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Kathryn Kolbert

Kathryn Kolbert

Posted: September 19, 2008 02:37 PM

The Irony of Success: Feminist Principles in Service of Anti-Feminist Ends


Watching the political theater surrounding Sarah Palin's nomination has been head-spinning in many ways.

I have worked my entire life to ensure that all women have opportunities and choices - about having children, raising families, pursuing careers, moving into professional and political leadership. To me, this represents the heart as well as the concrete accomplishments of the feminist movement. As a result of our work, and those of millions of women activists in whose high heels I followed, my daughter understands that she can pursue any dream -- mother, astronaut, computer geek, (Vice) President - the possibilities are endless.

But over the course of that struggle, it hasn't only been men who have resisted that change. Activists like Phyllis Schlafly rallied opposition to the Equal Rights Amendment and insisted that women with children should stay home, that women were meant to be mothers first and should be judged on that criteria.

Now the very same Phyllis Schlafly - and her male compatriots in the Religious Right political movement - have suddenly embraced the same feminist arguments that we've been making for decades--simply to rally around John McCain and his vice presidential nominee, Sarah Palin.

I guess it's a sign of our cultural success that even ardent right-wing ideologues (with the notable exception of Dr. Laura) are embracing the feminist notion that a woman can simultaneously be a mother and pursue a career at the highest levels. But it's a jarring conversion. Of course, it isn't really a conversion on the principles of equality and choice but rather a political tactic that cynically uses the widespread appeal of those feminist principles to ultimately undermine them.

It's all about electing John McCain, who has repeatedly pledged to nominate Supreme Court justices who will overturn Roe v. Wade. It's about electing John McCain, who is promising more federal judges like those who were named by President Bush and who are systematically undermining individual Americans' legal and constitutional protections - including the principle of equal pay, environmental protection, racial justice. It's about electing John McCain, who has little regard for many of the civil rights and civil liberties that lie at the heart of the American way.

Ironically, Sarah Palin herself seems to be even more anti-feminist than McCain. She opposes equipping young women with information about potentially life-saving contraception. She opposes women having the legal option to choose abortion even in the case of rape or incest. She used her line-item veto to strike funds for a social service agency that provided assistance to young unwed mothers. She would use the power of the state to deny legal protections for women and men in same-sex relationships.

And while I am remarkably pleased that the success of our movement has been so adopted by mainstream America that even my opponents pretend they agree, I'd hate to see John McCain and Sarah Palin succeed, and have the political power and bully pulpit to impose their dangerous policies on the rest of us - and limit the choices that future generations of women will be able to make.


 
 
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02:04 AM on 10/05/2008
I guess that I have always been a feminist since I was 4. Wondering why I couldn't do things but a boy could just because he was a boy. It really makes no sense to me this fight among the sexes, especially when the females actually fight agaisnt women all the time.

Women shouldn't go to war - they might die. Women aren't as strong as men so they can't go to war.
Me die, men are weak too. Aren't we using alot of technology these days?

Women need to stay at home and raise babies. Shouldn't men do that too? My dad raised me alone and it was fine.

Abortion is murder and so is birth control. So is war and killing civilians at random and dumping shovels on them and calling tehm terrorists, but that is ok I guess. So if men kill, it is ok, if women do it, it scares them.

If I am not allowed to control my body, then why should men be allowed to control there bodies? Why give them orgasms and not me? Why can't we decide that spilling seed is murder and force them not to do it?

Why didn't we put more women in power in Iraq? Why wasn't it equal so that women would be safe? It just seems to me that none of the candidates value the poor or women very much at all. They really seem to not value my civil rights or my pocketbook.
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03:58 PM on 09/21/2008
Let's say - for rhetorical purposes - racism became popular again (that is outside of the Rush Libaugh show). Now that the term racism is good, some liberals say lets take the term racist and say we are - even though we don't really prescribe to the overall idea that whites are generally superior to other minorities, but hey, the lable is popular now, so lets use it.

This is as rediculous as saying that there is a conservative feminism. Femist fought for equality and yes, the ability to have control of one's own body. Because without that right, we can never be truly equal. It wasn't simply about being able to work and procreate at the same time.

You can stand up for women in certain areas. You can even disagree on the issue of abortion. But you can not say you are a feminist if you stand for a party that fights against equal pay, turns its back on rape and incest victom's (and makes them pay for thier kits), or debates the rights of women to be able to use hormonal contraceptives, classifying them as abortion.

