Many women come into my office frustrated with the dating scene and fearing they will be single forever. Most of these women's expectations are reasonable: They want a guy who is sensitive, funny, doesn't cheat, and isn't afraid of commitment. They fear that finding such a guy is impossible and that "all guys are jerks."
Here's how to beat that fearful thinking and find that special guy:
- Keep your negativity bias in check. Just because you may have dated a few guys who turned out to be jerks doesn't mean all guys are jerks. Know that as long as you continue to believe they are, though, you won't find a good guy who meets your criteria. Accept the notion that there are more loyal and good-hearted people looking for a relationship than there are jerks looking for relationships. Mathematically, the odds are in your favor.
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