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Ken is a Dating Expert for Huff/Post 50, AARP, About.com, and Maria Shriver. He has been writing about boomer sex, dating, and relationships for a decade.

Ken's new book The Boomer Guide To Finding True Love Online is now available.

Ken's website contains articles and tips about boomer dating as well as information about men's counseling. www.kensolin.com

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Entries by Ken Solin

How Older Men Can Maintain Their Sexual Health

(0) Comments | Posted April 16, 2015 | 6:59 AM

Sexual Struggles
My bullshit meter gets stuck in the red when I hear that 70's the new 60, but boomers aren't aging as quickly as their parents did. Their generation wasn't nearly as aware of their sexuality as boomers. The Kinsey Report for men wasn't published until 1948, and...

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Online Dating Advice For Middle-Aged Singles From A Man With Experience

(42) Comments | Posted April 10, 2015 | 6:15 AM

Rejection
Boomer dating requires a fair amount of courage, and it also takes grit, determination, and stamina. Online dating is a high-wire act. The potential for getting rejected exists no matter how cool or good-looking you are, and there's no net to catch you when you fall. You send...

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How To Spring Clean Your Online Dating Profile

(0) Comments | Posted April 3, 2015 | 6:55 AM

Not Just Your Attic
Like your home, your online dating profile could more than likely use a spring cleaning, especially if it has remained the same all winter. The term shopworn also applies to online dating profiles, because they begin to look tattered and picked over if they haven't...

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4 Ways To Deal When Your Partner Criticizes Your Driving

(1) Comments | Posted March 27, 2015 | 7:51 AM

Unsolicited Driving Lessons
I recently completed a survey about boomer couples and driving. It was small enough to be classified as anecdotal since it was based mostly on boomer friends and relatives, but after years of listening to boomer couples' arguments about this issue, it's apparently a widespread problem....

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Should Boomers Marry Or Live Together?

(13) Comments | Posted March 16, 2015 | 6:18 AM

8 Million Strong
Along with 8 million other boomers I dated online before I met my partner two years ago. We've both been married and divorced and our focus has been on co-creating a workable, long-term relationship. While we'll always be working toward that goal, we've reached the same...

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Is Great Sex Finished For Aging Boomer Men?

(80) Comments | Posted February 25, 2015 | 5:44 AM

Changing Sexuality
Is sex the same nearing 70 as it was at 50? No, but that's not necessarily bad news. The lessons I've gleaned over the past few decades have actually made sex a better experience. My body took care of my sexual needs without any help from my...

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How Can Boomer Women Survive Without Men?

(24) Comments | Posted January 29, 2015 | 5:18 AM

A Librarian's Surrender
I gave a talk on my new book last night at a public library. I had a conversation about dating with the head librarian prior to my appearance. She's a single, attractive, bright, upbeat boomer woman, and I was surprised and disheartened to hear she'd given...

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The Single Most Critical Ingredient For A Lasting Relationship

(7) Comments | Posted January 22, 2015 | 5:16 AM

A Fair Question
Boomers enjoy the highest divorce rate of any demographic, which begs the question of whether or not they'll ever find lasting love. Does this ranking simply reflect aging couples growing apart, or does it point to a flaw in boomer character? No matter, because in either...

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Boomer Lovers Traveling Together

(2) Comments | Posted January 7, 2015 | 4:54 AM

Underneath It All
You can learn quite a bit about someone while you're dating. Foods they like, favorite activities, sexuality, intellect, family ties, openness, integrity, and a myriad of other qualities are discoverable. But there's a particularly telling aspect of a relationship that's not obvious and it's a reliable...

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The Rudest Thing You Can Do On A First Date

(85) Comments | Posted December 9, 2014 | 5:24 AM

Tale Of Two Cities
Two women friends from neighboring communities shared the same weird dating story with me last week. Both were about coffee dates that quickly dropped into the disaster category. One woman arrived after her date was already seated at a table drinking a glass of mineral...

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Rocket Rides Are For Astronauts, Not Boomer Daters

(0) Comments | Posted November 23, 2014 | 7:38 AM

How Many Rockets Have You Ridden?
Every boomer who has dated for a while knows how difficult it is to meet someone special, a keeper. Most single boomers have ridden a fair number of rockets, and each time they've blasted off willingly and hopefully, albeit naively. But the nerve-jangling...

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Boomer Men, Sex, And Manhood Myths

(3) Comments | Posted October 27, 2014 | 7:48 AM

Hot Cars
The first question we asked new car owners when we were teenage boys was, "What's under the hood?" The more horsepower, the more respect. But the world has changed, and the question we ask new car owners today reflects the difference. "What's the mileage?"

Involuntary Salutes

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Am I Going To Date Forever?

(0) Comments | Posted September 22, 2014 | 2:17 AM

Am I Going To Date Forever?
This is a question that date-fatigued boomer women frequently ask, sometimes right before deciding to quit dating. Although taking a break is a quick fix for date fatigue, the magnitude of boomer dating burnout warrants a discussion deeper than weariness. Here's what I've...

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As vantagens e desvantagens do sexo casual depois dos 50

(0) Comments | Posted August 11, 2014 | 5:03 PM

Sexo casual ou sem sexo?
Conheço algumas mulheres acima dos 50, da geração dos "baby boomers", que desistiram do sexo. A razão principal é que elas não estão em nenhum relacionamento e não estão interessadas em sexo casual. Apesar de a maioria dessas mulheres ter o desejo de voltar...

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Casual Sex After 50?

(0) Comments | Posted August 4, 2014 | 6:41 AM

Casual Sex or No Sex?
I know a few boomer women who have given up sex. Their primary reason is that they're not in relationships and they're not interested in casual sex. While most of these women would like to become sexual again, they prefer to wait for the...

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Looking For The Perfect Partner Speaks Volumes About Your Imperfections

(30) Comments | Posted July 16, 2014 | 7:21 AM

Too Much Kool-Aid
Robin Korth's article, "My 'Naked' Truth," touched me and countless other readers who felt her pain when her date said perfect bodies had spoiled him, after rejecting hers. I doubt her experience is an isolated one. It brings up an issue unlikely to be...

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Lunch With Mars/Venus' John Gray

(0) Comments | Posted June 13, 2014 | 6:03 AM

I recently met with John Gray, best selling author of "Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus," over lunch. His continued passion for his work is palpable. We covered quite a few topics related to sex, dating, and relationships over two hours. But his work regarding ADHD and boomer...

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Is Aunt Bee Having Sex? You Bet She Is!

(16) Comments | Posted May 24, 2014 | 6:55 AM

Hysteria
I read the article in Huff/Post 50 today, Why Baby Boomers Aren't Getting Laid Anymore, by Dr. Robert Lusson. http://huff.to/1pjkkrp. I felt compelled to comment after reading his opening statement. "I guess it's called 'hooking up' now. Whatever. The fact is -- irrespective of what you call it...

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I Panicked When She Said 'You're My Guy'

(11) Comments | Posted April 16, 2014 | 1:04 PM

Stubborn Old Demons
Sarah and I are nearly halfway through our second year. It's been a unique relationship for me because I've allowed myself to be openhearted and vulnerable. What's also special is that we've become best friends as well as lovers, and while this isn't necessarily rare in...

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What I've Learned About Living Life To The Fullest As I Approach 70

(0) Comments | Posted March 19, 2014 | 6:00 AM

Brio
A recent birthday brought me to within shouting distance of 70. My thoughts associated with this unexpected but appreciated event are focused on the great energy and confidence I'm feeling about my life. I'm fine tuning it and making adjustments along the way to ensure the joy continues....

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