Women are not a homogeneous group - but femist are. You can't call yourself an environmentalist if you don't even recylcle. So stop stealing the name that or mothers and grandmothers fought for!
11:04 AM on 09/22/2008
anniegirl, feminism means whatever feminists say it means. If you study its history you will find that mainstream feminism once supported segregation and eugenics. In fact Palin would have blended in well with a feminist meeting circa 1940. I doubt that Palin actually sees herself as a feminist, but that is largely because mainstream feminism has redefined itself. The irony of so many freedom struggles is that the beneficiaries can sometimes be pretty awful, a la Clarence Thomas. In the bigger scheme of things however, Clarence Thomas and Sarah Palin are game changers, inspite of themselves.
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02:28 PM on 09/21/2008
Palin attempts to paint the picture of the female who can do everything and be the best of everything while attempting to do all she can to destroy what women have fought for. Roe vs Wade is portrayed as the "evil" and "againest God" choice that man made. But I fear too many have forgotten the way life was prior to the choice to get proper medical attention and treatment for women. The old ads of the wire coat hanger and the instruments that were never made to go inside a human body as well as the dirty flithy "clinics' with anyone wiling to do the deed have been lost to time and the changes in society. The right to choice is a personal one and it should not be guided by you for me nor I for you but it is a choice to not die or be rendered infertile or damaged internally for life by back alley practioners willing to do "it" for a price. Many people with genetic testing and counsling are put now in a place where the personal decision is more important. That God has given man all of these wonderful advancements should also be looked at. If God has given these things to humankind then how can we decide it's evil? Does he/she support a choice for us? Read the bible about being given free will to make our own ways in life.
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01:53 PM on 09/21/2008
Palin is not a feminist, despite having a career in government and being a mother. From everything that I have read or heard about her so far, she is anti-feminist, and simply reminds me of the type of women that I call "pseudo-male,"' who seem to think that they have to adopt the same attitudes and practices as their male counterparts - only do it louder and more aggressively. I don't get a sense of wholeness or integration with her. Does she really support women? She seems to hate women, IMO.
02:57 PM on 09/20/2008
Well said. If we just keep saying it over and over again as often as she says "thanks, but no thanks..." perhaps it will penetrate the thick head of the American electorate.
11:08 AM on 09/20/2008
"Phyllis Schlafly rallied opposition to the Equal Rights Amendment and insisted that women with children should stay home, that women were meant to be mothers first and should be judged on that criteria."

...... unless they're welfare mothers. Then they should go out and get a job.
09:28 AM on 09/20/2008
Feminism is not about liberal ideals or conservative ideal, it's about women's equality. Truly independent women are free to have whatever political views that suit them. They can't be pigeonholed. That would constitute discrimination in its own right.
11:36 PM on 09/20/2008
Feminism started out being entirely about equality for women. But it has since developed a long way from only being about equality. There are various schools of feminism, and many of these are linked to specific political ideologies--for eg, liberal feminism, Marxist and socialist feminisms, radical democratic feminism, eco-feminism. Unfortunately, patriarchal society does not allow information about feminism to come out into the public eye. Hence, very little is known about feminism as a philosophy, and how it has developed intellectually beyond people's wildest dreams since the early days of the struggle for equality. it is however lagging behind in practice.

But one political ideal that feminists can't embrace is conservatism--it is absolutely against the core of all feminist philosophies. As long as conservatism is about upholding traditional views of the authority of the father/husband and patriarchal authority in the wider cultural sphere, supports the belief that women are primarily mothers, wives and daughters (where the woman is expected to scurry back from the office to fulfil these roles), where religion restricts abortion rights, then you are not a feminist. And any party that does not stand for equal pay for equal work has no space for feminists.

Like any intellectual system, feminism has its own boundaries. If you want to jump on board, then you have to shed some beliefs. Of course, feminists will come to your rescue if you are ever in trouble, but you can't become a card-carrying member.
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07:19 AM on 09/20/2008
I was raised by a single mother. She was an amazing parent and provider. She sent us to elite private schools and rallied us to succeed at every endeavor.

My mother is an amazing woman but my mother is a staunch republican and a walking contradiction.

My sister and I would jokingly call her "Thatcher" which I think she thought was a compliment. The women like Palin, Thatcher, Schlafly, and, I dare say, my mother see their professional and familial successes circumstantial. If they were not forced or compelled by a calling, they are convinced that they wouldn't have done it.

