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Kaylee Scottaline
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Kaylee Scottaline ("Murphy") is a 30-something freelance writer who has been published in Cosmopolitan, The Sun Sentinel and Riverhead News Review. She is currently living in New York with her cat where she writes "The Law According to Murphy," a blog about the good, the bad and the ugly in the world of dating in your 30s. You can contact Murphy at

Entries by Kaylee Scottaline

Lessons for my Daughter on Life and Love

(0) Comments | Posted October 21, 2014 | 1:51 PM

Today marks the one year anniversary of the day my daughter's father told me it was over. I have grown so much in the past year, not in spite of this loss but because of it.  I have grown as a woman, as a friend and perhaps, most importantly, as...

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9 Things I Didn't Know I'd Love About Being a Parent

(4) Comments | Posted January 31, 2014 | 11:10 AM

Despite having a well-stocked library of What to Expect and other "guide books" to being a mommy, there was admittedly a lot I didn't know before becoming a mommy. I addressed a great deal of those lessons here.

But, as I watched my daughter tonight, learning how...

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Postpartum Depression: My Shameful Secret

(5) Comments | Posted August 30, 2013 | 12:53 PM

I had a secret. One I kept from everyone; from my boyfriend, our families and closest friends, my doctors and myself. Following the birth of my daughter, I suffered from Postpartum Depression, something I didn't realize, however, until the darkness had passed. When you're stuck in the middle of the...

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Letter to the Clothing Store Cashier

(44) Comments | Posted June 11, 2013 | 8:35 AM

Dear Cashier,

I know it's annoying that I'm returning so many items, some of which are the exact same thing, just in different sizes. Yes, I do know that there's a fitting room in your store, thank you for pointing that out to me. The thing is, I recently...

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Parenting: What No One Tells You

(5) Comments | Posted May 7, 2013 | 1:50 PM

When you're pregnant, it seems there are universal "warnings" every experienced parent feels the need to share: "sleep now because you'll never sleep again" is probably the biggest one I heard from people. But what about the things no one warns you about? At least no one warned me anyway!...

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Pregnant Pauses

(0) Comments | Posted February 20, 2013 | 9:41 AM

When I think about fear, I think about a feeling of being out of control; helpless. As a typical "Type A" personality, any situation I don't have some amount of control over elicits a shortness of breath and a feeling of being trapped. In walks the unplanned pregnancy.

At approximately...

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Everyday Heroes

(0) Comments | Posted November 17, 2012 | 10:10 AM

In the wake of Hurricane Sandy, here on Long Island, we all recognize the heroes who came to our aid. The firemen who worked for days on end, carrying homebound people down numerous flights of stairs; the police officers who kept us safe at darkened intersections, patrolled our gas lines...

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Fight The Fearmongers!

(5) Comments | Posted July 19, 2012 | 8:49 AM

"People, even more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived." -- Audrey Hepburn

One of my favorite quotes by one of my favorite actresses of all time. We often seek to restore our physical selves: We start a new exercise program, reevaluate our diets, and cut back on bad...

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Braveness in the Face of Bullying

(0) Comments | Posted June 28, 2012 | 1:46 PM

In light of Karen Klein, the bus monitor from Greece, N.Y. whose victimization at the hand of child bullies has taken the news and social media by storm, I have been thinking a lot about bullies lately. I imagine many of us have been. As we grow up and become...

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De-Stress By (Temporarily) Disconnecting!

(21) Comments | Posted June 24, 2012 | 12:00 PM

I made a resolution this year to de-stress by disconnecting. Let's face it, with the advances in technology that are supposed to make our lives easier -- cell phones, smart phones, iPads, email, social networking -- our lives have also become a lot more hectic. Gone are the days where...

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Be The Change You Wish To See

(1) Comments | Posted June 20, 2012 | 8:38 AM

Everything you need to know about being fearless you can learn from watching children. They play with each other without ever knowing each other's names. They run, jump, climb, fall down and get right back up again. They hug each other. They speak their minds, however politically incorrect or comical...

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Heroes And Cowards Have One Thing In Common: Fear

(9) Comments | Posted June 15, 2012 | 8:34 AM

Let's be honest: With the homeless man in Miami having his face eaten off by a naked guy and the Maryland college student eating his roommate's brain and heart, even those of us with high intellect are starting to wonder if there is such a thing as a zombie apocalypse...

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Letting Your Fearless Flag Fly

(1) Comments | Posted May 31, 2012 | 7:23 AM

Augusten Burroughs. David Sedaris. Koren Zailckas. Mira Bartok. Gretchen Berg. Bethenny Frankel. Elizabeth Kuster. These are authors I admire because I consider them to be "fearless." (The latter is actually responsible for my beginnings as a...

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The View from My 31st Birthday

(10) Comments | Posted May 21, 2012 | 9:11 AM

I have not always aged with grace. When I turned 29, I became temporarily insane at the thought of being almost 30. I could remember when 30 seemed ancient to me and there I was, standing on the edge of kissing my 20-somethings goodbye. It felt like I was standing...

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Life After Death (Almost): An Inspiring Story of Recovery

(0) Comments | Posted May 11, 2012 | 6:07 PM

Last year, Rachael Popejoy, now 28, bought her first house and a new car. While these might not seem like extraordinary accomplishments, it was only five years ago that doctors told Rachael's family she wouldn't survive the weekend.

Rachael was driving home from the zoo with the boys she nannied...

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Dating Without Fear

(44) Comments | Posted May 5, 2012 | 8:00 PM

Four years ago, the guy I was seeing -- JJ, my best friend in the world -- committed suicide. Rather than deal with the loss, I did what I do best, and I immediately jumped into a new relationship. That relationship ended in disaster when I caught him cheating on...

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