As I set out on my latest speaking tour (I give talks about finding meaning in our work), I'm thinking ahead to what I'll need to bring. Not just my speech and copies of my new book ("Ripe: Rich, Rewarding Work After 50"), but the food I'll have to pack, too.
My relationship to food was once relatively straightforward. As a child, it was meat, potatoes, and two vegetables (thanks, mum!). As my palette matured, I tried all kinds of things. Spicy? Bring it on! Octopus, rabbit, smelly cheese? Why not? And I even swerved a few times into the "ism" of the day, like vegetarianism, when my first husband and I lived on a farm in the 1970s -- though our friends did have a cow they called "Hamburger."
But when I crossed into my 50s, my body started demanding an entirely new regimen. We're not talking preferences but essentials. If I don't eat in this new way, my brain doesn't work, I get mood swings, and rapidly gain weight (thanks, Michael Pollan, for trying to simplify things, but your approach doesn't work for me. Bread? Yikes!).
What do I eat? When the rest of my friends are devouring oatmeal for breakfast, I'm diving into fish and blueberries (yep, just like a bear). When my friends order take-out pizza for movie night (so healthy with thin crust and just a little cheese!), I arrive with baked chicken and steamed vegetable in a cute little container. When others have a martini, I ask for still water (the expensive, fancy bottled stuff!). When they're having dessert, I'm eating a square of 90 percent chocolate that I brought in my handbag.
Though it feels like it sometimes, I know I'm not the only one who now eats outside the norm. For us, it's not about deprivation or ideology, but about giving our bodies and brains what they need to thrive.
Wondering what I'll take on the road? Nuts, raw vegetables and a brand of snack bar that works for me (I won't plug it, but it's taken me years of trial and error to find one that gets me through when the only airport options are muffins, pretzels and dill pickles.)
Sometimes, lying in bed late at night, I make a mental list of all the things I once loved and can no longer consume -- like champagne, frites and blueberry pie. In "I Feel Bad About My Neck," humorist Nora Ephron advised young women -- who have no idea how great they look and how short-lived their youthful beauty will be -- to immediately put on their bikinis. My advice to everyone under 50 is to eat all the hot sauce and tortilla chips you can get your hands on... because it may be your last chance.
OK, HuffPost-ers, what do you eat now that you're over 50? Do you have food habits others consider strange? Does your new way of eating make life difficult when you're eating with others or traveling? And what about you, restaurateurs and innkeepers? Is it more complicated than ever to meet the needs of your clientele?
Julia Moulden is an author, speaker, and columnist.
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In the meantime, I think we all just too "faddish" about food and diet.
I always look to my grandmother, who lived a healthy life (in her own home - never sick) until she passed recently at nearly 99....very unexpectedly, mind you (if you can believe it).
I believe it's the old adage of diet and exercise and just simply having a routine.
She ate three meals a day....like clockwork.
She got up at the same time everyday and always had something to do - even walking to the mailbox was good "exercise", gardening and just keeping busy.
Granted, she didn't travel and eat out as much as we do today, but ate bacon when she felt like it, never deprived herself of a dessert and liked KFC...on occasion.
So take-out was not the norm, but fresh-picked blueberries from her own berry bush, and other home grown fruits and veggies were part of her daily life.
The secret, I think, is just to eat with common sense and move your body. She did it all her life and, in fact, struggled to keep weight on her 4' 11" 70+ pound frame at 90+.
She was tiny...but strong.
She's my model....for life! :)
do you find it hard to eat out? or with others?
i take courage and strength from hearing stories of people who also have to find their own path. thanks, singermuse!
I'm beginning to believe that as we age, we have no other choice but to eliminate food that does not nourish our body.
love what you wrote, especially 'fruits and vegetables again taste delicious' -- so true!
thanks, mizflagpin
I added a special new formula with green tea extract ++ , reduced my portions, increased my protein and veggies. Eliminated sugar,flour and oils in cooking & dressings. Just for this period , allowing my metabolism to shift gears. I"m now maintaining these choices because I feel 100% better in my digestion. I've added pre/pro biotics, juice plus chewables, multi vit/min, anti oxidant beverages, new products to me that support my immune, digestive, endocrine systems.
I'm regenerating at a level I've only thought about and now have put into action.
I am inspired to continue ... yes, I miss my patterns I lived with so long ... and I'm willing to sacrifice those very habits that were keeping me from my highest potential health wise.
Thanks for asking.
and i'm totally with you on the whole 'willing to sacrifice' thing -- so much better to feel great and have the energy (including mental/emotional) to do what we want to do with our lives!
great that you can still drink red wine... for pleasure and health! salute!
funny that you're the second person to write about having hot chocolate for breakfast. that's so european...
I came to that same conclusion about two years ago, myself! I'm not sure its the bread per se, or the realtive ease with which you can put al sorts of 'nasty things' between two slices and eat without giving it a thought. It turns out that peanut butter and jelly are remarkably inconvenient things to injest if bread is not involved.