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Can You Find Joy in Air Travel?

Posted: 03/26/11 01:12 PM ET

I will never forget the first time I flew. It was 1967, and we were on a Canadian Air Force plane. Four propellers carried us across the Atlantic toward Europe, while my siblings and I sat around a table, colouring and playing board games. I was smitten.

Fast forward 40 years. A few days ago, I would have confessed that I had become a jaded traveler. Lots and lots of flights to four continents, delivering speeches about how to find meaning in our work, combined with the new realities of air travel, had squeezed all the joy out of the experience for me.

But then two things happened.

First, on a flight out of Toronto, I sat across the aisle from a young mother and her two children -- a girl about 6 and a boy perhaps 8 years old. When our plane took off -- when we felt the thrust and lift-off so familiar to those of us who have flown a million times -- the little ones let out an astonished "whee!" And the entire plane erupted into delighted laughter.

On a second aircraft -- this one out of LA -- the entertainment system wasn't working. This meant that the passengers actually talked to one another and looked out the windows at the spectacular scenery below. Even the captain got into it, pointing out which state we were flying over and naming the mountain ranges. When was the last time you heard that kind of running commentary?

I came off each flight grinning. And you could see the difference in the faces of the crew, too.

It's not that flying is going to become easier (the airline industry continues to face tough times), but I wonder if we might find new ways to embrace the voyage -- to discover small corners of pleasure in what has become a boring and unpleasant experience.

If you want to laugh about it all, you might try Henry Mintzberg's classic, "The Flying Circus: Tales of a Tormented Traveller." It's a hilarious rant and a great outlet for our frustrations. (Mintzberg is a Cleghorn Professor of Management Studies at the Desautels Faculty of Management at McGill University in Montreal, and a fellow HuffPost blogger.)

In fact, let's exchange stories here and now. What are your best and worst air travel tales? What delighted you? What drove you out of your mind? Tell us about the first time you flew, and maybe even the time you swore you'd never get on a plane again. We're all ears!

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10:27 PM on 03/29/2011
I just posted on my blog http://tiny.cc/ns4ou about my great experience on a recent United flight. The flight attendant was wonderful. She had a great attitude, greeting each passenger with a smile, joking around with the younger ones and generally offering fabulous service. It was such a refreshing experience that I even sent an email to the head of United to let him know about her.

Kathy Ameche
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Julia Moulden
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06:52 AM on 03/30/2011
How fantastic! And so, so pleased to hear that you took the initiative and wrote to United to let them know about this incredible woman. (May she inspire us all...) Thanks for sharing this story, Kathy!
12:03 PM on 03/28/2011
I love airports....the rhythm from the pulse of people from all over the world on the move...I find it very energizing. As for enjoying a flight, I always have a book or magazine I have been saving to sit and read, unplugged from the world.
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Julia Moulden
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12:33 PM on 03/28/2011
Nice! Airports are energizing, aren't they? Your comment reminds me of someone I wrote about in RIPE (new book, coming soon!) who says she puts on her 'cone of silence' every time she gets on a plane and gets things done. Thanks for this reminder of how positive the experience can be, Lisbeth35!
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Barbara Hannah Grufferma
author, The Best of Everything After 50
09:24 AM on 03/28/2011
Hi Julia!
I find joy every time I step on a plane and I know it's going to Italy!
Best,
Barbara
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Julia Moulden
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09:38 AM on 03/28/2011
Thanks, Barbara. And LOL. Reminds me of the flight attendant who once told me that when people complain about the food she laughs and says, "When was the last time a restaurant took you to Paris?" It's all about perspective!
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french queen13
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11:50 PM on 03/27/2011
My best trip was the one time I could afford business class - KLM Melbourne-Amsterdam-Edinburgh in 2000. More space, no kids, and delightful staff. I had a toy cat with me (she was like an old-fashioned doll with cloth body and ceramic head and paws) who wore Victorian clothes I'd made for her, and the staff fell in love with her at first sight. The purser came up and introduced herself and asked "Is Miss Dinah sitting here?" Turns out her mother collected dolls. It was a great trip.
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french queen13
my beloved is mine and I am his
11:47 PM on 03/27/2011
Let's see.

Worst flight: 1993, British Airways, Melbourne to London. That's a very long haul, about 26 hours I think. On board near us was a woman taking her granddaughter back to Ireland. It was no time before this woman was freaking out because she wasn't allowed to smoke (it wasn't that long after smoking had been banned on planes). She was also losing it because her granddaughter, who was about two-ish, was screaming and crying, obviously in pain from the air pressure. Mad Irish Granny stood up and screamed to the world in general that her name was whatever-it-was and she demanded to be let off the plane. Given we were however many hundreds of feet in the air and over the Central Australian desert at the time, everyone thought this was a great idea. She shut up then, but later totally lost it, picked up her screaming granddaughter and slammed her against the bulkhead. At that point the crew jumped her. She was sedated for the rest of the trip (so was the little girl, I think) and the Met were waiting to arrest her at Heathrow.
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french queen13
my beloved is mine and I am his
11:53 PM on 03/27/2011
I forgot to add that the trip was already stressful because one of my cats came up with a swelling on his neck the day before I had to leave, and we had to leave him at the vet instead of the cattery. He had malignant cancer, as I only learned by fax in London, and had to give the okay from there for him to be put to sleep before he was in pain. No goodbye.
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Julia Moulden
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07:09 AM on 03/28/2011
Oh, my, that's quite a story. Wow. People can really go beserk in these little flying tubes, can't they? I sometimes marvel at how even-tempered the crew remain in the face of it all...

