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Ken Page
Ken Page, LCSW is a psychotherapist and the author of the upcoming book Deeper Dating. He is also the author of the popular Psychology Today blog Finding Love.

Entries by Ken Page

The Quickest, Smartest Way to Bring More Love into Your Life

(1) Comments | Posted February 24, 2015 | 3:26 PM


All of us, single or coupled, would do well to remember that love is about far more than romance. Now that more than half of the adults in our country are single, it is more important than ever that we learn to treasure...

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The Wave: The Single Greatest Threat to New Relationships

(0) Comments | Posted December 18, 2014 | 7:40 AM


The most common way we sabotage new love possibilities is through what I call the Wave of Distancing (or simply, the Wave). The Wave occurs when we unconsciously push a caring and available person away by inwardly diminishing his or her worth. As...

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How a Dating Buddy Can Transform Your Search for Love

(0) Comments | Posted December 15, 2014 | 8:45 AM


What brings wisdom and pleasure, is free, and can change your entire romantic future? A dating buddy. A dating buddy is a friend and co-coach in one of the most defining tasks of your life: your search for a mate. If you follow...

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A Simple Question That Will Change Your Search for Love

(0) Comments | Posted December 5, 2014 | 5:18 PM


Most dating advice focuses on the skills of seeking, not the skills of loving. Apps, events and websites offer endless opportunities for meeting, but as I describe in Deeper Dating: How to Drop The Games of Seduction and Discover the Power...

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What No One Teaches Us About Love

(1) Comments | Posted October 26, 2014 | 9:43 PM


Fear of intimacy isn't a character flaw rendering us unfit for intimacy; it is part of being human. If we're breathing, we have fear of intimacy. The real question is: How do we keep love at arm's length, and what can we do...

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How Your Deepest Insecurities Reveal Your Greatest Gifts

(26) Comments | Posted May 19, 2013 | 11:17 AM

In my decades of practice as a psychotherapist, this is the insight that has inspired me most:

Our deepest wounds surround our greatest gifts.

I've found that the very qualities we're most ashamed of, the ones we keep trying to reshape or hide, are in fact the key to finding...

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Wabi Sabi Wisdom

(0) Comments | Posted January 10, 2013 | 8:32 AM

It's a hard truth, and no one escapes it: Our loved ones -- simply because they're in separate skins -- at times can't help but let us down.

My partner is a business guy. He cares deeply about my feelings, but his own feelings just don't fascinate him. I, on...

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