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How to Pray: Teaching Children to Talk to God

Posted: 03/ 3/2012 8:00 am

I've taught a lot about prayer over the years and how it is really just talking to God. Prayer is such a basic foundation of a Christian's relationship with God. It's how we communicate and fellowship with Him. But a surprising number of people, young and old, new and even long-time Christians, say they're not satisfied with their prayer life. One reason for this seems to be that people are more concerned with following "rules" for prayer, or praying "right," and aren't confident God will hear or answer them if they don't. But prayer is simply talking to God.
When it comes to teaching children about prayer, I get excited, because if they can grasp this simple truth early enough in life, they will most likely grow up enjoying a fulfilling relationship with God and a satisfying prayer life. Think about it, most kids will talk openly and honestly about almost anything. This is how we can teach them to pray -- openly, honestly, about anything that's on their mind.

As a mother and grandmother, I think kids just need to understand the simplicity of prayer. It's asking God for what we need and believing He will do the best thing for us. It's talking to Him about people we care about, asking Him to help them. Prayer is asking God how to handle a problem we have and doing what He puts in our heart to do. They need to know they can tell God anything at all because He loves them no matter what. They need to realize they can talk to God like they would talk to their very best friend.

So much of the time, kids are taught the way to pray and not simply to do it. They may learn to kneel, to bow their heads, or fold their hands. They might learn certain words to say or to recite a special Bible verse. Now, don't get me wrong, I'm not saying there's anything wrong with any of that. But, while I believe it is very important to teach our children to pray, I think maybe we need to toss out the "rule book" and teach them to do what they do naturally and talk to God.
That's the inspiration for my new children's book, "Every Which Way to Pray." Harley and Hayley Hippo want to pray, but they think prayer is hard work. "There are lots of rules for praying," Harley complains. "You have to do it just right." They even have a rule book that tells them so. But the little hippos learn from a whole zoo-full of their animal friends that they can pray any way they want to. They can kneel or stand to pray. They can say loud or quiet prayers, or they can say long or short prayers. They learn that they can pray any way, anywhere, anytime.

I believe this is so important for children to understand. They can talk to God any way -- just be themselves with God. They can talk to Him anywhere -- at church as well as home or even on the playground. And they can talk to God anytime -- because He loves them and He is never ever too busy for them.

And you know something that's really amazing? The way we teach our kids to pray is exactly the same way we can pray! In Mark 10:14 (NIV), Jesus told His disciples, "Let the little children come to me ... for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these."

You might be wondering, such as who? Well, I believe adults can learn a lot from some of the characteristics of children when it comes to prayer. Children have strong faith; they trust easily -- especially their parents. We can trust our heavenly Father like that. Children are transparent -- they just "keep it real." In the same way, we can talk to God without all the "thees" and "thous." And children are resilient -- they will fight, forgive and play again tomorrow. Our "fight of faith" may be a little more complicated, but we can make it with God's help.

The main thing we need to understand is (and don't underestimate a child's ability to grasp this), it's not the length or the eloquence or the posture of our prayer that matters to God. It's the sincerity of our heart. He doesn't expect us all to pray the same way -- He just wants to communicate and fellowship with us.

So, throw out the rule book and simply talk to God -- any way, anywhere, anytime about anything. Just ask Hayley and Harley Hippo!

 
 
 

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I've taught a lot about prayer over the years and how it is really just talking to God. Prayer is such a basic foundation of a Christian's relationship with God. It's how we communicate and fellowship...
I've taught a lot about prayer over the years and how it is really just talking to God. Prayer is such a basic foundation of a Christian's relationship with God. It's how we communicate and fellowship...
 
 
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04:54 PM on 04/02/2012
God wants to hear from us. He wants us to ask. Not that we get everything we ask for. Loving parents don't give their kids all that they ask for, but everything that they need.

Prayer keeps the relationship going. No communication...no relationship.

I think it's good to teach children these basics about God. They are a lot less jaded than we are when it comes to matters of faith. Maybe that's why Jesus said that "we should become as children".

Thanks.
07:37 AM on 03/16/2012
Why so cynical everyone? If you don't want to pray or teach your children to pray, don't. Many, many people hold their faith near and dear to their heart, so naturally this is something they'd want to share with their children. Everyone has a right to their beliefs without ridicule.
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soma77
Author, Speaker, Retreat Facilitator
09:13 PM on 03/12/2012
I feel we need to teach children to listen to God, it is more important than talking to God. He knows what we want and think. I don't think we need to tell God our plans, but listen to His plans for us.

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05:44 AM on 03/27/2012
Well that would be a One Sided relationship, and He doesn't like those so He told and taught us to pray to Him daily and continuously. Read His Bible and ou will Understand that.
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soma77
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06:45 PM on 03/27/2012
I think the question is about praying. Is it telling God what we want or listening to what God wants? I feel when God is the co-pitlot, I need to switch seats, but what ever works. There are many paths to the Lord.
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chaapai
just an earthbound misfit, I
03:20 AM on 03/09/2012
I gave up talking to imaginary friends when I was about 7. I simply couldn't believe that adults around me continued to do so.
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Tribidemp
This shall remain empty.
01:47 PM on 03/08/2012
“…people are more concerned with following "rules" for prayer, or praying "right," and aren't confident God will hear or answer them…”
What, did you not use enough postage to get your prayer there?

