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Kathlyn and Gay Hendricks
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We have two PhDs and 36 published books between us. Yet the most common question a relationship expert will ever get is this one: "What's your love life like?" We're glad you asked. Ever since we consciously attracted each other more than 30 years ago, we turned our relationship into a living laboratory. We wanted to create a marriage that ran entirely on positive energy, and we developed tools to help us accomplish that every day. Since then, we've been teaching our methods to millions of couples and singles - in our counseling offices, at our live trainings, and even on Oprah. Now it's your turn. Subscribe to our free relationship newsletter at and get our very best advice to transform your love life.

Entries by Kathlyn and Gay Hendricks

What Wedding Vows and Other Commitments Get Wrong

(0) Comments | Posted March 11, 2015 | 2:22 PM

Why do our best attempts at lasting love so often fail? If you really want to grow old together, here's the only commitment you need to make.

"To have and to hold, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to...

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Do You Keep Having the Same Fight?

(0) Comments | Posted February 3, 2015 | 10:39 AM

When your partner does something "wrong," this is the last thing you want to do.

Have you ever felt wronged in your relationship? Or rather... that you had a right to be right?

Take this typical scenario:

You've had a long day. You've been up since the crack...

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How to Make 2015 Your Year of Love

(7) Comments | Posted December 30, 2014 | 2:35 PM


The fail-proof promise that will change your year, your relationship, and your life...

How many New Year's resolutions have you made that have the power to not just change your relationship, but the way you feel about yourself all year long?

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Pop Quiz: Are You Grateful or Critical in Love?

(0) Comments | Posted November 25, 2014 | 5:35 PM


Spice up your relationships with gratitude: Here's the simplest yet most powerful tool for transforming any relationship.

Which kind of relationship do you have? Abundantly appreciative or constantly critical?

With Thanksgiving around the corner, there is no better time to ask yourself...

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Why We Celebrate Our Anniversary All Month Long

(1) Comments | Posted October 31, 2014 | 2:23 PM


Why celebrate for only a day when you can do it for a whole month? Here's how our non-traditional wedding turned into a 33-year celebration.

The wedding industry is big business. And yet everyone knows that bigger and more expensive does not necessarily...

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The Cocaine of Relationships: Are You Hooked?

(0) Comments | Posted September 22, 2014 | 2:15 PM


The surprising (and common) habit that is draining the life out of your relationship -- and how to break the pattern for good.

The title of this post might sound a bit alarming, and with good reason.

We wanted to call to your...

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Your Greatest Barrier to Attracting Love

(1) Comments | Posted September 15, 2014 | 2:34 PM


This one problem is responsible for causing singles to stay single... and for keeping them stuck in unhealthy relationships.

After working with more than 20,000 people, the question we often hear most from singles is this:

"How can I attract a great relationship...

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Are You in a 'Fake' Relationship?

(22) Comments | Posted September 1, 2014 | 10:19 AM


There are relationships, and there are entanglements. Read on to discover the four signs that mean you're not experiencing the kind of real love you truly deserve -- and what to do about it.

Are you in a relationship, or are you in...

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The Secret Reason You And Your Partner Fight

(3) Comments | Posted August 15, 2014 | 2:51 PM

How can your relationship be so good at times and so frustrating at others? It has to do with something unconscious, and it's perfectly normal...

See if this sounds familiar:

You and your new partner are coasting along in your relationship, blissful...

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Are You Afraid of Falling in Love?

(1) Comments | Posted July 22, 2014 | 11:15 AM

Watch for these telltale signs of two big relationship fears. Understanding them can finally free you to attract a genuine, loving relationship.

Two Fears That Keep People Single

Fear plays a huge role in relationships, and two fears in particular cause some of the biggest problems. If you understand how...

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Conscious Uncoupling: What It Means

(1) Comments | Posted March 27, 2014 | 12:49 PM

Conscious Uncoupling Is About Compassion, Respect and Awareness

The phones have been busy here since Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin announced their split, with media inquiries about what "Conscious Uncoupling" is all about. (For the record, Gwyneth interviewed us for her blog,, two years ago and cited our book,...

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Mika: A Voice for Common Sense

(0) Comments | Posted March 26, 2014 | 12:17 AM

We'd like to give a heartfelt salute to a hero of ours in the media world: Mika Brzezinski. Actually, she's a hero for two reasons. First, she's an excellent journalist on a terrific ensemble show that's an early-morning essential in our household, one of the only places in the media...

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How to Thrive in Love

(0) Comments | Posted March 24, 2014 | 3:10 PM

Arianna Huffington's New Book Is A Boon To Intimacy In Relationships

We got an early look at Arianna Huffington's new book, Thrive: The Third Metric To Creating A Life Of Well-Being, Wisdom And Wonder, and immediately realized it was a gift to the well-being of intimate relationships as well...

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Gay Hendricks' Morning Centering Practice

(2) Comments | Posted June 14, 2012 | 7:40 AM

The stress and strains of our always-connected lives can sometimes take us off course. GPS For The Soul can help you find your way back to balance.

GPS Guides are our way of showing you what works for others in the hopes that you can find out what works...

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Woman: Person or Property?

(242) Comments | Posted February 21, 2012 | 2:18 PM

The Unanswered Question That Drives The Republican War On Women

Think for a moment about the entire verbal output of all the candidates in the Republican debates of the last few months. Did you hear any candidate say anything at all about women's rights, except to call for cutting them...

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How To Create A Conscious Relationship: 7 Principles, 7 Practices

(17) Comments | Posted November 15, 2011 | 6:00 AM

As we write this blog we are celebrating our 30th wedding anniversary. Early in our relationship, we set some big intentions: We wanted to get free of the old patterns that had plagued us in past relationships, such as criticism, blame and secret-keeping. We wanted to create a relationship that...

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Love And Relationships Can Be Easy

(35) Comments | Posted September 21, 2011 | 8:35 AM

Forget "Working" On Your Relationships -- There's An Easier Way

When we first met 32 years ago, there were no books about how to create a loving relationship and navigate through the inevitable challenges. We couldn't find any mentors to show us the way, either. Ultimately, this turned out to...

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The Power of Your Own Story: A Boon to Conscious Entrepreneurs

(7) Comments | Posted May 10, 2011 | 5:41 PM

How Your Own Life Experience Reveals Your Genius And Provides Your Ultimate Market Advantage

In preparing to teach our "Conscious Entrepreneurs" program, I (GH) made a little video that shows how your own story has a magic power embedded in it. Here's the key point: Not only does your own...

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What's Your Swoon Quotient?

(7) Comments | Posted February 22, 2011 | 2:05 PM

A few days ago I came back from errands and met Gay in the kitchen. When we hugged and kissed hello I noticed a wave of bliss/streaming/expansion rush up the front of my body and take me into light swooning. After 32 years of being together, I felt delighted that...

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Relationship Problems? What to Do When Words Fail

(58) Comments | Posted December 10, 2010 | 7:49 AM

Relationships and the Body, Part Two

Scientific research is often 20 or more years behind what practitioners have discovered by seeing real clients every day. It takes a while for a clinical observation to make its way through the thicket of proposals and research committees before it can be verified...

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