Of course this is delusional. These women are unable to deal with their ability, ambition and self worth. My republican mother boarded a ship to America at age nineteen to escape an arranged marriage, taught herself English, and became an accountant.

These women are stuck in a paradox; guilt for leaving their traditional role but also emboldened by feeling that they are fighting the good fight; "the likes of themselves" back into the dark ages.

Has anyone watched a more desperately confused woman than Ann Coulter? "I want to look like a Barbie, strip myself of rights, act like a drunken sailor (the vicious kind), and get ahead when no one's looking." She'll tear down anyone, even 9/11 widows to prove to everyone that she is a serious crusader, and real crusaders, should have no restraint, (Uh, Oh another success, whoops!).
11:48 AM on 09/20/2008
God bless your mother; she sounds like she was an amazing person. In this me-first generation too many parents want it all now and don't prepare their children to succeed as obviously yours did for you. Sounds like to her that was her biggest calling.
01:42 AM on 09/20/2008
None of this discussion is about women because feminism isn't about women; it's about left wing politics. I told my 21 year-old daughter that I felt like I was getting to vote for her in the election because Palin possesses many of the same qualities and outlook on life that my daughter has. My daughter doesn't hate men, she knows she can compete in the workplace against men and women but sees no difference in advantage; abortion and other victim-oriented issues make her eyes glaze over. The best part is all her college friends have switched from Obama to Palin because they have finally found someone in politics whom they understand.
11:41 AM on 09/20/2008
Since when is being able to understand and relate to someone criteria for holding the second highest office in the land? I want my leaders to be the most ethical, the most moral and the most intelligent this country has the offer. Whatever happened to the looking for the best and the brightest?

Plenty of friends for me to have a beer with. I'm looking for leaders that understand and are able to react to the complexities of this world much better than I ever could.
02:46 PM on 09/20/2008
You make good points, but don't confuse being unpolished with being unprepared. Palin has shown a lot of mettle. Of the four candidates she is the only one who did not run for president. To judge her on her knowledge rather than her performance as mayor and governor compares apples to oranges. Politically the Obama campaign had to try to take her out because she had such a positive effect on McCain's poll numbers. Palin projects an attitude of optimism and genuineness that, despite her lack of polish, connects with a lot of people. Palin, like Ronald Reagan, may have the ability to go over the head of the media.
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12:57 PM on 09/20/2008
How lucky for your daughter that she can achieve what she can because of feminists like me who paved the way for her. If not for us, she could look forward to being slotted into the wife/motherhood role, or if she wanted/needed to work, the secretary, teacher (not administrator unless elementary school) or nurse. I remember when the help wanted ads were segregated by sex, Help Wanted - Male or Help Wanted - Female. Guess in which category were all the high paying jobs?

And stop categorizing all feminists in the man-hating category. That's usually reserved for us lesbians.

And yes, I'm a single mother, raised my child without child support because reciprical child support laws weren't in existence then.

Also, she's lucky she has the luxury of reproductive freedom, the right to choose her destiny, something the anti-feminists, fundamentalists seek to deny every woman in the US of A.

Why don't you list all the "other victim-oriented issues" that make her eyes glaze over so we know about which you are talking.

Congratulations! You've succeeded in raising an unfeeling, ungrateful little snot.
02:36 PM on 09/20/2008
How do you know my daughter isn't a lesbian? (She isn't, but one of her roommates is). My daughter was raised to treat people as individuals, not based upon group membership. Sadly, you're correct. One of the surest ways to be poor is to be a single parent. Title IX ushered in the era of gender equity. Most young women don't understand the battles you fought 40 years ago. Hopefully, your child is successful; if so, congratulations on all you overcame.
10:24 PM on 09/19/2008
And let’s face it—is it truly possible for anyone to raise five children, one of whom is a child with Downs Syndrome, and make it all the way to the top in that man-eat-man world of politics? Of course not. I’ll wager she has PLENTY of help (from husband, mum, in-laws, siblings) in raising her family. I’ll wager that she plays an extremely marginal, a token role, in family matters.

But of course REAL feminists know that feminism is about giving women choices in the roles they want to play. For a real feminist, being a bad mother/wife does not subtract from her professional success—just as being a bad husband did not impact on people’s perception of Bill Clinton’s ability to be a good president. For a real feminist, a woman doesn’t have to be a (good) wife and (good) mother if she doesn’t want to.

