For women who are worried that their hope of marriage and children are fading away, I've got good news to share with you today.
Match.com has released results of their "Single in America" study just in time for Valentine's Day. The study clearly revealed that 33% of both men and women want to get hitched. In addition, more single men without children under the age of 18 (24%) want to have children than the women surveyed (15%).
This isn't just any ordinary study. Match claims it's the largest and most comprehensive study ever done in America and that everything you think you know about singles is simply wrong.
"I'm amazed this study hasn't been done before but in my literature search I've found nothing as comprehensive," says Dr. Helen Fisher, biological anthropologist and chief scientific advisor for Chemistry.com and Match.com who led the study.
Is love at first sight cliché and dated? Not according to this study, which claims that men are more likely to have experienced love at first sight, as well as being more open to introducing a date to their parents sooner than women.
Dr. Fisher adds, "This survey busts some entrenched myths about women, men, sex and love. In fact, today's singles are returning to dating patterns that are highly compatible with our ancient human brain...With a few remarkable exceptions: men are now expressing some traditionally female attitudes while women are adopting some of those long attributed to men!"
If you're waiting for your guy to say, "I love you" this Valentine's Day and think that putting a ring on your finger will shortly follow, buyer beware. The Match study, confirms a theory to a certain degree that some men will say those three special words just to get a woman into bed. Only 14% surveyed think it means "I want to spend the rest of my life with you" and only 19% say it means "I want to have a committed relationship with you."
Dr. Fisher appeared on Good Morning America where she said, "The single most interesting thing in the study is that 35% of men and women had initially met someone who they found not attractive and eventually later fell passionately in love with them." She added, "Think of reasons to say yes to a second date."
The takeaway from Dr. Fisher, "Singles are very romantic." On that note, Have a Happy Valentine's Day and find a reason to say yes to someone who asks you to be his or her Valentine.
For more details of the study, visit http://blog.match.com/singles-study/
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Black males are not opposed to marriage seemly at all, as male friends and family have told me throughout the years how much THEY want to get married, and I find more men complaining now how Black women are refusing their traditional roles even when children are involved.
Once a Black women advocating marriage became very angry with me because we were discussing just this subject and she said, “this is what’s wrong with Black women, we don’t want to get married”, and she went on to extol some of the benefits of marriage and that this is one of the ways White people obtain assets by combining their resources through marriage, etc.
Black men clearly see the benefits of marriage for them as women are still expected to work full-time, keep the house and kids and attend to their spouses, so believe it or not many Black women would rather not have a spouse and, except for receiving child support, meet their obligations alone.
Also being married makes women legally responsible for his debt as many women have lived to regret. So not being legally tied to that individual makes a clean break much easier.
Pile on the black cultural expectation that women work, take care of the home and family AND obey there husbands at all costs, never mind the black male infidelity challenges, and, well, you get the picture. What affects the black family often affects everyone else at a later date, so there is no mystery why the marriage rate is dropping. Either something changes or marriage will be obsolete by 2034.
They only say that to get women to sleep with them.
Fundamentally men want 1- food and 2- sex
All else is lip service.
I doubt that men are as interested in marriage as women. I have never seen an issue of "grooms" magazine.
Women give in, men just give up.
What you will find interesting is the report in my Providence Journal column slated for Sunday. In fact, an interview with the head of the National Marriage and Family Project seems to support what you are saying. Despite the apparent drop as reported by CDC, there are hopeful signs and especially from men -- data from the General Social Survey.
As always, you are at the cutting edge.
Rita Watson/ Love Columnist
FIGURE 1
Number of Marriages per 1,000
Unmarried Women Age 15 and
Older, by Year, United States:
1969 80.0
1972 77.9
1975 66.9
1980 61.4
1985 56.2
1990 54.5
1995 50.8
2000 46.5
2004 39.9
2009 36.0
What is undeniable is that fewer and fewer men are getting down on one knee.
http://www.virginia.edu/marriageproject/