I once read that if you can create a little bit of something positive that brings you joy and success, then you can create more of it -- you can learn to scale it and build on it. I believe in the power of this idea, and have used it as a guiding principle to great success in my business and my personal life.
So let's apply this to develop a new kind of New Year's resolution -- one that won't just die on the vine and leave you feeling demoralized and depressed, but will:
• Stick with you -- encourage you to continue to commit to it.
• Bring you happiness and fulfillment -- won't be some idle fancy or fad, but will bring you true joy and fulfillment.
• Pave the way for more growth -- since you've already created a little of it, and know how great that feels, attracting and building more of it will help you continue to grow and stretch.
• Build confidence and self-esteem -- bringing more of this into your life will help you flourish, and remind you that you are indeed accountable, responsible, and capable of being the master of your own ship.
Think about what you've already created in your life today, but want more of. Let's start with these key categories:
Love and Kindness
Look around you. Are your relationships supportive, loving, gentle, kind? Do you have at least one friend and loved one who believes in you without reservation, who sees the future vision of you before it's hatched, and would do anything for you? Then you can build more relationships that will offer this type of unconditional support. Think about the glue that holds this mutually-loving and respectful relationship together? You are this part of the glue; you've helped make it possible. Where can you apply that "glue" to form new bonds that will help you be more of what you wish to in the world, and help others do the same?
New Year's Resolution: I will build at least one more relationship in my life that is mutually loving, caring, supportive and nourishing.
I've seen first-hand in my own coaching and consulting business that if you have built one product that serves your clients well, and brings great success and fulfillment to them, you can build more. Examine what you offer in your work and/or your business. What skills, talents and passions are you drawing on that generate great outcomes for your employer or for your own clients and customers? How can you leverage these skills to bring more success to those around you? What new product or program can you develop that will help others in a deeper way than you are today?
New Year's Resolution: I will use my skills in a brand new way this year that will bring more success, wealth and well-being to those around me, and thus, to me.
A sense of meaning and purpose
Do you feel that you were meant for something bigger than what you are experiencing today? If you've ever felt that, than I can you tell -- you ARE meant for something bigger. I know because I had that feeling for years, and finally, it led me to a complete, successful reinvention. And the hundreds of clients I work with each year have felt the same urging and have finally mustered the courage to act on it. People who dream of doing something big, something important, making a difference, leaving a legacy, have the seed of greatness inside of them and are longing to do something about it. Make 2014 the year you do.
New Year's Resolution: I will honor the longing I have to play bigger, to go for something important in my life that will bring me a sense of meaning and purpose. I will define concretely how I want to play bigger, and walk towards that in 2014.
Belief in what's possible for you
Some people like to create a theme for their new year -- using one word to describe what they want more of. A theme is a great way to focus on something important, and to help bring it into being. Here is a list of some powerful themes or concepts you could choose from, or build your own:
Choose a word or theme that represents what you want more of. Print it out, and post it on your computer, your closet, your mirror -- wherever the reminder will be most effective and potent for you. Then, make a pact with yourself that you will act, perceive and think in ways that are in close alignment with this positive experience you want to bring forth.
My theme for 2014 -- "expansion." I'm committing here and now to overcoming my "upper limit" problems and to stretching into new territory that, in the past, would have frightened me. I've finally let go of the fear of the "evil eye" (a Greek superstition I learned in childhood that something evil will befall you if you are too successful, happy, attractive, etc.) I'm done with that darn evil eye -- I'm focusing now only loving, positive and supportive eyes from now on.
What new kind of resolution can you make that will guarantee to bring you more joy, peace and fulfillment in 2014? Make that resolution today.