There is an extreme urgency in women taking back the meaning of feminism. A couple of days ago, a Fox News anchor said the trouble with Democratic Party women is that they insist only on their brand of liberal feminism, and can’t see that conservative women can have their own type of feminism. There is no such thing as a conservative feminism—that is a contradiction in terms. Conservatives are anti-choice in abortion, and feminism is about giving choices to women. Conservatives prop up patriarchal culture, and feminism is about dismantling that.
10:55 PM on 09/19/2008
You are 100% wrong! we can disagree on certain issues, and still be 'for' women'. no single brand of feminism should ever be labeled on women. Let us all be happy and fulfilled in our own way. Geez. Get off it!!
11:55 PM on 09/19/2008
Did you miss the part about feminism being precisely about giving women choices?

Conservative 'feminism' insists that women are primarily mothers and wives. That is anti-choice. Choice is an essential, core feature of feminism. There are many schools of feminism: liberal, radical, Marxist, queer and cyber feminisms. But they are ALL on the side of choice. That's why I'm saying conservative feminism is a contradiction in terms. Conservative 'feminism' encourages careers for women, BUT NOT at the expense of their 'primary' roles. Rather it identifies feminists as those that can be mother/wife AND career woman (the superwoman). Expose Palin as a neglecting mother and wife, and conservatives wouldn't consider her a 'feminist' any more. That's very different from AUTHENTIC feminist positions, which don't believe that women need to be superwomen any more than men have to be supermen. The 'superwomen' concept is a strategy to make women work harder than men for the same rights and privileges.

Women are absolutely free to choose to be good wives/mothers. But as soon as they tout that as a superior or essential way of being women, they are not feminists.

Conservatives are free to come up with their own brand of 'womanism'. As an intellectual movement, feminism arose in opposition to conservatism. Why can't conservative women invent their own name for their own movement? Why do they insist on stealing the name of an intellectual movement when they can't honour that movement's core beliefs?
10:23 PM on 09/19/2008
At the heart of Palin's success today in violating the meaning of feminism is that she is able to be a successful mother and wife as well as a successful politician. For the conservatives, this is what feminism means. If I were tasked with bringing this woman down as a symbol of feminism, I would attack her claim to be a successful mother and wife. If it is revealed that she neglects her children, that other family members, including the husband, are the ones that have taken over the real burden of childcare and family minding, that she has had or is having an extra-marital affair (and thus is not a ‘good’ wife), the conservative women and men who are so fascinated with her, would abandon her in droves, and return to pissing on feminism and feminists.

And let’s face it—is it truly possible for anyone to raise five children, one of whom is a child with Downs Syndrome, and make it all the way to the top in that man-eat-man world of politics? Of course not. I’ll wager she has PLENTY of help (from husband, mum, in-laws, siblings) in raising her family. I’ll wager that she plays an extremely marginal, a token role, in family matters.
10:22 PM on 09/19/2008
To give an example, this is why Sarah Palin CANNOT be construed as a symbol of feminism: feminism is NOT about being both a successful mother/wife and a successful career woman. According to this Republican view, a feminist is a woman who supports the foundational tenets of patriarchal culture and its values that women's primary role is mothering and being a wife. Palin stands for fundamentalist religious beliefs, the core of patriarchal culture. Palin's power in her community emanates from her upholding patriarchal culture. She is the woman who carries men, and winds up being MISRECOGNIZED as a feminist. As the saying goes, behind every successful man is a strong woman. Well, you can't be a feminist by stepping out in front of a patriarchal man and helping to carry him--which is what she is doing with McCain.
03:09 AM on 09/21/2008
The republicans do this all the time. 'Change' is a man who is one the old boys club. 'Compassion' is stripping the safety net and then throwing people out to live on street.. 'Morality' is being mean spirited, mean mouthed, dictating to others what is right and lying. 'Fiscal Responsibility" is Don't tax but spend anyway. 'thanks but no thanks' means I will take it anyway but use it for something else. 'Feminism' is strip women of the advances made in the 30 years. 'Religious freedom' is trying to establish thier religious beliefs as thenational religion by law. 'Patriotism' is wrapping oneself in the flag then going off to kill people who did nothing to us (There was no WMD and No Al Quaida) tearing apart thier country in an orgy of jingoistic revenge, running up huge debt and losing many US soldiers. Soldiers who McCain then abandons as soon as the US has used them up. (Go look at the Vet sites) Both my husband and I are Vietnam vets.
03:09 AM on 09/21/2008
Nothing irritates me more than the young women of today who say "I'm not a feminist' like there is something wrong with fighting against domestic abuse, rape, women not being able to feed themselves and their children (my mother submitted for economic reasons and let my stepfather use me ) .Interesting isn't it that spousal abuse, rape, child abuse and incest are highest in Alaska and in the Bible Belt. It was in that belt where a minister told me as 8 yr old to submit to gods representative in our house , it didn't matter to him how I was being used. AS for your daughter I am sure she surrounds herself with women who feel like her. Hopefully she will be lucky but I suspect she will endure in order to letsomoen else take care of her.
It is feminists who made it possible for women to hold a claim over thier own children. It was feminists who won the vote for women. It was feminists who won the right for women to own property, it was feminists who made it dishonorable to beat your wife for any old reason you wanted to.
10:21 PM on 09/19/2008
(This response is in various parts.)
Kathryn, Your article doesn't convey for me the political urgency for women of what is happening here with the McCain-Palin camp--the very concept of feminism is being hijacked, and re-interpreted in right-wing terms. If the Republicans win, the signifier "feminism" is going to mean quite the opposite of what it now stands for, and it will be a long time before feminists can take back that word. This is a war of semiotics but, unfortunately, there appears to be so much ambivalence about feminist theory even among progressive women that nobody is throwing their hat into the ring to challenge the republicans' understanding of that term.

