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Judy Rickard
Judy Rickard, author of Torn Apart: United by Love, Divided by Law (Findhorn Press, 2011), has worked to promote civil rights since 1973 as a lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) rights activist. She has extensive experience working with politicians and educators in San Jose/Santa Clara County, Calif., where she lives. Speaking engagements, a blog, and a website continue her advocacy for comprehensive immigration reform that will include the recognition of same-sex binational couples and their families in the United States. She is a pioneer in applying for a green card for her wife, UK national Karin Bogliolo, with The DOMA Project. She is also a volunteer/contributor with/to lgbtSr, Immigration Equality, Love Exiles Foundation, Out4Immigration, DeVote Campaign, American Immigration Council.

Entries by Judy Rickard

Wedding Bells Ring at Any Age

(1) Comments | Posted March 28, 2014 | 4:39 PM

Neither of them can remember much detail, other than it was "that kiss" that first sealed it. It was in 1992, in the hallway at Arlene's house, either after dropping off or before picking up her then teen-aged daughter from basketball practice or something.

Everyone's story is different, and yet...

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Update on Post-DOMA 'Meet the Feds' Round 2: Social Security

(0) Comments | Posted September 24, 2013 | 11:22 PM


We had our meeting with Social Security to finalize the procedure and provide the information that the representative still needed. We had an appointment, and things could not have gone more smoothly.

Social Security decided on the date that Karin's residency began. It was...

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Post-DOMA 'Meet the Feds' Round 2: Social Security

(2) Comments | Posted September 19, 2013 | 7:41 PM

It's been an interesting, trailblazing summer for us since Karin got her green card in late July, following DOMA's fall in late June. The first thing she did was take a five-week visit to the UK to see our family there while I stayed home to recuperate from all the...

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Post-DOMA Decision Thoughts for Our Green Card-seeking Community

(2) Comments | Posted August 27, 2013 | 2:55 PM

It's been two months since the world changed for same-sex binational families. The Supreme Court decision on section three of DOMA made a sea change in the lives of thousands of gay and lesbian families who have been torn apart and faced tremendous personal, professional and financial obstacles to keep...

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The Glass Wall That Divides Us

(14) Comments | Posted August 5, 2013 | 10:47 AM

For decades, Americans have known of the glass ceiling -- that often unspoken barrier, a level that women could not move beyond in career advancement. It was clearly gender discrimination and happily, we see that it has become mostly a thing of the past.

Another Glass Wall -- What...

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My Government Recognizes My Marriage and Welcomes My Wife! Karin Got Her Green Card!

(15) Comments | Posted July 26, 2013 | 6:18 PM

Finally, long years of being sad and separated are over for my wife and me, as well as for thousands more same-sex binational families. Since the Supreme Court dismissed Section 3 of the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) on June 26, 2013, my wife is my wife in Uncle Sam's...

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Do I Have 'Post-DOMAtic Stress Disorder'?

(4) Comments | Posted July 16, 2013 | 4:19 PM

The court ruled. DOMA is gone as far as my immigration issue for my wife is concerned. Other families like ours are being processed for green cards or beginning the whole cycle either with marriage or, if married, with applications for spousal green cards with U.S. Customs and Immigration Services.

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No Mo' DOMA! I've Got My Wife, I've Got My Life!

(8) Comments | Posted June 29, 2013 | 9:00 AM

When the Supreme Court, in a 5-4 vote, ruled Section 3 of the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) unconstitutional, Edie Windsor got her money back, but thousands of us got our lives back -- literally. It's not possible to say how many same-sex binational couples, many with children, are affected...

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DOMA Goes: What Do I Do?

(16) Comments | Posted June 23, 2013 | 9:00 AM

When the Supreme Court gives the decision that strikes down the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA), I will have a lot to do!

1. Kiss and hug my wife, Karin Bogliolo.

2. Call and thank our attorney, Lavi Soloway.

3. Call and thank all those who have worked so hard...

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DOMA Stays: What Do I Do?

(24) Comments | Posted June 21, 2013 | 7:02 PM

The looming cloud of the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) has been making me stressed, sad and worried for way too long. I went to the doctor to get some help, and we adjusted my meds to help me cope. She told me I needed to know what I was...

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Coming Out to Family -- Six of Them, and All Mine

(6) Comments | Posted June 19, 2013 | 2:04 PM

I spent a lot of years in the 1950s and '60s as a tomboy. I wasn't upset or concerned. It was who I was, and in spite of having to wear dresses when I didn't want to, I got to wear pants and shorts a lot, so I don't remember...

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A Story of Three Flags: Mine, Hers and Ours

(7) Comments | Posted June 17, 2013 | 2:29 PM

June 14, Flag Day, made me stop and think again about the symbolism of flags and how a simple piece of cloth is so much more than that.

My flag is red, white and blue -- the Stars and Stripes. My country and citizenship is United States of America/American.


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Living in DOMA's Shadow, Now Waiting Under the Bus for SCOTUS to Seal Our Fate

(49) Comments | Posted June 14, 2013 | 9:45 PM

DOMA. One of the worst four-letter words I have ever heard. DOMA threatens my marriage, my wife, my health, my sanity, and my future. And worse, many people don't even know about it and its harrowing control over the lives of thousands of same-sex binational families and married military couples...

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