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02/13/2013 12:22 pm ET Updated Apr 14, 2013

Too Busy for Love?

Hi there!

Do you really want to change your love life? Recently, I was watching one of my fave movies, The Wedding Date (mostly because Dermott Mulroney is just so damn handsome, don't you think?). He is quoted as saying: "Every woman has the exact love life she wants."

Now, there was a time that I would have rigorously argued against that, but I now know it's the absolute truth.

In the upcoming teleclass I'm doing, "Three Mistakes Smart, Driven People Make That Rob Them of Their Dreams and How to Shift That Today," the first mistake I'll talk about is how smart, driven people (like you?) is that they're just too busy to fix their love life (or whatever they'd like to change), even though they'd really like it to be different.

Here's the thing: Everyone has 24 hours in their day. I know, you've heard that before, and you're about to tell me how you really don't have the time. Whether you're a busy executive, professional or entrepreneur or a single parent with umpteen million things to do in your day, every single thing you do is a choice, whether it's conscious or not.

Face it: It's easier to be a victim of your circumstances, right? Wrong? If I was wrong, then you would have already made the commitment to change this area of your life. If you're single, isn't it easier to say that it's difficult to meet people because you're so busy rather than to make the time to go out and have fun? At least when you're married to your job you know that you're needed (maybe even loved), and you know what to expect.

If you're in a relationship that's not fulfilling you, isn't it easier to hope that your partner will see the light and change? It's easier to be too busy than to have to deal with fights, talks, counselling or at worst, a break up.

Valentine's Day kind of brings all of this to light and highlights what is and isn't working, and it's pretty sad. I know, I've been there on a number of occasions in having a hellish Valentine's Day both while in a relationship and as a single gal.

What happens when we hide behind being too busy? Well, we end up living a life that isn't quite up to par. We wake up in the middle of the night wondering when Prince or Princess Charming will come and make it all right.

We wonder what's wrong with us that we can't be happy and in love like others. We wonder when the sadness is going to stop being your best friend and go away. We wonder when our "real" life is going to show up. Blech.

Here's the thing: You can change this.

But you have to start somewhere. Are you game? Okay, I'm getting an energetic yes on that!

Will you try this for this next week? For the next week, start paying attention to where you fill your time up with things you don't like to do.

Next, I want you to commit to taking five minutes out for only you where you can start to imagine the dream relationship you'd like to have. You can use this for anything, doesn't just have to be the ideal relationship. Spend five minutes every day focusing on this. Remember, what you focus on, you attract.

Will you just start with this? There are lots of other things you can do that will walk you out of the busy-ness excuse into the dream life you desire, but lets start with this one step I just mentioned.

How cool will it be for you to start creating the love life you deserve?

Best of everything to you!

From this, there will be a number of things that will come up for you, I can practically guarantee that, and that's why I'm going to share some more timely tips you can do in my upcoming teleclass on Feb. 19. It's free, and it's called "Three Mistakes Smart, Driven People make that Rob Them of Their Dreams and How to Shift that Today." Will you click on that link and go and sign up?

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