And so sad that your trip included the news of loss, too. Very, very hard to do that when you're in close proximity -- cannot imagine how heartbreaking without the good-bye.

Thanks for sharing, french queen13.
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cinemaven
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08:18 PM on 03/27/2011
I love those moments like the ones you spoke of Julia... excellent article.

I was 7 on my first flight from Scotland to Canada as an immigrant in 1966... that began my love affair with flying. It's never become routine for me no matter how often I fly. I love it and I get as excited as a little kid every time. Almost every flight I'm on, I have someone ask me if it's my first because they see me shining.
I remember the days when the whole plane would burst into applause on touch down and I still feel like cheering but I try to control myself.
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Julia Moulden
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07:06 AM on 03/28/2011
Oh, but don't control yourself! I have that impulse, too. Let's both do it next time and see if we can start a trend... How lovely the crew will feel when they hear it. We all work so hard and get so little praise for what we do each day. The ceiling becomes the floor... thanks, cinemaven (and do let us know when you next fly -- and applaud!)
VA Jill
Retired RN, Army mom. Bring the troops home!
06:13 PM on 03/27/2011
I don't mind the flying part, it's the security hassle I hate. Once that's over it's usually okay. I remember leaving Las Vegas once on Southwest. The plane was directed to the farthest runway, and we taxied for what seemed like forever. After a bit, the pilot came on the speaker and said, "now you know why our fares are so cheap...we drive you halfway there!" Much laughter.
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Julia Moulden
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07:04 AM on 03/28/2011
That is funny! I love it when people can laugh at the absurdity (and inequity) of life. Thanks, VA Jill!
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01:17 PM on 03/27/2011
Yes, the minute I step off the plane.
01:00 AM on 03/27/2011
Flying from Washington D.C. to South Africa last month the entire plane was kept awake by a kid - a girl of about two - who a couple of hours into the flight woke up from a bad dream and couldn't/wouldn't stop screaming. Both parents tried everything they could think of to quiet the kid down, but nothing helped, the kid continued wailing for over an hour. Eventually the exhausted exasperated mother said, "Just stoppit man!" (what a great South African expression). And the kid did stop it, and went to sleep, hah hah and so did the rest of us.
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Julia Moulden
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01:28 PM on 03/27/2011
Great story, dearrosie! Thanks for sharing it -- and glad to hear you got some sleep!

I know you're a regular reader of my column, so you'll have noticed this, too -- funny how most of this week's comments are about bad experiences. Lots of tweets about my post, though, were about the joys of flying. Some people LOVE it, no matter what.

Wonder if the airline industry is reading, too? Hope so!
10:12 PM on 03/27/2011
I fly several times a year and I don't enjoy it, we're so squashed in the back of the plane that if you drop something on the floor you can't bend down and pick it up, but what really gets to me is the way they make us throw away our snacks. Why is yogurt a forbidden food? It's not a liquid? I'm so irritated about the wasted food that I wrote a blog on the topic, "Please Ma'am, it's just my organic yogurt ..." at
http://wp.me/pN0M1-qW
and yes Hello, I hope the airline industry is reading this, and will give me an answer...!
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Gonzo36
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08:49 PM on 03/26/2011
Here is how to have a great flying experience:

First you have a couple of kids. Then you wait until one is being potty trained and the other has zero interesting in doing anything other then walking up and down the main aisle and you take them on a 12 hour flight. Finally, you leave the kids with grandma and fly somewhere, anywhere! That flight will be the best of your life.
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01:32 PM on 03/26/2011
Hi Julia,

we grew up in a different era. I flew many times as a really young kid - I don't remember just which was my first - but I grew up in New Orleans and by age 7 had been to New York twice, Boston, Washington DC three times, Deluth MN, Phillidelphia, Atlanta, Las Vegas, Los Angeles, San Francisco, and probably a few more I don't now recall.

I would sometimes fly alone - back in those days it was OK, and the airlines didn't feel a need to have a travel agent assigned to you, like they do now. I would always wander up and talk to the pilots and very often they'd take me into the cockpit and teach me about the instruments. I especially loved the DC3s that were still flying then - this was the mid to late '50s.

They'd also give out nice trinkets - I wish I'd kept some of the metal pilots wings. They later went to plastic and they just weren't the same. And always decks of cards. At one time I must have had four decks from different airlines - all lost to history now. -sigh-

I've never lost the thrill of air travel. I became a pilot - but not commercial - and it has guided part of my life. I like talking with my row-mates, too, and frequently make friends. And, I've flown enough to have earned top-level frequent flier status at more than one airline simultaneously, though
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01:38 PM on 03/26/2011
Oops! Make that "mid to late 1960s" - I'm not _that_ old! -smile-
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02:56 PM on 03/26/2011
Oops! Make that 1960s!