Feminism is not just about equal rights and equal opportunities. It is also about challenging the hegemony of patriarchal culture. It's about women being given the space to live kinder lives, to push for a more compassionate society, to challenge the patriarchal mindset that is brought to governance. You CAN'T be a feminist and a conservative/fundamentalist. Being feminist is about pushing against conservative/fundamentalist boundaries.
09:50 PM on 09/19/2008
"She opposes equipping young women with information about potentially life-saving contraception. She opposes women having the legal option to choose abortion even in the case of rape or incest. She used her line-item veto to strike funds for a social service agency that provided assistance to young unwed mothers. She would use the power of the state to deny legal protections for women and men in same-sex relationships."

Re equipping young women with information about contraception, Palin favors distributing information about condoms. see: http://www.latimes.com/news/politics/la-na-sexed6-2008sep06,0,3119305.story

She opposes gay marriage, but she vetoed a bill that would have denied employee benefits to same -sex partners.
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08:48 AM on 09/20/2008
Both she and her daughter seem to have a lack of understanding of contraception.
09:59 PM on 09/20/2008
If she were not a user of contraception, she'd have had a lot more than five children.
09:22 PM on 09/19/2008
Thank you for a great piece!

Question: New car shows, wrestling matches, ads for most anything, vice squads on a raid, John McCain. What do these all have in common? Answer: They all use a woman to lure the people in. Darn feminists!

But seriously, Sarah Palin set us back by decades when she implied that she can take care of a family and a career, no problem. Truth is, nobody can, man or woman. In order to carry the responsibility for two important careers, parenthood and, say, governor of a state, you need staff. You need it at the office, and you need it at home. You become a parent manager, and you have staff (spouse, oldest siblings, nanny, housekeeper, diaper service, takeout food etc) to do the heavy lifting. Someone still has to get the kids to hockey practice, talk to them about safe sex, and tuck them in at night, even if you are out of town, or sick, or in a long meeting at work you can’t break out of. This is the same for men and for women. How many men can you name that hold a demanding position in government and also take care of their home and children single handedly? Without a spouse and/or domestic staff and fee-based services? In high heels? Now, how about just regular men, middle class men? Let's share the load equally, it'll be good for all of us.
09:52 PM on 09/19/2008
That's why women who hold down time-consuming jobs hire nannies, use day care, or have husbands who do much of the parenting. Joe Biden didn't quit his public service when his wife was killed. Somehow, he managed to bring up his kids properly on his own.
12:30 AM on 09/20/2008
Exactly right, CompetenceMatters! Now if only the MSM would do an expose on how Palin manages to juggle all her roles, about the army of people she has recruited to execute her family responsibilities, then this myth of Palin-as-superwoman will disintegrate. It is just so entirely dishonest of her to claim that she is a hockey mum running for VP. And watch how she uses her son with Downs Syndrome to prop up her image of supermum. Or how she exposed her pregnant teenage daughter to the full glare of the public eye during a time of her social vulnerability. I reckon any other 'hockey mum' would have blinked at least once if approached to be VP at such a time in her daughter's life.