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In 1990, while practicing general law, Joseph E. Cordell realized 85% to 90% of his clients were coming to the Cordell & Cordell firm for domestic relations help.

"During the course of that experience I couldn’t help but notice the challenges consistently facing the guys side of the table when it comes to custody, maintenance issues, and accusations of domestic violence," Mr. Cordell said. "I found in waging those fights that I enjoyed it more. So we proclaimed ourselves as a firm that devoted itself to representing men in domestic relations matters."

Fighting for fathers' rights is what motivated Mr. Cordell to become a divorce lawyer for men.

"I was galvanized by guys who were my clients and trying to get primary custody of their children. Even though they were the better parent, they still couldn't get across the finish line in the courts," Mr. Cordell said. "The more frustrated I became, the more incentivized I was to help them."

Since co-founding the firm with his wife, Yvonne, Mr. Cordell and his team of almost 200 men's divorce lawyers across the country have helped tens of thousands of men going through divorce.

He is the founder of, a popular website for divorced and divorcing fathers, where he contributes articles, videos and other divorce resources, and

He is also the driving force behind, a website focused on empowering, educating and directing men to resources and advocates when their basic rights are violated or compromised because of their gender.

Mr. Cordell is the author of "Your Civil War: A Father's Guide to Winning Child Custody" and "The 10 Stupidest Mistakes Men Make When Facing Divorce."

Mr. Cordell has also written extensively on family law matters. His columns have appeared in the American Conservative, the St. Louis Metrovoice and on

Mr. Cordell speaks at various seminars dealing with topics from domestic relations to bankruptcy to estate planning. He has also hosted numerous family law seminars for the public and fellow attorneys featuring nationally recognized authors.

Mr. Cordell is licensed in Missouri and Illinois.

He received his B.S. in Accountancy from Oklahoma State University and his Juris Doctor from the University of Texas School of Law.

Mr. Cordell is a graduate of the National Institute for Trial Advocacy and holds a Missouri CPA license. He also received his LL.M. from Washington University in St. Louis, Missouri.

Entries by Joseph E. Cordell

5 Tips for Managing Parenting Time During the Holidays

(0) Comments | Posted November 11, 2014 | 12:49 PM

While the holidays are marketed as the most wonderful time of the year, this feeling is often lost on parents and children who have been through divorce.

The holiday season can become incredibly stressful when trying to coordinate schedules and parenting time -- particularly for the first time after divorce...

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Is Your Ex Turning Your Child Against You?

(12) Comments | Posted August 19, 2014 | 7:09 PM

When a divorce involves minor children, their best interests must be kept as a top priority throughout the dissolution process and continuing after the divorce is final.

It is widely accepted that children are far better off maintaining a healthy relationship with both parents when there are no signs...

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Why Moving Out Is the Biggest Mistake in a Divorce

(24) Comments | Posted June 19, 2014 | 5:18 PM

One of the most damaging errors a man can make during his divorce is to voluntarily move out of the marital home. This issue is so prevalent it takes the rank of stupidest mistake number one in my book, The 10 Stupidest Mistakes Men Make When Facing Divorce.

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Another Blow to Fathers' Rights; Dad Barred From Delivery Room

(4) Comments | Posted March 25, 2014 | 3:56 PM

The recent New Jersey ruling blocking an unmarried father from being in the delivery room during the birth of his child has brought to the forefront an issue that desperately needs attention: the rights of an unmarried father.

Under current law, unwed fathers face a long and difficult...

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The Myth of the "Deadbeat Dad" Label

(9) Comments | Posted February 7, 2014 | 9:44 AM

The scornful term of "deadbeat dads" has become increasingly popular in describing fathers who do not uphold their legal responsibility of supporting their children after divorce.

These days, the derogatory title comes with the attached connotations drawing to mind images of fathers who abandon responsibility to their kids and...

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What Not To Do If Your Spouse Denies You Parenting Time

(2) Comments | Posted November 12, 2013 | 6:01 PM

"If I can't see our kid, then you're not getting any money from me!" - a common post-divorce refrain.

After divorce, parents sometimes fail to play fair. They fail to act like adults and in turn, fail to keep in mind what is best for the children.

This often...

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Why Don't More Men Ask For Alimony?

(39) Comments | Posted June 26, 2013 | 3:12 PM

An alimony case in Nebraska successfully argued by one of my law firm's attorneys that the law had to be gender blind should serve as a wake-up call to men that asking for alimony should not be shameful or undignified.

The Nebraska Court of Appeals ruled the lower...

