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Ken is a Dating Expert for Huff/Post 50, AARP, About.com, and Maria Shriver. He has been writing about boomer sex, dating, and relationships for a decade.

Ken's new book The Boomer Guide To Finding True Love Online is now available.

Ken's website contains articles and tips about boomer dating as well as information about men's counseling. www.kensolin.com

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Entries by Ken Solin

The Single Most Critical Ingredient For A Lasting Relationship

(7) Comments | Posted January 22, 2015 | 6:16 AM

A Fair Question
Boomers enjoy the highest divorce rate of any demographic, which begs the question of whether or not they'll ever find lasting love. Does this ranking simply reflect aging couples growing apart, or does it point to a flaw in boomer character? No matter, because in either...

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Boomer Lovers Traveling Together

(2) Comments | Posted January 7, 2015 | 5:54 AM

Underneath It All
You can learn quite a bit about someone while you're dating. Foods they like, favorite activities, sexuality, intellect, family ties, openness, integrity, and a myriad of other qualities are discoverable. But there's a particularly telling aspect of a relationship that's not obvious and it's a reliable...

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The Rudest Thing You Can Do On A First Date

(85) Comments | Posted December 9, 2014 | 6:24 AM

Tale Of Two Cities
Two women friends from neighboring communities shared the same weird dating story with me last week. Both were about coffee dates that quickly dropped into the disaster category. One woman arrived after her date was already seated at a table drinking a glass of mineral...

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Rocket Rides Are For Astronauts, Not Boomer Daters

(0) Comments | Posted November 23, 2014 | 8:38 AM

How Many Rockets Have You Ridden?
Every boomer who has dated for a while knows how difficult it is to meet someone special, a keeper. Most single boomers have ridden a fair number of rockets, and each time they've blasted off willingly and hopefully, albeit naively. But the nerve-jangling...

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Boomer Men, Sex, And Manhood Myths

(3) Comments | Posted October 27, 2014 | 8:48 AM

Hot Cars
The first question we asked new car owners when we were teenage boys was, "What's under the hood?" The more horsepower, the more respect. But the world has changed, and the question we ask new car owners today reflects the difference. "What's the mileage?"

Involuntary Salutes

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Am I Going To Date Forever?

(0) Comments | Posted September 22, 2014 | 3:17 AM

Am I Going To Date Forever?
This is a question that date-fatigued boomer women frequently ask, sometimes right before deciding to quit dating. Although taking a break is a quick fix for date fatigue, the magnitude of boomer dating burnout warrants a discussion deeper than weariness. Here's what I've...

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As vantagens e desvantagens do sexo casual depois dos 50

(0) Comments | Posted August 11, 2014 | 6:03 PM

Sexo casual ou sem sexo?
Conheço algumas mulheres acima dos 50, da geração dos "baby boomers", que desistiram do sexo. A razão principal é que elas não estão em nenhum relacionamento e não estão interessadas em sexo casual. Apesar de a maioria dessas mulheres ter o desejo de voltar...

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Casual Sex After 50?

(1) Comments | Posted August 4, 2014 | 7:41 AM

Casual Sex or No Sex?
I know a few boomer women who have given up sex. Their primary reason is that they're not in relationships and they're not interested in casual sex. While most of these women would like to become sexual again, they prefer to wait for the...

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Looking For The Perfect Partner Speaks Volumes About Your Imperfections

(30) Comments | Posted July 16, 2014 | 8:21 AM

Too Much Kool-Aid
Robin Korth's article, "My 'Naked' Truth," touched me and countless other readers who felt her pain when her date said perfect bodies had spoiled him, after rejecting hers. I doubt her experience is an isolated one. It brings up an issue unlikely to be...

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Lunch With Mars/Venus' John Gray

(0) Comments | Posted June 13, 2014 | 7:03 AM

I recently met with John Gray, best selling author of "Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus," over lunch. His continued passion for his work is palpable. We covered quite a few topics related to sex, dating, and relationships over two hours. But his work regarding ADHD and boomer...

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Is Aunt Bee Having Sex? You Bet She Is!

(16) Comments | Posted May 24, 2014 | 7:55 AM

Hysteria
I read the article in Huff/Post 50 today, Why Baby Boomers Aren't Getting Laid Anymore, by Dr. Robert Lusson. http://huff.to/1pjkkrp. I felt compelled to comment after reading his opening statement. "I guess it's called 'hooking up' now. Whatever. The fact is -- irrespective of what you call it...

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I Panicked When She Said 'You're My Guy'

(11) Comments | Posted April 16, 2014 | 2:04 PM

Stubborn Old Demons
Sarah and I are nearly halfway through our second year. It's been a unique relationship for me because I've allowed myself to be openhearted and vulnerable. What's also special is that we've become best friends as well as lovers, and while this isn't necessarily rare in...

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What I've Learned About Living Life To The Fullest As I Approach 70

(0) Comments | Posted March 19, 2014 | 7:00 AM

Brio
A recent birthday brought me to within shouting distance of 70. My thoughts associated with this unexpected but appreciated event are focused on the great energy and confidence I'm feeling about my life. I'm fine tuning it and making adjustments along the way to ensure the joy continues....

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5 Easy Ways To Scare Off The Person You're Dating

(2) Comments | Posted February 21, 2014 | 5:22 AM

My clients have shared a fair number of first date stories with me. While some are amusing, others reflect a surprising lack of social skills. Maybe it's time to rethink boomer dating, especially if you're a newbie.

Health Woes
A client told me about a fellow she met for...

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Leave Your Libido Home On First Dates

(1) Comments | Posted February 6, 2014 | 6:04 AM

Most boomer guys realize that pressuring a boomer woman for first date sex is inappropriate, but the number of complaints from women indicates some guys didn't get the memo.

Sexually fueled rocket rides crash and burn, so boomer women reject that mode of relationship transportation. A boomer woman who's...

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Sex In The Bermuda Triangle

(26) Comments | Posted January 7, 2014 | 6:45 AM

Not The Maritime Or Anatomical
There are three Bermuda Triangles boomer men can get lost in. The first is in the Atlantic Ocean. The second is a crude reference to a part of a woman's anatomy some men insist they routinely get lost in. The third is boomer...

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Boomer Guys and Aging Well

(0) Comments | Posted December 20, 2013 | 1:02 PM

Poor Rupert

I contributed to a recent article in the Sunday New York Times, Styles section. The topic was men and aging, and featured Rupert Murdoch who is single again. (Lock up your daughters.) The Huffington Post had already reported that poor Rupert can't decide about a hair...

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Boomer Women's Dating Faux Pas

(61) Comments | Posted November 25, 2013 | 5:38 AM

My last article encouraged boomer women not to give up dating, and suggested women reconsider if they have. http://goo.gl/9P8MKh. While boomer dating can be emotionally exhausting and disappointing, couples do meet, fall in love, and live happily ever after.

Disclaimer: Since the last article focused on men's dating behavior,...

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Boomer Women Who Give Up Dating

(329) Comments | Posted October 30, 2013 | 7:59 AM

Making A Point
It's virtually impossible to express a strong point of view about dating, sex, and relationships without provoking anyone. When I hear a boomer woman say she's given up dating, my knee jerk reaction is to argue against her decision. Giving up dating conflicts with my lifelong...

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First Date Frogs

(35) Comments | Posted September 10, 2013 | 6:19 AM

A Plague of Frogs
A boomer first date can be an unnerving experience and a double-edged sword. Sure, there's a lot of excitement and some sweet fantasies attached to meeting someone new because there's always the chance they might have partner potential. But the other side of this is...

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