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The Holy Grail of Small Space Living: Fitting Everything In

Posted: 10/21/11 06:23 PM ET

From an early age, I loved organizing. I fancied myself quite adept at it until I moved from a relatively spacious apartment in Los Angeles to my studio apartment in New York and my stuff-to-storage-space ratio went off the charts.

It turns out what I'd been good at was putting stuff away. In my new place there was no "away." As the movers filed out, it looked as if Christo had done an installation using to-the-ceiling stacks of boxes.

My memory gets a bit hazy at this point. But I am pretty sure that as I sat among the cardboard towers, on the remaining patch of floor -- head in hands, overwhelmed by STUFF -- my attention was drawn to the window. The clouds slid apart and a Terry-Gilliam-animated deity boomed, "Arthur!"

"It's Karen."

"Whatever. This is your quest: Fit into one room!"

The clouds slammed shut, and suddenly my life had meaning and purpose.

In the dark days following, I wound my way through the labyrinth of websites, books and mega-stores devoted to home organization, seizing upon each tip that might lead out of the morass. Unfortunately, most were not helpful.

"Eliminate half your belongings," one small space guru advised.

Good idea, Solomon -- which half of the baby do I keep? Sure, at times I craved an ascetic lifestyle unshackled from worldly possessions, but, on the other hand, I liked my stuff.

"Pack one third of your clothes away. If, after a year, you don't miss them, give them away."

Of course I won't miss them, Mr. Magazine Article on Organizing, because I'll FORGET about them, but when I do come across them, I'll be all, "Purple shirt! I love you!" Thanks for nothing!

Then there were the closet-system ads -- photos of beautifully laid-out storage in closets the size of my apartment. Look at all that space, I'd sigh wistfully, the clothes are so... uncrowded. Then I'd look closer. Wait a minute! Why does that closet owner have only three shirts and two pairs of pants? I could fit that into MY closet!

Then, at last, the organizing deity smiled upon me and, and I chanced upon a copy of Organizing From The Inside Out by Julie Morgenstern.

Morgenstern eschews any particular "technical" tip regarding an arbitrary weeding-out process or one specific storage system over another. Instead, she asserts that organizing is "a remarkably simple skill that anyone can learn."

And she gives you permission to keep your stuff.

Organizing can be overwhelming at best, and downright unsuccessful at worst, because we assume -- or are told -- it will require painful decision-making about what to keep and what to discard. We want to avoid wrenching evaluations such as:

  • I've never liked this towel, but what if all my other towels are dirty?

  • Is it possible I'll need this folder of six-year-old receipts one day?

  • This shirt is ugly, ripped and stained, but it might make a swell painting shirt, should I ever take up painting.


Morgenstern takes the fear of decision-making out of the equation and instead has you sort whatever it is you are organizing -- the contents of a small drawer or the contents of your entire kitchen -- into categories that make sense to you. Sorting is not decision-making. Instead, you are simply taking stock and grouping like objects. Paradoxically, decisions flow naturally from this left-brained process and arrive mostly without pain.

With Julie Morgenstern's book in hand, everything eventually fell into place and my studio apartment became not only livable, but also uncluttered and pleasant. In fact I considered changing my name to Julia and writing my own book entitled Julie and Julia.

Wait. That sounds familiar -- Siri, has that already been done?

 
 
 

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From an early age, I loved organizing. I fancied myself quite adept at it until I moved from a relatively spacious apartment in Los Angeles to my studio apartment in New York and my stuff-to-storage-s...
From an early age, I loved organizing. I fancied myself quite adept at it until I moved from a relatively spacious apartment in Los Angeles to my studio apartment in New York and my stuff-to-storage-s...
 