But seriously, I encourage my children to speak to imaginary beings as well. My oldest talks to an alien from the planet of Zeta Reticuli, and my youngest speaks to an invisible bear named Mishka. Imaginary friends can be fun, as long as they don’t ask the kids to perform mass genocide. Mass genocide is bad.
01:31 PM on 03/08/2012
It's sad what this thread has turned into. I take 2 things from this article. First that there is no wrong way to pray and second that the kid's have it right. We do not need fancy words or phrases to pray. We simply need to state what is in our hearts. For those who do not pray regularly or at all, it may be hard to comprehend but I can only speak for myself when I say that when I pray, I give THANKS for the many blessings I have been given. The "requests" I make are generally for the health and welfare of those that I know and love and some I don't know but I feel touched by their situation that I have heard about somehow. Who does not want to raise a child who has compassion and hope?
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Rador
And so it goes.
01:05 AM on 03/08/2012
What keeps humankind well psychologically cannot always be simmered down to what a group of people consider to be rational thought. That's where I think there is a disconnect between the atheist and the believer. I have found that some of my best moments in life have been during difficult circumstances and it is directly attributable to the bond I have with the God of my faith. I wouldn't for a moment desire that to change and I don't look back and say, "Everything is fine, I was so silly to have trusted in God." No, what I am compelled to conclude is that regardless of what happens, God is right here, He knows each and every detail, He is aware and He cares. It's the same thing I conclude about my earthly parents and it's only made more plain by being a parent. I desire this for all children because it is good; and it is healthy. The only regret I have is that I was an adult before I discovered this.
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lordgamble
ATWWWHG And They Wonder Why We Hate Gov't
02:12 AM on 03/10/2012
Glad you discovered this no matter when the day came.
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Rador
And so it goes.
02:28 AM on 03/10/2012
Thanks friend.
12:36 AM on 03/08/2012
December 3, 1954 People prayed all over the world for Pope Pius to recover from his illness : He died shortly thereafter.
01:32 PM on 03/08/2012
this statement is meaningless to the intended audience of this article (Christians), because Christians know that the purpose of prayer is not to ask for our personal desires or self-serving plans, but to match these desires/plans with His will for us.
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chaapai
just an earthbound misfit, I
03:21 AM on 03/09/2012
LMAO! Not any christians I know. Certainly not the majority I have on my Facebook page that routinely beg Gawd to fulfill their personal desires and then praise his wisdom when they do get lucky and have a personal desire provided for them. All in the most public place and manner possible.
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mrkurtzhedead
I'll be back, when it's dark!
05:43 AM on 03/09/2012
"...but to match these desires/plans with His will for us". Then what, pray tell, is the point of prayer at all? His plans are made, their results inevitable, so what could possibly be the point? And if his will, for example, is for my three-year old daughter to die slowly from a painful disease, then why would I want anything to do with such a monster?
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Rador
And so it goes.
10:34 PM on 03/07/2012
Fellowship with God is where it's at. It's really what we were created for. It converts head knowledge to heart knowledge and brings peace like nothing else will. This is an excellent thing to teach children because they need to know they are never alone.
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Ekimus
True Believer
12:49 PM on 03/08/2012
The problem is that you have zero proof that God exists. Prayer can have positive affects, but this is a plecebo effect. Studies have shown that if a prayer recipient is unaware of people praying for their benefit, the benefit is zero.
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Rador
And so it goes.
01:21 PM on 03/08/2012
*Chuckle* There's no problem on this end.
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Andres64
Religion is a sectually transmitted disease.
02:53 PM on 03/08/2012
--Fellowship with God is where it's at.

Really? You have a "fellowship" with an invisible friend that you've never seen nor spoken with?

-- It's really what we were created for.

What is?

-- It converts head knowledge to heart knowledge

"Heart knowledge"? Is that like colon knowledge?

-- and brings peace like nothing else will.

According to...?

--This is an excellent thing to teach children because they need to know they are never alone.

It *might be* IF you had any evidence that it's true. Do you?
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Rador
And so it goes.
03:33 PM on 03/08/2012
Well, I'll just say decades of experience build confidence.
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grailknight
is happily godless
07:16 PM on 03/07/2012
More like teaching children to talk to themselves.
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timm553
In vino veritas
04:56 PM on 03/07/2012
They would do better teaching their children "how to' think rather than "what to" think. Those ancient superstitions and myths only confuse them; and that's just what the religious leaders strive for.
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timm553
In vino veritas
04:45 PM on 03/07/2012
If their religion teaches that all that happens is "gods plan", then praying is an attempt to thwart that plan, isn't it?
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mrkurtzhedead
I'll be back, when it's dark!
05:55 AM on 03/09/2012
"What's the use of being God if any run-down schmuck with a two-dollar prayer book can come along and (muck) up your plan?"

Carlin said it best :http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gPOfurmrjxo&feature=related

The whole thing is fantastic and the prayer part starts around the four-minute mark.
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busterggi
I'm a Sally Randian
04:44 PM on 03/07/2012
I hope you also teach them not to expect to get what they pray for - it'll save them lots of disappointment and hold off their atheism for a few more years.
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mcmutter
A Groover has to expect a few setbacks .....
11:27 AM on 03/07/2012
...... whatever gets you through the night .....
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Hellova Stoner
I throw stones
10:59 AM on 03/07/2012
"The hard work of one, does more than the prayers of millions"
Is a more rational thing to teach your children.