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Joyce Marter
Joyce Marter, LCPC has been a licensed psychotherapist since 1998 and
is founder and CEO of Urban Balance, a counseling private practice with nearly 70 therapists working from six locations in Chicagoland.

Marter received her Masters Degree in Counseling Psychology from Northwestern University and was awarded Distinguished Alumni of the Year in 2008. She was selected by Crain's Chicago Business for the "40 Under 40" List of 2010. She currently serves as the President of the Board of the Illinois Mental Health Counselors Association and President Elect-Elect of the Illinois Counseling Association. Marter is a blogger for PsychCentral on The Psychology of Success.

She has a passion for applying psychology to business and is a public speaker for corporations, universities and professional organizations. Marter is routinely consulted as a psychological expert on television, radio and has been featured in such publications such as The Wall Street Journal
and U.S. News.

Entries by Joyce Marter

15 Ways to Live Authentically and Amazingly

(3) Comments | Posted February 13, 2015 | 4:30 PM


Unhappiness can occur when people are not living their lives in a way that is congruent with their authentic selves. This is what I have learned after providing psychotherapy to a diverse clientele for over 20 years.

Also, I've noticed many people get...

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20 Tricks für ein glücklicheres Leben

(1) Comments | Posted October 17, 2014 | 9:51 AM

Ich liebe es, wenn ich feststelle, dass ich lächle und dabei allein bin. Es ist kein gekünsteltes Lächeln, um jemandem zu schmeicheln. Vielmehr entspringt es auf ganz natürliche Weise einer tiefen Glückseligkeit, die mich durchdringt und aus mir heraus strahlt.

Nach vielen Jahren, in denen ich tiefgründig an mir gearbeitet...

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20 Ways To Choose Happiness

(10) Comments | Posted October 15, 2014 | 8:22 AM

I love when I notice I'm smiling when I'm alone. The smile isn't falsely constructed to please anyone else. Rather, it's naturally powered by my inner bliss, which radiates and beams through my being.

After many years of deep, inner work, I'm at a place in my life where I...

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Ignite Your Inner Fire: 25 Inspirational Intentions

(1) Comments | Posted October 6, 2014 | 3:17 PM


Life is a miraculous gift. Yet, as many of us move through time, we seem to have forgotten.

We've grown weary, disconnected, distracted or detached. We've lost our connection with our inner fire -- our unique experience of being alive and belonging in...

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How to Get Out of a Bad Mood: 12 Tips

(0) Comments | Posted October 3, 2014 | 7:34 PM


Large and rapidly moving, ominous clouds of negativity roll into my mind, infuse my thoughts and deeply darken my mood. As I exhale, I feel the irritability fume from my nostrils like fiery smoke from a dragon's. As I bristle with defensiveness and...

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15 Affirmations: Find the Courage to Live the Life You Want

(2) Comments | Posted September 17, 2014 | 10:51 AM

"Only if you stand on my lab table in the front of the room and sing 'Joy to the World'," said Mr. Sneider, my science teacher.

It was the first week of freshman year of high school. I'd forgotten my homework and asked if it could be turned in...

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21 Ways to Let Go and Free Yourself

(6) Comments | Posted August 8, 2014 | 8:32 AM

"In the end, these things matter most: How well did you love? How fully did you live? How deeply did you let go?" -- Buddha

Therapists, coaches and yoga instructors love to tell us, "Just let go!" Sounds divine, yet ambiguous... What exactly is involved in the process of letting...

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Mindfulness for Mind-Blowing Sex: 5 Practices

(0) Comments | Posted July 26, 2014 | 11:29 AM


Electric shivers of euphoria ripple throughout her naked body. The summer breeze encircles the lovers, intensifying the deeply arousing sensation of the wetness on her nipples from his passionate kisses. She gazes into his yearning eyes, effortlessly accessing the opening to his soul...

