It's not surprising that you gained back most of the weight you lost after your first weight loss surgery -- so many people do. I'm glad to hear that you've now lost 30 pounds following a second lap band procedure. There are, though, a number of important skills you need to learn if you want to keep the weight off for good this time.
I would bet that no one ever taught you essential skills such as: how to motivate yourself to make healthy choices every day, what to do when you experience a craving; how to get yourself to exercise (even when you don't feel like it), how to get immediately back on track when you make an eating mistake, and how to cope with negative emotions without turning to food.
My guess is that the number on your scale is still going down and so you probably feel quite motivated at the moment. But what will happen once your weight loss plateaus? Your daily weigh-ins on the scale won't be so thrilling then. And you'll probably experience more temptations and cravings. Is this what happened last time? Did you begin to have (sabotaging) thoughts like, "I don't care. I know I'm not supposed to eat this, but I'm going to anyway?" These types of thoughts are common among dieters, especially dieters who struggle with keeping weight off. Fortunately, though, you can start practicing now for the difficult times you're likely to face.
One important technique I want you to know about is predicting the kinds of sabotaging thoughts you're likely to have in the future. You probably had these same types of thoughts in the past. Write each one on a card. Then write what you wish you would be able to remember so that you can respond to them effectively, not give in to them, and stick to your new eating plan.
You might have the thought, for example, "It won't matter if I eat this food that I'm not supposed to eat." How do you hope you might respond to that thought? Do you think it would be helpful if you told yourself, "No, it absolutely does matter! I'm just fooling myself. Thoughts like that have always led me to gain back weight in the past. And every time I give in, I increase the likelihood I'll give in the next time. It's so worth it to me to stick to my plan and resist temptation. I'd rather reach my weight loss goals than eat this now."
This is just one technique from our cognitive behavioral program for weight loss and maintenance. There is a lot to learn, but won't it be worth it if you can keep the weight off for good this time?
Judith S. Beck, Ph.D.
Beck Institute for Cognitive Behavior Therapy
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