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Kate Russell
Kate Russell is the mother of two beautiful girls born 13 months apart. She believes that it is never too late to change how we parent and has learned that being a conscious and reflective parent will empower children to grow with confidence and trust in themselves. A former high school teacher, Kate now dreams of opening a school for parents to learn about the joys of respectful parenting.

Entries by Kate Russell

My Daughter Is Not Giving Me a Hard Time, She Is Having a Hard Time

(0) Comments | Posted June 23, 2015 | 12:05 AM

All the tantrums, all the defiance, the yelling, the fighting and even the destruction; but none of it to make my life miserable. To believe that would be self-centred and narrow-minded. Even so, when faced with these events, it can be difficult to see that the hardship am faced with at that...

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My Greatest Parenting Failure

(1) Comments | Posted May 20, 2015 | 3:05 PM

I wanted to get this one right. In my mind, there was no room for error as a parent, and so I put everything into it and more. I was not good enough for my children in the early days. I didn't know enough about them and I didn't know...

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Don't Grow Up, Grow Beautifully

(0) Comments | Posted May 15, 2015 | 11:30 AM

She came to me yesterday, my daughter. She handed me a piece of paper. She told me she had written me a shopping list. I was busy. I was preparing the family meals for the week. I thanked her for the list and placed it on the bench. I caught...

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Don't Comfort Me, I Need to Cry

(0) Comments | Posted May 13, 2015 | 5:23 PM

Even understanding, as I do, that the expression of emotions is normal, healthy and important in the emotional intelligence development of a child, my motherly instincts still seek to offer comfort and support to my children when they are upset.

I want them...

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Why Teenagers Don't Talk to Their Parents

(0) Comments | Posted February 23, 2015 | 1:27 PM

Imagine if your son came home from school after spending the day coping with peers calling him names and throwing his backpack. Imagine then if he were to say nothing to you about it, but instead went straight to his room. Would you want him to have the opportunity talk...

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Resolving a Toddler Toy Fight With One Simple Phrase

(0) Comments | Posted January 22, 2015 | 4:55 PM

We have been through our fair share of sibling toy fights  with our daughters' fiery personalities and close age gap. Thankfully, since following the wise advice of Janet Lansbury and the RIE parenting...

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An Honest Letter to My Daughter's Day Care Mom

(0) Comments | Posted December 10, 2014 | 5:17 PM

Today, I choked back tears as I picked my youngest daughter up from her Family Day Care Mom for the last time. These emotions caught me by surprise as I was sometimes critical of this mother's care-giving methods, knowing they did not always align with my

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My Child Is Not Afraid to Defy Authority, and I Am Not Afraid to Let Her

(0) Comments | Posted November 21, 2014 | 4:34 PM

Ever since she could talk, my daughter has had something to say about the expectations placed upon her. Keen to stamp her independence firmly on every task or undertaking, Lucy (3.5 years) has always ensured that if it involves her, she has a say in it.

Luckily for her, early on in...

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Interfering in Sibling Relationships Can Push Them Further Apart

(0) Comments | Posted October 20, 2014 | 7:02 PM

Sibling relationships can be highly volatile but they can also be incredibly special. For many of us with multiple children, it is our dream that they will be best of mates, that they will care for one another, look out for one another and play happily together like all best friends...

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How I'm Setting My Daughter up to Fail

(0) Comments | Posted October 7, 2014 | 6:02 PM

I have written previously about how fervently my eldest daughter, Lucy, seeks to test limits. She enjoys the challenge and the excitement of finding new ways to keep us on our toes. Whether she empties out all the tissues from the tissue box...

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Why I Let My Children Take Risks

(0) Comments | Posted September 30, 2014 | 2:48 PM

Risk-taking is a natural part of our everyday lives. Many risks we probably don't even think of as risky: pouring our tea, driving our car, crossing the road, etc. We are so used to these things going right that we no longer associate them with danger. Other risks we take...

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Why I Allow my Kids to Struggle Over Toys

(0) Comments | Posted September 9, 2014 | 4:33 PM

My daughters have always had a rather volatile relationship. Born just 13 months apart and with polar opposite personalities, they have often struggled living their daily lives in each other's company, particularly when it comes to

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5 Tips For Staying Calm With Children

(1) Comments | Posted June 23, 2014 | 1:38 PM

Tips For Staying Calm With Children ~ Peaceful Parents, Confident KidsParenting peacefully does not come easily to many people. Despite a common misconception that being gentle with our children and avoiding the use of punishments is considered lazy parenting, peaceful, gentle...

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Coping With a Toddler Tantrum in a Stressful Situation

(0) Comments | Posted May 27, 2014 | 6:50 PM

I am a relief teacher. Sometimes, I get called into work early in the morning and have to rush to be ready in time but luckily, I am often given advanced warning. Today, I had received the call the night before and so was able to ensure I was up...

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Slowing Down Care-Giving Moments to Encourage Independence in Toddlers

(0) Comments | Posted May 13, 2014 | 12:23 PM

Days with my children are so hectic, so full on. Life with a 3-year-old and a 2-year-old can seem chaotic from the moment the first sounds of little pitter pattering feet make their way to our bedroom door in the morning, to the time they finally succumb to sleep as...

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Easing the Stress of Day Care Pick Ups

(0) Comments | Posted April 9, 2014 | 5:42 PM

Balancing work with family life is a challenge many families deal with at some stage or another. We have been juggling this reality in our house for just over a year now and it hasn't been easy.

Returning to work was not something I was comfortable with after the birth...

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I Can't Always Protect My Children -- and I Don't Always Want To

(0) Comments | Posted April 4, 2014 | 2:50 PM

I think it is a natural instinct for parents to want to protect their children from pain. Not just physical pain, but emotional pain. For me, I find my Mama Bear instinct particularly strong when I see my child being treated unjustly by her peers. I think my reactions stem...

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Damage Limitation Following a Parental Meltdown

(0) Comments | Posted February 4, 2014 | 3:40 PM

I have found one of the hardest things to deal with as an RIE parent is the enormous guilt I feel when I "get it wrong" or "slip up." Because I now know the effects of expressing anger, not remaining calm or just generally losing control when dealing...

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Don't Call My Daughter 'Shy'

(0) Comments | Posted January 2, 2014 | 7:39 PM

Being shy is something I have a lot of experience with. Ever since I can remember I have been shy at varying degrees. I was the child who would hide behind my mother's legs when people came to visit or we went to visit others. I cried every day of...

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I Have a Daughter With Intense Emotions

(26) Comments | Posted December 16, 2013 | 9:26 AM

I have a daughter with intense emotions...

Over the past few months, I realize I have blogged numerous times about dealing with my emotional toddler. As I find myself sitting here yet again blogging about this difficult topic, I wonder whether anything...

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