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Karin Kasdin
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Karin Kasdin is an award winning playwright, author, and essayist. Her book Oh Boy, Oh Boy, Oh Boy: Confronting Motherhood, Womanhood and Selfhood in a Household of Boys, was named Best Parenting Book of 1997 (yes she is old) by the Parent Council Ltd. Her other books include Watsamatta U: A Get-a-Grip Guide to Staying Sane During Your Child's College Application Process, and Disaster Blasters: A Kid's Guide to Staying Home Alone, co-authored with Laura Szabo Cohen.
Karin's articles have appeared in Ms. Magazine, The Philadelphia Inquirer, Family Fun Magazine, New York City Parents and others. For the past two years she has written about parenting grownup children for the online newspaper The Faster Times, She has also been a guest blogger for Lisa Belkin's Motherlode blog for The New York Times. Her favorite book these days is the photo album of her four-month old granddaughter, Kyla.

Entries by Karin Kasdin

Kiss Your Waiter Goodbye

(19) Comments | Posted January 11, 2014 | 5:42 AM

On a recent foray into New York City, my husband and I marveled at the number of people who have been systematically eliminated from our lives by technology. We paid for parking by inserting our credit card into a machine. On our way to the train station we let E-Z...

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How To Cure The 'What Will People Think' Blues

(8) Comments | Posted December 1, 2013 | 5:16 AM

As the saying goes, "In your twenties, you worry about what people think about you. In your thirties you hope people are thinking well of you. In your forties you don't care what people think about you, and in your fifties you realize people aren't thinking about you."

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Why I'll Be Keeping My Distance From Kale

(908) Comments | Posted November 7, 2013 | 5:37 AM

Remember when oat bran was the king of foods? Experts promised improved health and vitality, peace of mind and natural weight loss, and of course, regular bowel movements. I was an oat bran evangelist. I sprinkled it on cereal, baked it into muffins and sought it out on nutritional labels....

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Killer Euphemisms

(0) Comments | Posted September 26, 2013 | 4:02 PM

Syria has fallen out of the news as of late, but I fear it will make headlines again soon. And when it does... let the euphemisms fly! I don't purport to be anywhere near smart enough to make world-changing decisions with regard to the use of chemical weapons or how...

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An Open Invitation to Mark Zuckerberg

(6) Comments | Posted August 9, 2013 | 6:40 PM

Dear Mr. Zuckerberg,

By way of this letter, I am extending an invitation to you to attend a dinner party at my home. I am an excellent cook. Past dinner guests say I should get my own Food Network show. I 'm thinking duck in ancho-cherry-chili sauce. Sound good? How...

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For a Great Wedding Photo, Set Your Dress on Fire

(0) Comments | Posted July 18, 2013 | 5:00 PM

I wore a Scarlett O'Hara white velvet hat for my wedding, a choice I have regretted for 32 years. It looked like The Pillsbury Doughboy died on my head. The hat cost $250, an atrocity my father never let me forget. At my 50th birthday dinner, my parents surprised me...

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Forget The Cake. Let Them See Movies!

(12) Comments | Posted June 23, 2013 | 7:40 AM

I once whined to my grandmother who was 90 years old at the time that the cost of feeding my family was escalating faster than our salaries. To this she replied, "Back in the Depression when I was feeding my family you could buy a 10 pound bag of potatoes...

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Get Them While They're Young

(4) Comments | Posted May 14, 2013 | 7:16 AM

I'm pretty sure my about-to-be two-year-old granddaughter, Kyla, loves me. When I'm visiting her and leave for five minutes to use the toilet, she cries. I've never been made so happy by someone else's unhappiness. For her, I rush through my morning ablutions, sit on the floor even though my...

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Refusing To Apologize Can Make You Feel Good. Really?

(10) Comments | Posted April 3, 2013 | 6:38 AM

Call me a wuss, but I can't sleep at night if I think I've hurt someone's feelings. I will stay up until I've formulated the perfect apology. Sometimes the person to whom I apologize has no idea what I'm talking about. For eight years, whenever I found myself in a...