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Disparity Between Child Support and Custody Enforcement

(23) Comments | Posted May 3, 2013 | 2:57 PM

You'll read about it often -- the creative methods judges and other officials use to shame people who owe child support.

There is the man ordered not to procreate. The guy who must tell any female he meets that he owes child support. The dads

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Three Ways To Value Your Home In A Divorce

(21) Comments | Posted March 1, 2013 | 12:18 PM

For many couples, the marital residence is the largest asset obtained during the marriage. Whether you or your spouse wishes to retain the marital residence after the divorce, it is important that an accurate value is obtained for purposes of property division.

Get A Home Appraisal

The most...

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Divorce Tax Tips: Five Most Common Tax Questions

(4) Comments | Posted January 29, 2013 | 12:15 PM

IRS forms can come across as a confusing number jumble (1040, 1099, 8332, W-2). What already is a complex and disconcerting process for many is exacerbated by divorce.

Divorce brings considerable changes to the way you file your taxes and which exemptions and deductions you can claim.

Below are the...

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The Five Musts For Dealing With Domestic Violence In Your Divorce

(144) Comments | Posted October 10, 2012 | 1:20 PM

October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Unfortunately, when guys going through divorce say they are the victims of domestic violence, they are often met with blank stares, suspicion and disbelief.

Oft-quoted statistics would suggest this month is devoted primarily, if not entirely, to drawing attention to violence against...

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The Multiple Meanings Of Custody

(166) Comments | Posted August 17, 2012 | 1:19 PM

Having spent decades representing men in divorce, I have encountered all types of newly separated and divorcing fathers, from those licking their wounds after being blindsided with divorce papers to those confident they will know their way around a courtroom better than Lindsay Lohan.

But all these fathers typically have...

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The Perils of Paternity: What Unwed Fathers Need to Know

(4) Comments | Posted June 15, 2012 | 11:18 AM

Father's Day is upon us, an internationally recognized day to honor and celebrate all fathers. Unfortunately, many dads reading this won't be able to see their kids on Father's Day because of their lack of rights.

There is no doubt when a child is born who the mother is, but...

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What You Need To Know About Prenups

(13) Comments | Posted April 17, 2012 | 7:13 PM

Once seen as an inducement to divorce, and thus a detriment to marriage, prenuptial agreements are now treated as a strength for marriage, though they are not for everyone.

A prenuptial agreement is a contract that re-writes the laws of divorce and estate law. These agreements can...

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Ways To Sabotage Child Custody

(108) Comments | Posted April 2, 2012 | 12:45 PM

Men commonly complain that women are treated better in custody matters by courts. Doubtlessly in some courts, this stereotype is accurate.

Judges are human and susceptible to biases, including the antiquated preconception that children of divorce are better off living with their mothers.

So guys cannot afford to fall any...

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Want Custody Of Your Kids? Get Involved With Their School!

(69) Comments | Posted March 8, 2012 | 12:29 PM

If you are going through divorce, there are many ways you can help your child custody case. Being involved with your children's education is one of the more heavily weighted factors.

A recent article on outlined the profound impact testimony from teachers can have on a judge's...

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Careful Marriage Contract May Facilitate Less Painful Divorces

(7) Comments | Posted January 27, 2012 | 12:20 PM

The single most important economic decision a person will make during their lifetime is deciding to say, "I do."

The second most important economic decision a person will make is deciding to say, "I don't."

Yet very few people pay attention to the implications of the contract of marriage....

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Divorce May Be a 'Discretionary Purchase'

(63) Comments | Posted December 26, 2011 | 3:15 AM

Divorce may make the most sense when you think you can least afford it.

A dissolution isn't cheap, but there are certain times it can be financially advantageous such as now given our country's current economic predicament.

I am not encouraging divorce, but you should not let a poor economy...

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Hiring The Right Divorce Lawyer: First Vital Decision

(13) Comments | Posted November 25, 2011 | 4:00 AM

A lot of guys facing divorce have preconceived notions of the type of attorney they think will be ideal for their case.

Men seem to think having a "pit bull" for an attorney will make all the difference when they come into court for their divorce and child custody case.

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Not Staying On Top Of Things With Your Divorce Case Can Cost You

(18) Comments | Posted November 3, 2011 | 1:40 PM

A common misconception about divorce is that lawyers will take care of everything in your case. Too many men watch their own divorce unfold as idle bystanders without realizing they are the experts in their divorce, not their lawyer.

Failing to fully engage in your case is one of the...

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