've been asked many times if self-loving is cheating and about its potential negative impact on relationships and each time I think, "Seriously?" The question usually comes from women concerned about their boyfriends or husbands.

So, the short answer. No, masturbation is not cheating. It is...

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7 Ways to Ruin Everyone's Thanksgiving -- Including Your Own

(0) Comments | Posted November 18, 2013 | 5:52 PM

It's that time of the year again. The time when family dramas and conflicts that have been kept at bay will resurface and issues get stirred up. The time when we have to see people that we wouldn't choose to see the other 364 days of the year. Like clockwork,...

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Found Your Soul Mate? 7 Reasons You Should Wait to Tie the Knot

(0) Comments | Posted November 13, 2013 | 2:41 PM

Time after time patients tell me of their marital problems and I think to myself, if only they had waited to get married, then they probably wouldn't be sitting here right now. So often I hear, "He wasn't like this when I met him." Or, "I had no idea she...

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Fearless Self Image: How You Dress Matters

(0) Comments | Posted October 25, 2013 | 7:36 PM

So many of my clients are influenced by how they look and how they feel. If someone feels depressed and lacks confidence, this is reflected in what they wear, and conversely, if someone has a positive attitude and is confident, that will show in their attire.

I was not...

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The Difference Between Good and Great: My Tips for Being Exceptional

(0) Comments | Posted October 13, 2013 | 4:41 PM

I meet highly successful people every week. Many are accomplished business leaders, entrepreneurs, award-winning entertainers and visionaries -- and all share a commonality: reaching out for help and not being ashamed to do so. These people are truly inspiring and have similar attributes that lead to their success and separate...

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Are You Comfortable Being Uncomfortable?

(0) Comments | Posted October 9, 2013 | 10:10 AM

Have you ever had a friend who has stayed in a horrifically dysfunctional relationship, and thought, "Why doesn't she leave him?" Maybe you've had a friend who has done the same with a work situation. This friend constantly complains about her boss, her coworkers and even the daily tasks. There's...

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Be Fearless: Conquer Your Fear of Flying

(2) Comments | Posted October 1, 2013 | 10:15 AM

Many patients see me for help conquering their fear of flying. This fear, unlike other fears, can be difficult to avoid. As a result, the impact on people is significant. I've had patients who have fits of vomiting days before their anticipated flight and I've known others who load up...

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