The Unanswered Question That Drives The Republican War On Women

Think for a moment about the entire verbal output of all the candidates in the Republican debates of the last few months. Did you hear any candidate say anything at all about women's rights, except to call for cutting them...

As we write this blog we are celebrating our 30th wedding anniversary. Early in our relationship, we set some big intentions: We wanted to get free of the old patterns that had plagued us in past relationships, such as criticism, blame and secret-keeping. We wanted to create a relationship that...

Forget "Working" On Your Relationships -- There's An Easier Way

When we first met 32 years ago, there were no books about how to create a loving relationship and navigate through the inevitable challenges. We couldn't find any mentors to show us the way, either. Ultimately, this turned out to...

How Your Own Life Experience Reveals Your Genius And Provides Your Ultimate Market Advantage

In preparing to teach our "Conscious Entrepreneurs" program, I (GH) made a little video that shows how your own story has a magic power embedded in it. Here's the key point: Not only does your own...

A few days ago I came back from errands and met Gay in the kitchen. When we hugged and kissed hello I noticed a wave of bliss/streaming/expansion rush up the front of my body and take me into light swooning. After 32 years of being together, I felt delighted that...

Relationships and the Body, Part Two

Scientific research is often 20 or more years behind what practitioners have discovered by seeing real clients every day. It takes a while for a clinical observation to make its way through the thicket of proposals and research committees before it can be verified...

Relationships and the Body, Part One

Is alexithymia wreaking havoc in your close relationships?

Most of us struggle at one time or another with an inability to feel what's going on inside us at the level of emotion and energy flow. The technical term for this problem is "alexithymia."...

Two Troubling Signs The Answer May Be "Not So Much."

In his recent Nike commercial, a stone-faced Tiger Woods stares into the camera as he listens to the voice of his late father, Earl. The commercial closes with the question, "Did you learn anything?" In the words...

It's the best one-liner I ever heard in a therapy session.

Before I tell you what it was, though, let me set some background. I saw my first therapy client in 1968, and over the past forty years have done thousands of sessions with hundreds of different people. In...

While Kathlyn was in Northern California teaching a seminar this past weekend, I was on the road, too, finishing a series of bookstore and media appearances for my new book, The Big Leap. For me, the best part of doing bookstore appearances and TV/radio shows is that I get to...

There's a scandal boiling over into the national media regarding lawsuits against Rhonda Byrne, the woman who brought The Secret movie and book to the world. It's not yet known whether they will be settled before they go to trial, but whatever path the story takes, it has powerful lessons...

While Kathlyn heads off to Honolulu to teach one of our 3-Day conscious loving seminars, I'm happily engaged in the run-up to the publication on April 21 of my new book, The Big Leap. It's all about what we've named the Upper Limit Problem. Between now and when the book...

How about celebrating a special kind of Valentine's Day all year long?

Relationship research tells us that spoken appreciation is one of the keys to healthy relationships. Other kinds of appreciation are great, too, (such as loving touch or lending a hand with a chore) but spoken appreciation is highly...

January 20, 2009 is a day most of us will remember all our lives, thanks to Barack Obama's inauguration. We will certainly treasure that memory, but we also have a couple more wonderful reasons to remember the day. Gay begins the story: "I woke up around 4:30 a.m. on Inauguration...

A Solution That Contributes To Your Own Well-being As Well As The Community's

Transforming Fear Into Creative Energy
Most of the solutions to the current economic crisis do not touch the real problem. The real barrier is not financial in nature but rather emotional and spiritual. At the root...

A headline caught our eye recently, about some nasty things Ann Coulter said about Michelle Obama in a new book. At the risk of giving free publicity to the book, we felt it necessary to set the record straight about Coulter and the general subject of mocking.

Mocking usually hits...

Click here to read Body Politics: The Clinton-Obama Relationship, Part 1...

In our last post we looked at the element of touch and the role it plays in the burgeoning relationship between Hilary Clinton and Barack Obama. Now, we want to explore a play of expressions on and...

One of the striking features of the relationship between Hillary Clinton and Barack Obama is how much they touch each other. As can be seen in the accompanying pictures, they touch each other in a number of different ways that are typical in ordinary day-to-day communication but not so typical...

Most of us grew up learning to avoid speaking about politics and religion in public. Many of us also remember the dinner-table squabbles with parents who just "didn't get it" about music, the current administration or really anything else that was truly cool. But few of us have had adequate...

In an earlier post we commented on positive aspects of the relationship between Michelle and Barack Obama. Fresh from having watched their recent 60 Minutes interview, we'd like to bring to your attention one remarkable bit of body language we can all learn from. Specifically, if you watch...