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Judy Bolton-Fasman is an award-winning writer who writes about family life at She is also writing a memoir called 1735 Asylum Avenue -- her childhood address.

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Advice for the Graduate

(1) Comments | Posted May 22, 2016 | 8:10 PM

No one remembers graduation speeches--sometimes not even the speaker. And post-graduation advice is rarely welcomed. But I'm weighing in anyway and hope that something resonates with my graduate and yours.

1. You will always be the correct weight.

2. Don't fill out questionnaires anonymously.

3. Someone once...

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Feathering the Nest

(0) Comments | Posted May 8, 2015 | 4:38 PM

Dear Son:

The other day you got in the car, took a deep breath and cheerfully declared that it smelled like your childhood. I had just gotten a manicure -- something I did more regularly when you were little -- and I too was transported back in time. But what...

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Hey Jude

(0) Comments | Posted February 7, 2014 | 12:07 PM

Fifty years ago, the Beatles came to America and told gaggles of screaming teenage girls, "I wanna hold your hand." But I first heard the song at my uncle's wedding in 1967. I was the six-year-old flower girl with the plastic daisy crown that wanted to dance all night because...

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Sunrise, Sunset: A Son Rises

(1) Comments | Posted February 3, 2014 | 4:49 PM

These days, I shade my eyes and look into the distance from my almost empty nest, remembering not only my children's "firsts," but also the last moments of actively parenting kids who were once wholly dependent on me. As I write this on a very snowy day, I go back...

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One Stitch At a Time: Anne Lamott's Homespun Theology

(2) Comments | Posted January 2, 2014 | 9:56 AM

Anne Lamott is one of my rabbis. I know Ms. Lamott is not Jewish, but over the years she has crafted a homespun theology that is kind and wise and downright sensible.

In her latest book, Stitches: A Handbook on Meaning, Hope and Repair, Lamott tells readers we live "Stitch...

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Being Both: Susan Katz Miller's Interfaith Journey

(0) Comments | Posted December 19, 2013 | 2:24 PM

It has been more than a decade since my children entered Jewish day school and I don't regret a minute of their education there. But in the beginning my husband and I paused over the fine print of the application that asked us to confirm that our children had a...

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Thanksgivukkah and Anatevka

(0) Comments | Posted November 15, 2013 | 2:32 PM

It had been 40 years since my last violin lesson when I went this summer to rent a violin to start up again. I glimpsed the stock room where there were hundreds of violins, still and gleaming and soundless, coming together in a symphony of silence.

It's funny what...

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The Parent Backpack

(0) Comments | Posted September 23, 2013 | 12:26 PM

When my daughter was 11-years-old she asked if I would read Huckleberry Finn to her. Not one to want to miss out, my 8-year old son asked if he could listen to the story as well. I was hesitant to read the book to my young children. How would I...

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Cooking Fun, Cooking Healthy With ChopChop Magazine and Cookbook

(0) Comments | Posted September 9, 2013 | 9:22 AM

I don't cook very well. My family is bored with my rotating repertoire of chicken, turkey meatballs and pasta with kosher turkey sausage. I did have a creative period where I made chicken fajitas and a pretty decent meatloaf. But those didn't last long. My excuse is that I'm always...

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A Resolution for the Jewish New Year

(2) Comments | Posted August 27, 2013 | 4:24 PM

Hallel Abramowitz-Silverman has a fervent wish -- to see her younger sister Ashira celebrate her bat mitzvah at the Wailing Wall, the kotel in Jeruslaem.

At just 18-years-old, Hallel is one of the public faces of Women of the Wall (WoW). For nearly a quarter of a century, the...

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Should I Stay or Should I Go?

(5) Comments | Posted August 16, 2013 | 5:06 PM

My husband and I are folding clothes on a Sunday night. Bless him for helping me tackle the mountain of wrinkled shirts and pants. Not to mention that we were running out of underwear. And bless him for not blaming me for letting the laundry get so out of control;...

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To My Future Child-in-Law

(0) Comments | Posted July 24, 2013 | 6:38 PM

Dear Future Child-in-Law:

I've been dreaming about you for a long time. I've already conjured you with a heady mix of my imagination, my heart and my soul, where you are the perfect mate for my child. A romantic like me might say you complete my child, but the truth...

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The Perils of Re-entry

(0) Comments | Posted June 10, 2013 | 11:39 AM

If you were a child in the '60s or '70s, it seemed like there was a spaceship launching into the heavens every week. A rocket and a plume of smoke and off the brave astronauts went into the unknown, possibly bumping into God.

Launching a spacecraft is one thing....

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The Radius of the Boston Bomb

(0) Comments | Posted April 17, 2013 | 10:57 AM

When you move to Boston there are three things that you must accept: You are forever a member of Red Sox Nation; you'll never get used to someone passing you in the breakdown lane on Route 128; and the Boston Marathon is what we really celebrate on Patriots' Day.

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Magnified and Sanctified: Women and Kaddish at the Western Wall

(3) Comments | Posted April 8, 2013 | 12:00 PM

Last week, 15 narrow-minded, hard-hearted men tried to outlaw women saying the Kaddish at the Western Wall. There was so much blowback for these dubious caretakers of the Western Wall that they rescinded their ban on women gathering to mourn their dead at Judaism's holiest site.

I cannot imagine,...

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Dragon Mothers and Grieving Parents

(0) Comments | Posted March 27, 2013 | 5:01 PM

There is no one fiercer or scarier or more real in this world than a dragon mother. Dragon mothers are mothers who grieve for children who have died or are terminally ill. Dragon mothers breathe fire and scorch everything in their path.

Emily Rapp is a dragon mother, a...

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The Secrets of Happy Families

(0) Comments | Posted February 20, 2013 | 5:00 PM

With the rise of the digital age and parents caught between raising children and trying to help their own parents, best-selling author and New York Times columnist on contemporary families Bruce Feiler decided that it was time to write a new playbook for the 21st century family. The...

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(5) Comments | Posted February 16, 2013 | 6:26 AM


Until last month, the phone number was in my family for almost half a century. But call the number today and you'll hear a terse message that it has been disconnected. It took 15 years for 523-0765 to become a non-working number. The drawn-out campaign that my sister,...

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A Letter to My Daughter on Balancing Work and Life

(0) Comments | Posted January 11, 2013 | 4:32 PM

Dear Anna,

I watch you carry on with your dream of going to medical school and I'm already worried about the work-life balance issues you will inevitably face. Having a profession will present you with a unique set of challenges that men don't encounter. We are socialized to be the...

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'Help, Thanks, Wow' and Amen

(1) Comments | Posted December 28, 2012 | 11:43 AM

Help, thanks, wow. Those are the touchstones of prayer identified by the writer Anne Lamott. Lamott is a person of faith, a Christian who has something to say to everyone. The word "inclusive" comes to mind when I think about Lamott. She's a church-going equal opportunity ecumenist, which is why...

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