Questionable Career?

07/14/2010 12:50 pm ET | Updated Nov 17, 2011

I often receive a lot of questions from clients about careers. Having been in the employment industry for over 20 years, I have, almost daily, come across people who are undecided about what decision to make when it comes to choosing careers. It's almost universal that people are concerned about making the 'wrong' decision and one that will impact the rest of their life. I can't tell you how often I hear people say that they aren't sure what they want to do with the rest of their life. Quite honestly, who does? And, more importantly, when did it become mandatory to decide now about what you want to do with the rest of your life?

However, that's how many of us think. How debilitating is that? What ends up happening is that we become paralyzed with fear and end up having an extremely hard time making a decision. This is what I say to this - 'lighten up' (you know I'm saying this with the utmost of respect and compassion, right!?). If you can lighten up around this topic, you have the ability then to think more clearly which then allows us to attract the thoughts that are going to most help us make a decision that works for us.

First and foremost, whenever considering a new career, the person you most have to consider in this decision is you! It takes all kinds of people to do all kinds of jobs and if what you want to do lights you up, go for it! This is virtually the first thing I always tell people - that in order to attract the kind of life you want to live - you must first start focusing on what you're truly passionate about and start moving towards it.

Look at it this way, if you're trading your hours for dollars, or more accurately, trading your life for money - please pick something that energizes you. (Secret: It stops being considered work then!)

Along with this, you may need to also consider your career choice and what it means to those closest to you. While the job you pick may excite you but cause concern for those around you, know that this will catch up with you at some point. This will energetically wear you down over time and therefore may not be the best career choice for you in the long run.

The question about the career choice having an unhealthy impact on co-workers is interesting and I can suggest a couple of things:

1. If your co-workers are having a negative impact on you - it may be best not to spend time around them
2. Be a great role-model for a healthy mindset and ego - actions DO speak louder than words!

I'll return to the idea of picking a career that one would do for the rest of their life and say this - it's most likely not going to happen in our changing environment. Today I see lots of professionals who have studied long and hard to move into their profession only to decide some time into it that there is more to life than this one career path.

You know what? That's perfectly acceptable!

Of course, there will be a ton of people who think you're out of your mind but this is your life, not theirs. Live your life on your terms. Repeat after me: "I'm going to live my life on my terms!" Wooooohoooooo!!!!!

Doesn't that feel better?

So go forth, do what lights you up as long as it lights you up and then when it doesn't anymore - do something else!