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Kat Forsythe, MSW
A message from Kat Forsythe, MSW:
I'm a specialist in divorce recovery, and reclaiming your life after catastrophic change. I'm a personal coach, webinar and seminar leader, keynote speaker, author, and therapist. How can I help you? Please feel free to contact me at

For more than 25 years, I've been a change catalyst for people of all flavors and experience, showing them how to bounce back when life punches us down, and then leap forward into the life they want - based on their own strengths. I guide my clients through a 6 step, practical, no-nonsense plan to get them to "Forward"!

My expertise has evolved from a myriad of experience: I've been a personal coach to hundreds of women and men going through divorce; I've been an educator around intimate issues of relationships to men and women after midlife; I've even lived the corporate life for 18 years as an independent sales consultant to some of the biggest names on Wall Street. My proudest achievement is navigating the turbulent waters of parenthood to see my two beautiful daughters become the loving adult women that they are today.

I know the agonizing pain of divorce - the loneliness, the fear, the anxiety. After my own brutal divorce after 33 years of marriage, I struggled ferociously to regain my sense of who I was. I took a deep dive into a very dark and scary abyss before I finally found my way back to sanity. When I could finally think clearly, I decided to refocus my professional life - and devote my background and all my strengths to helping others through the journey of divorce - or any other cataclysmic midlife event - and help her/him develop a practical plan after the gavel comes down - or the career ends - or the passing of a loved one happens.

My online community is alive and well at! Please join us for the support you need - blogs with common sense and humor etched into each one, private coaching, webinars, chat groups, books, ESC support products (Extreme Self Care). Take care of yourself, first - and join us! Register for our monthly inspirational newsletter and get that jolt of encouragement you're searching for.

I'm a graduate of the University of Michigan, grew up in the midwest, and now reside in magnificent San Francisco.

Please visit me at I'd love to hear YOUR story and help in any way I can!
-Kat Forsythe, MSW

Entries by Kat Forsythe, MSW

Divorced And Dating? 10 Tips To Survive His (Or Her) Family Over The Holidays

(1) Comments | Posted December 20, 2014 | 6:39 AM


Three weeks before Christmas, I met my new boyfriend's family in Sonoma. At the time, I was 61 and he was 66 years old.

As we approached the café, I saw his sister. She sat rigid on a stool, arms and legs crossed,...

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The Hardest Part Of Being Divorced And Over 50

(6) Comments | Posted December 4, 2014 | 6:06 AM


By now, we know what we like and don't like -- whether it's food, cars, style ... or sex.

If you've undergone a painful divorce, I bet you've composed a list of things you tolerated with your former spouse, but no longer...

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Divorce: Here's Your Holiday Survival Kit

(1) Comments | Posted December 3, 2014 | 5:07 PM


The season of over-indulgence, glitter, unrealistic expectations and fantasy has arrived. But I refuse to buy in.

On Black Friday, I wrote a letter to several people on my annual gift list.

I told them: "My gift this year won't come...

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Reinvention After Divorce: 5 Steps to Avoid the Sunday Evening Blues

(1) Comments | Posted November 30, 2014 | 8:26 AM


It's late afternoon on Sunday. The weekend hourglass is trickling down to its last bit of sand and you feel a pervasive sadness cascading over you.

As the afternoon wanes into evening, the intensity of the "Sunday blues" gets worse: job worries,...

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Why I'm Thankful for My Divorce

(2) Comments | Posted November 26, 2014 | 4:27 PM


Some years ago, my daughter and I sat in Ghirardelli Square in San Francisco, scraping up any smears of chocolate left in our dishes of hot-fudge sundaes.

This was a treat to congratulate ourselves on making it through the first hellish week...

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Dating After Divorce When You're 50 and Older: STIs: The Sex Talk No One Wants To Have -- But Should

(0) Comments | Posted November 25, 2014 | 6:25 PM


Divorced for six years, my best friend MaryBeth, a 61-year-old doctor, reluctantly made her third entry into

"I found this guy," she said. "He says he's 58 and he looks like a cowboy. I'm meeting him at Peet's at five tonight...

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4 Tips To Put Your Best Foot Forward: Reinvent Yourself After Divorce

(10) Comments | Posted November 17, 2014 | 5:45 AM


This morning as I was walking from the subway, a fabulously dressed woman in her early 30s paused briefly and said to me, "I love your style! You look so confident; it all works together. The earrings, the scarf, the...

