Guys! Tired of ending up on tedious dates with women who wear a size 8 or up? Want to meet the skinny woman of your dreams? If you're willing to spend $40, I know just the place! 21 Waverly Place, actually, at Murphy and Gonzales. Tonight, at 7:30, at an event from OnSpeedDating.com.
The event description reads:
Date women size 0-8."We all have relationship 'deal-breakers', and that does not make us shallow, we're just single New Yorkers that know what we want and are attracted to. Obviously there is more to it than just height or size, but for many of us that initial "attraction" factor is at least a starting point.
According to the National Center for Health Statistics, the average clothing size for adult women in the United States is a 14, making our upcoming "Skinny Minny" night for svelte women size 0-8 anything but average. Guys, no need to worry about meeting a biggie-size chick "down-sizing" to an 8 like when you're dating online. We'll be checking labels at the door!
(Here's the full the event page)
Checking labels at the door. I'm trying to imagine that right now. A giant bouncer dude with huge biceps, checking your pants size. Fun.
Since online dating and meet-up groups got popular, they have become increasingly specialized, with an emphasis on "find YOUR kind of person, because you already know what you want!" There are sites for bookworms, for people who read certain blogs, for physically handicapped people, for Jews, for conservative Christians and people who like their toast only lightly crisped. OK, I made that last one up. There is speed-dating for men who want to meet women of below-average weight. I wish I could say I made that up.
So for all you NYC women who were worried about selecting the "curvy" option on OKCupid's describe-your-body section and who have fretted over whether or not guys in this city prefer their women catwalk thin -- there's hope! The hope is that they'll go to this speed-dating event and get off your dating site.
Everyone is entitled to their preferences. It's very uncool to judge anyone for preferring anything, actually. So I'll close with a single word, open to interpretation: Wow.
Just wow.
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This isn't about what attainable for you because that is your own issue. There is a range given for the preferences of these men. If you don't like it, don't go. If you do, go. Nobody is demanding that you fall into that range. Lamenting about what some men like is pointless.
Where in the world did people ever get the idea that everything, including personal preferences, had to be all inclusive? If everything was all inclusive then opinions and preferences wouldn't matter. How boring a world would that be?
Thing is, I know a few overweight women who date quite often. The ones that don't, it's not cause they can't, it's because they are even pickier in superficial ways than the thinner ones. Which is fine because we all have preferences, but one cannot just blame the opposite sex because they have problems finding a mate.
Your post really got me thinking about the irony of this article. I think most people would think your preference was not a big deal, that preferring tall men was fine. I think very few people would be offended. The funny thing is that nobody has control over their height, yet most people have control over their weight, they just don't exercise that control.
So in the world of the "it's not fair" crowd, your preference should be more offensive to them than the guys looking of a size 0 to 8, yet I'm sure it isn't.
i do have a problem with the whole size 0 thing because for a lot of women this is not attainable and unhealthy. i'm not attracted to men who are over a healthy weight or under it and you can't expect men to not feel like this either.
it's pretty superficial, but so is attraction. that's why we're offended. being the perfect size 0 or whatever shouldn't be the thing that is most important in a relationship but some people do fixate on looks. personally i would never attend this kind of event. it's like asking for 'only blondes' or 'only tall women.' meh. i don't think it would be a very nice environment. and what kind of guys would turn up? shouldn't some of the pressure be taken of the women? it's only fair. presumably they want to go out with someone who's also slim? the advertisement just shouts superficial and a little nasty.
Just wow."
Wow. You are very uncool.
Everyone IS entitled to their own preferences.
Attractive women like "successful" and "financially secure" men.
If they didn't care more about money than anything else, these men would then be delusional.
Instead...
Please, stop deluding yourself, those Men are entitled to their turn ons and turn offs just like any other human being.
Just because they don't find all Women attractive doesn't make them bad people. They're just honest with themselves about what they're looking for in a Woman.
Only men.
When I was looking for a girl friend, the top thing on my list of priorities were ...
Is she kind?
Does she complain a lot?
Is she trustworthy?
Does she appreciate me?
That is how I pick my women, but it doesn't make me a better person than the man who really values looks in his women.
Everyone is different, and I think it takes a real adult to acknowledge that.