It's the best one-liner I ever heard in a therapy session.

Before I tell you what it was, though, let me set some background. I saw my first therapy client in 1968, and over the past forty years have done thousands of sessions with hundreds of different people. In...

While Kathlyn was in Northern California teaching a seminar this past weekend, I was on the road, too, finishing a series of bookstore and media appearances for my new book, The Big Leap. For me, the best part of doing bookstore appearances and TV/radio shows is that I get to...

There's a scandal boiling over into the national media regarding lawsuits against Rhonda Byrne, the woman who brought The Secret movie and book to the world. It's not yet known whether they will be settled before they go to trial, but whatever path the story takes, it has powerful lessons...

While Kathlyn heads off to Honolulu to teach one of our 3-Day conscious loving seminars, I'm happily engaged in the run-up to the publication on April 21 of my new book, The Big Leap. It's all about what we've named the Upper Limit Problem. Between now and when the book...

How about celebrating a special kind of Valentine's Day all year long?

Relationship research tells us that spoken appreciation is one of the keys to healthy relationships. Other kinds of appreciation are great, too, (such as loving touch or lending a hand with a chore) but spoken appreciation is highly...

January 20, 2009 is a day most of us will remember all our lives, thanks to Barack Obama's inauguration. We will certainly treasure that memory, but we also have a couple more wonderful reasons to remember the day. Gay begins the story: "I woke up around 4:30 a.m. on Inauguration...

A Solution That Contributes To Your Own Well-being As Well As The Community's

Transforming Fear Into Creative Energy
Most of the solutions to the current economic crisis do not touch the real problem. The real barrier is not financial in nature but rather emotional and spiritual. At the root...

A headline caught our eye recently, about some nasty things Ann Coulter said about Michelle Obama in a new book. At the risk of giving free publicity to the book, we felt it necessary to set the record straight about Coulter and the general subject of mocking.

Mocking usually hits...

Click here to read Body Politics: The Clinton-Obama Relationship, Part 1...

In our last post we looked at the element of touch and the role it plays in the burgeoning relationship between Hilary Clinton and Barack Obama. Now, we want to explore a play of expressions on and...

One of the striking features of the relationship between Hillary Clinton and Barack Obama is how much they touch each other. As can be seen in the accompanying pictures, they touch each other in a number of different ways that are typical in ordinary day-to-day communication but not so typical...

Most of us grew up learning to avoid speaking about politics and religion in public. Many of us also remember the dinner-table squabbles with parents who just "didn't get it" about music, the current administration or really anything else that was truly cool. But few of us have had adequate...

In an earlier post we commented on positive aspects of the relationship between Michelle and Barack Obama. Fresh from having watched their recent 60 Minutes interview, we'd like to bring to your attention one remarkable bit of body language we can all learn from. Specifically, if you watch...

Whether in the White House, your house or our house, the same three actions determine the quality of relationships. Relationships between countries and political leaders are an exact mirror of our relationships at home. The same things that cause relationship disruptions around the house cause relationship disruptions among our politicians....

5. The Exploding Veep
The first big dose of revelatory body language came for us the morning of Election Day, when we finally saw the tape of Dick Cheney endorsing John McCain. If you missed it, here's the key moment: At the peak of the speech, Cheney belted...

In an earlier post, we celebrated the relationship between Michelle and Barack Obama. Now, in honor of his grandmother's passing, we want to honor his relationship with Madelyn Dunham and to celebrate the profound effect it had on his life and the lives of all of us.

There are a lot of nervous people around these days, but most of the ones we meet seem to be handling it with fairly good humor. That's important, because loss of a sense of humor is one of the first signs of encroaching mental/emotional distress. An old Hungarian proverb says...

[Editor's Note: "Body Politics" by Kathlyn and Gay Hendricks is part of an ongoing series. Previous posts include: "The Source Of McCain's Odd Body Language, And The Gift It Brings", "Sarah Palin's Body Language And Why It Should Worry You", "What McCain's Smirks, Tics, and Jaw-Clenches...

Never mind that when John McCain smiles, it looks about as warm and inviting as a moonlit New England country graveyard.

Never mind that he exhibits more twitches, tics and jaw-clenches than the night shift at a meth lab.

Never mind that he's started having prison-camp...

Since our last post, we've been asked many times to comment on Sarah Palin's mannerisms. Her Body-Talk is not as blatant as her running mate, probably because she has a background as a performer in beauty pageants and television. She has learned to conceal the smirks and clenches that...

How John McCain Can Help You Have A Better Relationship

Understanding the language your body speaks can help you attain much deeper intimacy in relationships. One of the big complaints we hear from partners in relationship therapy is, "I can't figure out what he/she's really feeling." A related complaint is,...