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Technophobic No More!

(3) Comments | Posted March 7, 2013 | 5:51 AM

I have had a longstanding fear of straight lines. This is ironic because my life has followed quite a traditional linear trajectory: school... job... house... marriage... kids... grandchild. Can a line get any straighter than that? Yet, straight lines and my inability to draw them have long been a personal...

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Picture This!

(0) Comments | Posted February 7, 2013 | 6:01 AM

My firstborn's bar mitzvah photos are in a large shoebox in a cabinet in the family room. At the time, we couldn't afford both the photographer AND the fancy album so we stowed the pictures in a shoebox until we recouped enough to purchase an album. My son is now...

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Could You Sue Your Child For Not Visiting Enough?

(61) Comments | Posted January 18, 2013 | 6:36 AM

You don't call. You don't write. What's a mother to do?

This lament of the neglected mother has become so familiar in the United States that we joke about it. The mother who incessantly kvetches about her children's lack of attention has become an unfortunate cultural stereotype. Yet, what is...

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When a Close Friend Dies

(1) Comments | Posted January 4, 2013 | 12:12 PM

Whitney Houston died in 2012. So did Marvin Hamlisch and Mike Wallace and Donna Summer and Andy Griffith and Davy Jones and Sally Ride and Neil Armstrong and Sun Myung Moon, and the man who invented the first wireless remote control and the doctor who performed the first successful kidney...

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Just One More Voice For Gun Control

(29) Comments | Posted December 17, 2012 | 1:33 PM

A few days after the movie theater massacre in Aurora, Colorado I wrote an essay about the need for stricter gun laws in this country. I never posted it because I felt it didn't add anything new to the conversation. I hadn't found an "angle" that would pique people's interest....

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Finding Hope in the Next Generation

(4) Comments | Posted December 7, 2012 | 5:26 PM

I was older by at least 30 years than the next oldest person in the classroom. Bill, one of the facilitators, was of my generation, but he didn't count because one expects the facilitator to be old and wise. I had come to Arcadia University to participate in a weekend-long...

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Spending the Kids' Inheritance and Not Feeling Guilty

(16) Comments | Posted November 30, 2012 | 9:24 AM

To My Darling Children,

I hope you don't mind, but your father and I are spending your inheritance. Actually, it doesn't matter if you do mind because we are spending it anyway and we don't need your permission to do so. After a Thanksgiving that was delicious on so many...

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What a Strange Man in a Bar can Teach

(6) Comments | Posted November 15, 2012 | 6:49 PM

So a middle-aged woman walks into a bar...

She's a reasonably attractive woman for her years. Not an ageless beauty like Sophia Loren, but it is clear that effort has been put into her upkeep.

She is Madison Avenue's dream customer, a sucker for beauty ads, who has wasted...

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Weathering Sandy Without the Kids

(1) Comments | Posted November 5, 2012 | 6:05 PM

My children are all right. I can exhale. Hurricane Sandy was the first natural disaster my husband and I sweated out sans kids. Schools were closed throughout our area for a week, but in our home, there was no celebration of the unexpected bonus vacation. There were no pancakes to...

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Got Time? Got Love? Get With The Program

(10) Comments | Posted October 19, 2012 | 9:25 AM

Sometimes on Fridays, 6-year-old Laura Miller stares out her living room window, waiting eagerly for BB to arrive. On other Fridays BB is already at the house when Laura steps off the school bus. The little girl's face lights up when she sees BB's car in the driveway. Laura's mother,...

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Forgiving Yourself Is Oh So Hard to Do

(2) Comments | Posted October 8, 2012 | 10:14 AM

On Yom Kippur Eve, a few hours before the holy Kol Nidre service began, I made the requisite phone calls I make every year... those suck-it-up-and-make-amends phone calls to anyone I might have hurt or slighted in the lunar year just past. I am not an intensely observant Jew, but...

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