 
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11:03 PM on 10/23/2011
Finding a place to store items is one thing...getting kids to put the items back in their places is another. I'd like a book called "Kidproof: Organization for Mamas"
06:34 PM on 10/23/2011
For the past seven years I've lived full-time in a 25-foot travel trailer, the first three years with another person. I sold my one bedroom condo in Denver and went on the road, towing my trailer behind my truck. Mostly I gave everything away - and today I still miss some things. I even have a few still in a small storage many miles away from where I am. Now that I'm getting ready to get off the road and settle into a permanent location again, I'll be needing some of those things I used to have that make life more comfy. For now, tho', I still have everything I NEED to begin in an apartment or house. I know I'll have to be very conscious about what I decide to add as I settle in.
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artleads
Let's have a national retreat.
12:02 PM on 10/23/2011
Julie seems too good too be true. I once found that grouping things into piles on the ground produced some relief, but have not been consistent about doing it. The latest bit of eccentricity here is putting little things into ziplock bags that I then pin to the wall. It doesn't have to make sense so much as not bother me. Being able to SEE all the stuff is somewhat helpful. If I can't see things, I forget about them entirely.
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bluegnu63
Humor s/b wry, dry, and sly...
01:04 AM on 10/23/2011
I've had Julie's book for years, and totally agree about its excellence.:)
sheilabbl
Just living, loving, and letting go...
11:25 PM on 10/22/2011
I moved from a big 3 bedroom home in Maine to a teeny 250 sq ft apartment in Philadelphia and I love the change! Those things which I value the most are the things which stay closest to me in 250 sq ft. Things I was sure I needed turned out to only be things I wanted. My apartment is for sleeping and resting..... the city of Philadelphia is where I can do my living!
I know when I want something new, something old needs to go. It really helps me know what is important in my life. And, without saying, the dog and the cats are here to stay!
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Let's have a national retreat.
10:27 PM on 10/22/2011
I'm filing the link where I will be forced to deal with it and read the whole thing. It's SO important. Thank you.
05:50 PM on 10/22/2011
Simplicity is the key. We don't need big spaces, we don't need a lot of clothes, appliances, anything.
I've been simplifying for quite a while, to the point where even owning a car has become superfluous.
I'm not still where I'd like to be, but I'm getting there.
Good article, good reminder to all of us, what is important in life is not stuff, it's the people.
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01:07 AM on 10/23/2011
And, the EXPERIENCES.;)
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i poem/paint, sometimes, i ain't
04:22 PM on 10/22/2011
you would be very surprised what you could stuff into a small space. i was, when i was packing up my possessions, clothes etc to take from my studio, to my husbands apartment.

i discovered that there is an art to small scale packrat...i still marvel at the mountains of items i parted with. it seemed like more than i thought i owned;/
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03:13 PM on 10/22/2011
When you are ready to get rid of stuff, here's a great new solution:

Donate / list it at http://ClassWish.org. You get a receipt for the full value (generally the sales price), and you can direct 80% of the proceeds to the classroom Wish List of your choice: your child's, a friend's, a former teacher's, or one at a low-income school.
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The shadow of God is beauty.
01:12 PM on 10/22/2011
I have a three bedroom condo. Two of the bedrooms are like garages. The rest of the place is organized. But guess where I spend most time...
12:43 PM on 10/22/2011
Good piece, Karen. No organizer worth her or his salt would ever tell a client/friend/neighbor they had to get rid of anything -- as Julie points out, it is an inside job. I tell clients and students to have everything that serves you and nothing that doesn't.

When you return to your core values, it isn't difficult to figure out what to keep and what to let go of. The muddle begins or returns when your values fade from view or get lost. Far fewer people regret the absence of an old magazine than they do a missed opportunity to participate in their lives and the lives of those they love. Stuff may be a distraction, but it's seldom the most interesting or compelling part of anyone's life.
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01:09 AM on 10/23/2011
Superbly-put!
12:22 AM on 10/22/2011
Karen!--Google Alerts delivered your funny, insightful blog to my email box! Delighted you "got" the approach, and that it served you so well. Counterintuitive, isn't it?

Thanks for sharing your experience and wisdom...Welcome to NY! A great place to live...even in our smaller spaces!

Warmly,

Julie
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Karen Shepard
12:21 PM on 10/22/2011
Julie Morgenstern! It is an honor to be able to thank you personally for your brilliant, kind and effective approach.

Yes, it is counterintuitive. Your judgment-free method enabled me to pare down more dramatically than any harsher approach would have. And instead of losing pieces of myself in the process, I felt I was becoming more myself.

I have your book on time management and look forward to making my schedule as organized as my home is (thanks to you).
With appreciation,
Karen
05:00 PM on 10/27/2011
One "key" to organizing time is to compare it to a space...once it's more tangible--it's easier to organize on similar principals. I look forward to hearing your insights and discoveries from that book as well! Let me know if I can be helpful in any way!
08:54 PM on 10/21/2011
funny :) i need that book!
07:04 PM on 10/21/2011
Funny article. My studio was so small, I almost had to paint the furniture on the walls. Where do net out renting external storage space?
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12:30 PM on 10/22/2011
External storage space is a conundrum. If you are using it to store, for instance, important-to-you heirlooms for a limited amount of time, then it might be useful. It might also be valid as a temporary space in which to sort through and categorize your stuff. But as a lifestyle choice used to avoid organizing, I would say try to avoid it.
Best, Karen
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bluegnu63
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01:15 AM on 10/23/2011
In total agreement. And, you'll probably need additional - and larger - storage units as life goes on.;)