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Kat Forsythe, MSW
Kat Forsythe, MSW, specializes in inspiring women at midlife and beyond to lead their personal and professional lives with confidence, radiance and zest. Her decades of experience as a life coach, therapist, business consultant – in addition to her own cataclysmic midlife journey - help her understand the full scope of personhood at midlife and beyond.
Whether it’s re-inventing yourself, starting over after divorce, or cultivating vital personal and professional relationships, Kat speaks with authority, empathy and humor – incorporating her Six-Step System to Love Your Life Now. Kat has given keynote presentations, seminars and workshops for a variety of companies and organizations, from community groups to Fortune 500 firms. She also maintains a large “Love Your Life Now” private coaching practice.
A taste of her wisdom, common sense advice and answers are compiled in Kat’s new book, Exhale Midlife Body Blues, a six step guide to managing the physical changes that women experience after 50.
Kat is a Michigan native residing in San Francisco.
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Entries by Kat Forsythe, MSW

Divorced And Dating? 10 Tips To Survive His (Or Her) Family Over The Holidays

(1) Comments | Posted December 20, 2014 | 6:39 AM


Three weeks before Christmas, I met my new boyfriend's family in Sonoma. At the time, I was 61 and he was 66 years old.

As we approached the café, I saw his sister. She sat rigid on a stool, arms and legs crossed,...

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The Hardest Part Of Being Divorced And Over 50

(6) Comments | Posted December 4, 2014 | 6:06 AM


By now, we know what we like and don't like -- whether it's food, cars, style ... or sex.

If you've undergone a painful divorce, I bet you've composed a list of things you tolerated with your former spouse, but no longer...

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Divorce: Here's Your Holiday Survival Kit

(1) Comments | Posted December 3, 2014 | 5:07 PM


The season of over-indulgence, glitter, unrealistic expectations and fantasy has arrived. But I refuse to buy in.

On Black Friday, I wrote a letter to several people on my annual gift list.

I told them: "My gift this year won't come...

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Reinvention After Divorce: 5 Steps to Avoid the Sunday Evening Blues

(1) Comments | Posted November 30, 2014 | 8:26 AM


It's late afternoon on Sunday. The weekend hourglass is trickling down to its last bit of sand and you feel a pervasive sadness cascading over you.

As the afternoon wanes into evening, the intensity of the "Sunday blues" gets worse: job worries,...

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Why I'm Thankful for My Divorce

(2) Comments | Posted November 26, 2014 | 4:27 PM


Some years ago, my daughter and I sat in Ghirardelli Square in San Francisco, scraping up any smears of chocolate left in our dishes of hot-fudge sundaes.

This was a treat to congratulate ourselves on making it through the first hellish week...

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Dating After Divorce When You're 50 and Older: STIs: The Sex Talk No One Wants To Have -- But Should

(0) Comments | Posted November 25, 2014 | 6:25 PM


Divorced for six years, my best friend MaryBeth, a 61-year-old doctor, reluctantly made her third entry into

"I found this guy," she said. "He says he's 58 and he looks like a cowboy. I'm meeting him at Peet's at five tonight...

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4 Tips To Put Your Best Foot Forward: Reinvent Yourself After Divorce

(10) Comments | Posted November 17, 2014 | 5:45 AM


This morning as I was walking from the subway, a fabulously dressed woman in her early 30s paused briefly and said to me, "I love your style! You look so confident; it all works together. The earrings, the scarf, the...

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7 Tips To Ace The 'Relationship Talk'

(1) Comments | Posted November 9, 2014 | 8:35 AM


The dreaded, difficult "relationship talk." By now, we've all had them, and they're still hard to navigate. Whether they're about money, sex or family issues, these talks make problems at the office look like a walk in the park.

The problem is...

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Re-Inventing Yourself After Divorce: 5 Tips To Dump A Bad Habit For A Good Habit In 20 Days!

(5) Comments | Posted October 31, 2014 | 7:34 AM

I'll admit it: After my divorce, I checked my former spouse's Facebook page every morning.

It was downright self-destructive to my recovery. The self-pity party it wrought for the entire day didn't help. Why did I do it? Because prior to...

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10 Tips for Reinventing Your Wardrobe After Divorce

(1) Comments | Posted October 16, 2014 | 11:53 AM

Self-esteem and divorce: When it comes to reinventing yourself at midlife and beyond, they mix together as well as oil and water. At best, your divorce settlement leaves you happy to finally move on. At worst, you're scraping yourself off the floor.

"Pick yourself up and get back in...

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The Insomniac Club: What To Tell Yourself When You Can't Sleep

(21) Comments | Posted October 13, 2014 | 8:34 AM


It's 3 a.m. Are you up? Welcome to Club Insomnia.

I'm a member as well - and we're in good company. Other insomniacs include George Clooney, Sandra Bullock, Madonna, Simon Cowell, even Napoleon Bonaparte!

Good news: If they can...

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5 Tips To Deal With Your Friend's Divorce Drama

(0) Comments | Posted October 7, 2014 | 7:44 AM


"Best friends forever": It's a phrase can get pushed to the limits when you're the go-to support person for a devastated friend after her divorce. Initially, you're right by her side, especially at midlife and beyond, when you've been friends for decades.

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Top Five Divorce Songs: Music That Saves Your Soul

(2) Comments | Posted October 3, 2014 | 7:25 PM


I was frozen, the proverbial deer in the headlights, when I watched my attorney trot away from the courtroom tossing a casual, "Good luck! You'll be fine!" over her shoulder.

The gavel had come down, and presto! I was single again after...

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Divorce Blues? The 6-Stop Gratitude Positioning System

(0) Comments | Posted September 30, 2014 | 9:58 AM


After my divorce, it seemed like every one of my loyal supporters told me to adopt an "attitude of gratitude."

I understood the concept and appreciated their help, but I just wasn't feelin' it.
Nonetheless, in spite of big doubts,...

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Re-invention Ain't Easy: Top 10 Actions To Take When Anxiety Nightmares Strike

(4) Comments | Posted September 22, 2014 | 3:22 AM

Last night, I dreamt I was alone with a scary, grubby man. He handed me a knife and said I had to kill his dog before I could go home.

In horror, I scrambled to leave. But there was no way...

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Recently Divorced? You're Not Getting Older, You're Getting Started.℠

(0) Comments | Posted July 22, 2014 | 8:43 AM

Last weekend, I attended a fundraiser. There was lots of talk of safaris and visiting the Galapagos. A gentleman offered me a glass of bubbly. I spotted a hefty gold band on his left hand. (Married. We single women notice.) So as...

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First Time Out as A Single Person? 10 Survival Tips

(1) Comments | Posted June 15, 2014 | 9:41 AM

Over the recent Memorial Day weekend, I was reminded of President John F. Kennedy's 1955 book, "Profiles in Courage." He describes eight U.S. senators (all men), detailing their bravery and integrity in the face of criticism and challenge.

Patriotism notwithstanding, I witnessed stunning profiles in courage this weekend that...

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6 Steps to Love Your life Now ... No Matter What!

(0) Comments | Posted May 16, 2014 | 6:58 AM

"Why does it take cancer to see how blue the sky is? You don't have time for negative energy. Love your life now, no matter what! If I'm not afraid to die, you mustn't be afraid to live."



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7 Ways To Use Fear To Your Advantage

(0) Comments | Posted April 28, 2014 | 7:43 AM

2014-04-19-worriedwomanlookingdown.jpeg A hard bright light dawned on moving day. Dozens of brown, cardboard boxes filled with my belongings were stacked everywhere in my otherwise empty house. My entire history was packed up, ready to be hauled off to San Francisco where...

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