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50 Loving Sentiments We Should All Say More Often

(5) Comments | Posted July 18, 2014 | 8:25 AM


All too often, we take the people we love the most for granted: our lovers, family members, friends, and even our children. We forget the enormous power of our words, as we carelessly lash out when under stress. We stick our noses in...

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What Death Taught Me About Life: 5 Inspirational Lessons

(3) Comments | Posted July 7, 2014 | 10:18 PM


It was 3 a.m. when I opened my eyes and felt like my body had been hit by a Mack truck. I was in the guest bedroom of my parents' home in Ohio. As I became conscious, I recalled the previous day's unseemly...

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Increase the Resiliency of Your Relationship: 6 Strategies

(0) Comments | Posted July 1, 2014 | 6:47 PM


"Well, you two certainly have a very resilient relationship!" our marital therapist exclaimed to my husband and me several years ago, with obvious surprise and relief detectable in her face and her voice. She was responding to our report that we had nicely...

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25 Affirmations to Align Yourself With the Greater Good

(1) Comments | Posted June 23, 2014 | 12:44 PM


1) I understand that my issues are HOW I am, not WHO I am.

2) I am the whole, unique spirit of LIGHT and LOVE that shines from deep within.

3) I accept all choices I've made as the best decisions I could...

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Self-Love: 10 Keys

(11) Comments | Posted June 18, 2014 | 10:44 PM


Healthy self-love is the balance between low self-esteem (a lack of self-love) and grandiosity (inflated, false self-love that is actually an overcompensation for a lack of true self-love).

The following are key strategies that are critical in practicing self-love:

1) Consciously...

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10 Tips for Better Sex After Kids

(0) Comments | Posted June 10, 2014 | 6:02 PM

"Don't you like my big boobs?" said my client to her husband with a playful smile as they sat on my couch in couples therapy. "When I look at your breasts now, I think of the baby breastfeeding. That is not a turn-on," he responded flatly to his beautiful wife....

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Men Who Work on Themselves Are Sexy

(0) Comments | Posted June 3, 2014 | 6:35 PM


I'm a feminist who loves men. Not only do I appreciate the beauty of the male physique and the intoxicating power of masculine energy--I value the ways in which men process emotions, relationships, and life differently than women.

I've had the deep...

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Mit diesen 25 einfachen Tipps können Sie JEDE Beziehung verbessern

(2) Comments | Posted May 21, 2014 | 11:56 AM

1. Lächeln. Zaubern Sie ein Lächeln auf ihr Gesicht, in Ihre Augen, Ihre Stimme und Ihr Herz so oft es nur geht.

2. Suchen Sie Augenkontakt. Sehen Sie den Menschen offen, warm und direkt in die Augen.

3. Öffnen Sie Ihre Körpersprache. Während Sie die Person, mit der...

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25 Simple Ways to Improve Your Relationships at Work and Home

(4) Comments | Posted May 19, 2014 | 8:11 AM


1. Smile. Put a smile on your face and in your eyes, voice and heart as often as possible.

2. Make eye contact. Look people openly, warmly and squarely in the eye.

3. Open your body language. While facing the person with whom...

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Find Bliss by Going Inward

(0) Comments | Posted May 6, 2014 | 5:56 PM


Many people come into therapy wanting the perfect job, relationship, body or lifestyle that they believe will bring them happiness. This is a normal response to living in a consumer-based culture that tells us we need these things. However, when we look to...

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8 Life Lessons From My 8-Year-Old

(7) Comments | Posted May 6, 2014 | 3:23 PM

Oh, the powerful wisdom that comes from the mouths of babes... If we pay attention, children can remind us of the important aspects of life that many of us have forgotten.

I had the honor of spending some quality time alone with my 8-year-old daughter, Claudia, today. The following...

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How Laughter Can Heal the Heart and Soul

(0) Comments | Posted March 5, 2014 | 10:33 AM


"At the height of laughter, the universe is flung into a kaleidoscope of new possibilities." -- Jean Houston

To me, laughter is a non-sexual orgasm. My mind, body and spirit are tickled, sending waves of euphoria that reverberate throughout me. All that is...

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