Recently I was on a radio talk show speaking about my new book, Befriending Your Ex After Divorce: Making Life Better for You, Your Kids and Yes, Your Ex. Someone called in and in an irate voice asked: "Befriend your ex? Why? What if you hate your ex?...

Much to my chagrin, just six months ago my ex-husband, Arnold Rabinor was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. I was in the process of completing my book, Befriending Your Ex After Divorce: Making Life Better for You, Your Kids and Yes, Your Ex and Arnie and I had frequently joked...

Recently, I was reminded of the power of small acts of kindness. I was at my ex-husband Arnie's house. Arnie had passed away suddenly and unexpectedly only months earlier. Now, just being in his house brought up a residue of feelings from when he was so sick: loss, sadness and...

A recent New York Times article about divorce has it all wrong.

Pamela Paul's article, titled Kramer.com vs. Kramer.com, is about new online software for divorced couples that allows them to communicate solely via email and text. The article promotes the stereotype of warring divorced couples and...

In early July of this year, just after I had completed writing and putting the finishing touches on my new book, Befriending Your Ex After Divorce: Making Life Better for You, Your Kids and Yes Your Ex, my 68-year-old ex-husband, Arnie Rabinor, was diagnosed with non-operable pancreatic cancer....

Several weeks have gone by since I met with Kim, a mom who was beating herself up because of her daughter's endless struggle with an eating disorder. In reality, Kim was not in danger of losing her daughter either psychologically or physically, yet she found herself in a near panic....

I'd been seeing Kim for over a decade when she called me late one evening. Her voice was barely audible; I'd never heard her sound so low.

"The big presentation I'm supposed to be giving on Friday -- instead of preparing for it, I've been in bed crying," she stammered....

Recently Rhonda, (a pseudonym) came into my office in a state of despair. She'd been separated from her ex for three years and they had worked hard at creating what seemed to be an amicable custody arrangement. Now, for seemingly no discernable reason, her 12 year old son Marty was...

Last week I ran into a young woman (I'll call her Marielle) on the street. She reminding me that I'd precipitated a turning point in her relationship with her mother -- and in her life.

We'd met a decade earlier when I'd given a talk at her high school. "After...

Divorced families are often described as disconnected, diminished and cut off, but last week I met with an old friend, Brandy, who reminded me that this stereotype is often unfair and inaccurate. Brandy's story offers the opposite lesson: that while divorce brings with it many problems, it can expand and...

Like many women who divorce, I took my time finding a second husband. For much of the 13 years between marriages, I doubted I would ever remarry. It wasn't the falling-in-love part that scared me--it was the staying-in-love part that seemed daunting. But life has a way of surprising us,...

I recently had dinner with three college friends I hadn't seen in decades, all of us now divorced. Before we knew it, we were talking about our exes. First, Ruth casually mentioned that she was looking forward to having lunch with her ex-husband; they speak frequently, not only about their...