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What My 3-Year-Old Taught Me About Handling Mean People

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Here's a powerful mantra to repeat when someone says mean things or does negative things to you...

I learned this from my 3-year-old son, Ari.

He says: "NO thank you!" to the mean kids in his class.

There was one kid who was calling everyone poopy-head. When he called Ari this name, Ari told me he told him, "NO thank you!"

Basically Ari was not accepting these words and actions. He was not allowing these negative words to be received in his heart, mind, spirit.

I love how these words "NO thank you" can work as a protective shield for the spirit.

Obviously you do not need to say them out loud to the other person, as Ari was doing. You can simply silently say "NO thank you" -- as a mantra to yourself -- either when you think of a person who's harmed you in words or actions or at the speed of life if someone is presently harming you in words or actions. You will feel a lot better.

Karen Salmansohn is a best selling author and award winning designer (with over one million books sold), who is passionate about empowering people to live their happiest, highest potential lives. She's known for creating a new breed of self-help for people who would never be caught dead doing self-help because she merges a range of psychological and philosophical research with humor and stylish graphics. Some popular titles: How to Be Happy Dammit, The Bounce Back Book and Prince Harming Syndrome.