A famous research study was once done on a clique of young goldfish, who were raised in a luxuriously long aquarium with a pesky glass wall smack down its middle.
Every time these goldfish tried to swim to the far side of the aquarium - ouch -- they'd hit their little fish noses on the glass wall's hard surface. Eventually the goldfish became resigned to their limited swimming options, and stayed swooshing around in the mere half-sized portion of the aquarium they now recognized as home.
After a few months, the researchers removed the glass wall from the aquarium's middle -- allowing the goldfish full reign to swim wherever their little gills could gather speed to take them.
The goldfish never tried to swim to that other side of that long aquarium.
Although these goldfish were no longer stopped by that glass wall, they were stopped by their limiting beliefs. They became prisoners of their past life conditioning.
We humans are no better. Over time we amass limiting beliefs about how life supposedly is -- beliefs which are not valid. We then allow these limiting beliefs to stop us from living our happiest life.
Indeed, if you want to experience maximum happiness, more important than whether you see that metaphorical glass as half full or half empty, is whether or not you see a metaphorical glass wall in your way.
After all, you could be the most optimistic person on this planet -- consciously believing you deserve bundles of cash and heaps of lovin' -- yet you can still remain blocked from getting all you want.
How can that be?
Because although your conscious mind might be thinking many, many, many, fabulous thoughts about you -- your subconscious mind can simultaneously remain very busy thinking its limiting glass wall beliefs.
How do you know you have glass walls beliefs? That's easy. Your life is difficult. You keep finding yourself saying:
"I can never get a break."
"The opposite sex sucks."
"All people suck."
"The world sucks. "
"Distant galaxies suck."
Another way you can tell if you have glass walls -- and where exactly you have them -- is to look at The Top Life Categories (1. love, 2. sex, 3. career, 4. money, 5. family, 6. friendship, 7. appearance, 8. health) then rate yourself on a Happiness Score of 1 to 10 on where you are in each.
Whenever a Life Category garners a Happiness Score of six or under, your subconscious mind is blocking you with a glass wall belief -- telling you, for example:
"Yo! Career Happiness stops here -- go no further!"
"Yo! Money Happiness stops here -- go no further!"
But yo! It ain't so! You can go much further! You're simply being blocked by a mirage of glass flashing in your subconscious' face! Basically if you're not fully leading your happiest career and financial life, it's because your subconscious has created an incomplete, short-sighted map of the world!
Or if you're a "foodie," a good analogy to describe "glass wall limitations" is to say it's as if your subconscious has given you a very limited menu of your life options -- and in reality, you have many more yummy life-ordering selections available!
It's funny how we humans love to blame other people for holding us back. I call these "(b)lame" excuses and "mythaken" thinking -- for the obvious reasons. The truth is -- more often than not -- it's our own selves and our imaginary glass walls hindering our success.
So what stops us from seeing that there's no glass wall to be seen? What I call "The Three C's"!
The Three C's Which Stop You From Seeing Clearly
1) Childhood's Limiting Beliefs - Your learned (b)lame excuses, mythaken thinking and false fears -- created by the pain, disappointment, and repeated patterns you learned from family and friends when you were young and spongelike.
2) Culture's Limiting Beliefs - Your learned (b)lame excuses, mythaken thinking and false fears -- created from society's messages of false limitations, stereotyping and biased trends.
(Note: A terrific example of a Culture's Limiting Belief is the famed Roger Bannister story. Until 1954 most people believed that a human could not run a mile in less than four minutes -- until Roger Bannister did just that. Ever since, running four-minute miles has become run-of-the-mill. "Doctors and scientists said that breaking the four-minute mile was impossible, that one could die in the attempt," said Bannister, right after his accomplishment. "Thus, when I got up from the track after collapsing at the finish line, I figured I was dead." Hence why it's important to wake up to our Culture's Limiting Beliefs -- or they can create a limiting "that's impossible" self fulfillment!)
3) Calamity's Limiting Beliefs -- Your learned (b)lame excuses, mythaken thinking and false fears -- created from very specific crises including a job failure, a bankruptcy, a sudden firing, a swindling by an employee or employer etc...
Yes, there's an abundance of ways you can limit your life with limiting thinking. And if you're presently having a repeated pattern of failure, disappointment, and unhappiness, that's exactly what you're doing to yourself - even if you're not conscious about doing it. Actually, especially if you're not conscious about it.
Basically, "destiny" is just a pithy little word which means: "Your subconscious' limiting beliefs which make you do the things you do -- and thereby get the things you get."
This is so very important I will repeat it again -- this time in italics!
"Destiny" is really just a pithy little word that means "Your subconscious' limiting beliefs which make you do the things you do - and thereby get the things you get."
If not -- here's another Capiche Enhancing Explanation -- called Masochistic Equilibriium --- which is a psychological belief that you grow comfortable in your learned comfort zone -- even if it's your discomfort zone.
For example, if you learn about love, or joy, or money in a loveless, or joyless, or moneyless home -- you might become comfortable remaining loveless, or joyless, or moneyless.
Specifically, let's say you grew up experiencing 60 percent joy, 40 percent pain. Then later as adult you create a life with 90 percent joy, 10 percent pain -- you might become twitchy because it feels so different to you. Then you self-sabotage to bring yourself down, down, down to your masochistic equlibrium -- because you find comfort in your familiar discomfort.
Basically, masochistic equilibrium is the"glass wall" you self impose in your life to keep yourself from experiencing your fullest possible happiness.
My goal right now is to help you to capiche as much as possible.
Take some quiet time today to list how you might be holding yourself back with "glass wall" mirage thinking.
The good news: Once you begin to own your part in your career and financial problems, you're on your way to disowning your part -- and going further than ever before!
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