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Kare Anderson
Emmy-winning former NBC and Wall Street Journal reporter, Kare Anderson is a Forbes columnist who speaks and consults on becoming more frequently quoted and connected. She's co-founder of the Say it Better Center and the author of Moving From Me to We, Walk Your Talk and Resolving Conflict Sooner.

Entries by Kare Anderson

Make Our Differences Work for Everyone In the Group

(0) Comments | Posted February 19, 2015 | 3:42 PM


Why not become an Opportunity Maker, the invaluable glue that holds diverse groups together and makes you sought-after? Here are three methods to hone that skill and stay relevant in this fast changing world.

1. Experience the Freedom of Agreed Upon...

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Go Fishing for Closer Conversations

(1) Comments | Posted February 6, 2015 | 3:32 PM

2015-02-05-fishings.jpegI swear, my dear. Sometimes our conversations remind me of a broken sword. She raised an eyebrow. Sharp as hell, he said, but lacking a point, wrote Brandon Sanderson in Warbreaker.

Until you find the lure and the hook on which someone will bite,...

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What Are You Inadvertently Revealing By How You Mark Your Territory?

(0) Comments | Posted January 6, 2015 | 7:48 AM

Did you know that young males with organized college dorm rooms that have a sports décor tend to be conservative? Or that liberals are more likely to have messy rooms? Or that displaying inspirational posters sometimes signals neurotic tendencies?


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Which Wolf Will You Feed in 2015?

(1) Comments | Posted January 5, 2015 | 9:55 PM

2015-01-03-worldyoufeed2.jpegWe all have two wolves inside us, a Cherokee lesson suggests. One tugs at us to do evil and the other to act good. What will we do? It depends on which wolf we feed. The one you feed is the one that grows...

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Make 2015 the Year You Become More Resilient

(0) Comments | Posted December 31, 2014 | 9:07 AM

Helicopter parenting and micro-managing leadership both move us towards learned helplessness and away from resilience. Truly caring for others means we support their growth and learning. Yet that attitude and behavior must begin with our belief in our own resilience, no matter what has happened in our past.


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How to Pull in Friendships and Fresh Adventures

(0) Comments | Posted December 22, 2014 | 10:40 AM

Five men are walking across the Golden Gate Bridge on an outing organized by their wives who are college friends. The women move ahead in animated conversation. One man describes the engineering involved in the bridge's long suspension. Another points to the changing tide lines below. A third asked if...

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What Captures Your Attention Controls Your Life

(0) Comments | Posted November 29, 2014 | 10:13 PM

A few years ago, Disney World executives were wondering what most captured the attention of toddlers and infants at their theme park and hotels in Orlando, Florida. So they hired me and a cultural anthropologist to observe them as they passed by all the costumed cast members, animated creatures, twirling...

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Ready to Lift Your Likeability?

(0) Comments | Posted November 18, 2014 | 10:04 AM

2014-11-16-likeable.jpegLikability is more important in video than even in person -- and harder to pull off according to The Likeability Factor author, Tim Sanders and Wall Street Journal columnist Sue Shellenbarger. According to Shellenbarger, "'Likability is becoming a...

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Does Your Self-Description Really Serve You?

(0) Comments | Posted November 17, 2014 | 7:28 PM

Interestingness is the instigator, the hardy carrier pigeon that can carry your message most anywhere. Interestingness makes a message get heard above the noise. Money can't buy interestingness, yet vivid comparisons can create them. To make your self-label stick it must be more interesting than others' labels for you.

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Seek Those Who Don't Act Right Like You

(0) Comments | Posted November 3, 2014 | 10:22 AM


Beginning with our first success in childhood, we become attached to what we believe are our strengths in temperament and talent, which enabled us to win.

Why not? They seemed to be what makes us popular.

We also are drawn to people who...

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Somewhat Unexpected Ways to Feel Happier

(0) Comments | Posted October 31, 2014 | 1:29 PM

2014-10-31-Concrestm116jXL._SL160_.jpgSimplify. It's clarifying. Then one can focus. Focus on what is really going on. What you feel right now. What most matters to you. What best serves the situation. Gratefulness. "First things first" will be apparent. After all, life is...

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How to Become a Connective Leader Who Fosters Conviviality and Collaboration

(0) Comments | Posted October 23, 2014 | 7:00 PM

Want to become a sought-after, connective leader? Then become the glue that bonds others together around their most talented sides. Consider this approach.

In experiments, psychologist David Trafimow and colleagues asked half of the study participants to think about how they were different from their friends and family...

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How Rookies Stay Relevant

(1) Comments | Posted October 19, 2014 | 6:37 PM

2014-10-19-liz.jpgWhat's it take to stay relevant in work today? That often cited and disputed study made famous by Malcolm Gladwell, it takes 10,000 hours to achieve mastery, is based on a study...

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Ready to Live a Richer Life With Others?

(0) Comments | Posted October 3, 2014 | 10:44 PM

What do these stories have in common?

• Bruce Springsteen famously turned down Chrysler's multi-million dollar offer to use his break-out hit, his anthem to America, "Born to Run" in a car commercial and hotly protested Ronald Reagan's attempt to use it in his reelection campaign because Springsteen was...

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Stay Sought-After by Connecting Better in Conversation

(1) Comments | Posted September 22, 2014 | 6:06 PM

Both online and in person, connective conversations are increasingly rare, so your capacity to connect deeply with diverse individuals will cause you to stand out and attract smarter support sooner in all parts of your life. Here are practical pointers to support that habit:

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Four Ways to Accomplish Greater Things With Others

(0) Comments | Posted September 16, 2014 | 7:50 PM

Become an opportunity maker who enables others to use best talents together, more often, and you will become increasingly sought-after. Here are four proven methods to adapt to your situation.

2014-09-16-worknextes.jpeg1. Pair Up To Cut Down Silos And To Scale Performance

"For a week...

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Don't Act Like a Jerk Because Someone Else Is

(0) Comments | Posted August 21, 2014 | 10:37 PM

Summer in our village-by-the-bay, Sausalito, is packed with tourists. Some dawdle and gawk in the crosswalks. Thousands of others, on rented bikes, attempt to maneuver down the unfamiliar, narrow winding road into town and then ride up onto the sidewalks to get out of the way of cars. Meanwhile uber...

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What To Do When a Friend Betrays You

(0) Comments | Posted August 8, 2014 | 5:01 PM


Last month two longtime friends broke trust. One offered to do something vital for me, didn't, and didn't tell me. Another shared very private information about me with a stranger. I don't know which felt worse.

Remember one time when you felt...

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Got a Loafer on Your Team?

(0) Comments | Posted July 25, 2014 | 12:19 PM

2014-07-24-loafer228a310ca0223e00d09461217.jpgIs someone not pulling their weight yet expecting to enjoy the fruits of your group's hard work? Here are five tips to prevent freeloading. Avoid the unattractive, energy-sucking role of the nag. Instead become the popular Opportunity Maker who's the glue that...

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Can You Keep Your Cool When Under Fire?

(0) Comments | Posted July 2, 2014 | 11:06 AM


When you most want to smash someone in the face or run out of the room, remember this irony. Cooling off someone else's anger can be a way to actually bring that person closer. Warning: Don't add fuel to the fire by suggesting...

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