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7 Tips To Ace The 'Relationship Talk'

(1) Comments | Posted November 9, 2014 | 8:35 AM


The dreaded, difficult "relationship talk." By now, we've all had them, and they're still hard to navigate. Whether they're about money, sex or family issues, these talks make problems at the office look like a walk in the park.

The problem is...

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Re-Inventing Yourself After Divorce: 5 Tips To Dump A Bad Habit For A Good Habit In 20 Days!

(5) Comments | Posted October 31, 2014 | 7:34 AM

I'll admit it: After my divorce, I checked my former spouse's Facebook page every morning.

It was downright self-destructive to my recovery. The self-pity party it wrought for the entire day didn't help. Why did I do it? Because prior to...

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10 Tips for Reinventing Your Wardrobe After Divorce

(1) Comments | Posted October 16, 2014 | 11:53 AM

Self-esteem and divorce: When it comes to reinventing yourself at midlife and beyond, they mix together as well as oil and water. At best, your divorce settlement leaves you happy to finally move on. At worst, you're scraping yourself off the floor.

"Pick yourself up and get back in...

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The Insomniac Club: What To Tell Yourself When You Can't Sleep

(21) Comments | Posted October 13, 2014 | 8:34 AM


It's 3 a.m. Are you up? Welcome to Club Insomnia.

I'm a member as well - and we're in good company. Other insomniacs include George Clooney, Sandra Bullock, Madonna, Simon Cowell, even Napoleon Bonaparte!

Good news: If they can...

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5 Tips To Deal With Your Friend's Divorce Drama

(0) Comments | Posted October 7, 2014 | 7:44 AM


"Best friends forever": It's a phrase can get pushed to the limits when you're the go-to support person for a devastated friend after her divorce. Initially, you're right by her side, especially at midlife and beyond, when you've been friends for decades.

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Top Five Divorce Songs: Music That Saves Your Soul

(2) Comments | Posted October 3, 2014 | 7:25 PM


I was frozen, the proverbial deer in the headlights, when I watched my attorney trot away from the courtroom tossing a casual, "Good luck! You'll be fine!" over her shoulder.

The gavel had come down, and presto! I was single again after...

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Divorce Blues? The 6-Stop Gratitude Positioning System

(0) Comments | Posted September 30, 2014 | 9:58 AM


After my divorce, it seemed like every one of my loyal supporters told me to adopt an "attitude of gratitude."

I understood the concept and appreciated their help, but I just wasn't feelin' it.
Nonetheless, in spite of big doubts,...

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Re-invention Ain't Easy: Top 10 Actions To Take When Anxiety Nightmares Strike

(4) Comments | Posted September 22, 2014 | 3:22 AM

Last night, I dreamt I was alone with a scary, grubby man. He handed me a knife and said I had to kill his dog before I could go home.

In horror, I scrambled to leave. But there was no way...

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Recently Divorced? You're Not Getting Older, You're Getting Started.℠

(0) Comments | Posted July 22, 2014 | 8:43 AM

Last weekend, I attended a fundraiser. There was lots of talk of safaris and visiting the Galapagos. A gentleman offered me a glass of bubbly. I spotted a hefty gold band on his left hand. (Married. We single women notice.) So as...

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First Time Out as A Single Person? 10 Survival Tips

(1) Comments | Posted June 15, 2014 | 9:41 AM

Over the recent Memorial Day weekend, I was reminded of President John F. Kennedy's 1955 book, "Profiles in Courage." He describes eight U.S. senators (all men), detailing their bravery and integrity in the face of criticism and challenge.

Patriotism notwithstanding, I witnessed stunning profiles in courage this weekend that...

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6 Steps to Love Your life Now ... No Matter What!

(0) Comments | Posted May 16, 2014 | 6:58 AM

"Why does it take cancer to see how blue the sky is? You don't have time for negative energy. Love your life now, no matter what! If I'm not afraid to die, you mustn't be afraid to live."



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7 Ways To Use Fear To Your Advantage

(0) Comments | Posted April 28, 2014 | 7:43 AM

2014-04-19-worriedwomanlookingdown.jpeg A hard bright light dawned on moving day. Dozens of brown, cardboard boxes filled with my belongings were stacked everywhere in my otherwise empty house. My entire history was packed up, ready to be hauled off to San Francisco where...

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