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Stop Racing! Start Living! (It Works!)

Posted: 05/01/2012 9:33 am

How will I get into college? How will my family pay for college? How will I find something to do with my life that really matters to me?

These questions have become increasingly stressful for teens and families in the past decades as the college application process has become more competitive, the cost of college has skyrocketed out of control, and the economy seems to inspire little confidence that decent jobs exist even for the vast majority of those succeed at these first two challenges. The worry depicted in the movie Race to Nowhere personalizes these concerns, showing how they warp the process of schooling from a focus on learning and personal growth into a focus on earning the best grades and test scores. Ironically, one simple solution exists to address all of these worries, albeit highly counterintuitive: stop attending school.

I discovered this odd reality after a highly successful school and college career involving Shaker Heights High School, Amherst College, and Brown University. I enjoyed school, and chose to become a teacher based on my own positive experiences. The experience of teaching, however, is what led me to question the entire process and realize there is a highly functional and accessible alternative. As a teacher, I saw myself contributing more stress than inspiration to my middle-school students, and I began to wonder whether I could create another way to interact with them. My colleague introduced me to the concept of homeschooling, and I was immediately exhilarated! Here was a system to allow teens (and their families) to identify their interests, direct their own learning, use college at their own pace, and mature into talented and appealing young adults. They could bypass the normal college admissions process entirely, and by utilizing community colleges during their high school years, cut their undergraduate college bill in half.

Further, as I investigated homeschooling, I realized that the stereotypes and fears I had as a teacher about homeschoolers were all wrong. These teens are informed, well-socialized, involved in their communities, and all-around mature beyond their years.

When a teen opts out of school, the future becomes both open and uncertain. The years from ages 14 to 22 become unscripted. Instead of assuming the standard track of "high school, gap year, college," we begin talking about nonschool-based classes, tutoring, internships, paid work, travel, and college as appropriate to that child. The pursuit of an interest or passion, and the desire to excel in one area, can direct the process. Using adolescence as a time to explore the world breeds self-awareness, expertise, and confidence in ways that are different from managing, and even excelling in school.

However, talking up the benefits of homeschooling as part of education reform is a fairly dead-on-arrival project in our current culture. Most families are not in a position to choose homeschooling, no matter how much they may accept its advantages. Certainly, most of the teens I was teaching in middle school were not in any position to use this alternative. The reality is that most teens and families need support to consider these ideas effectively. Happily, this non-family support already exists, and could be extended from sources such as community centers, after-school programs, summer youth programs, existing homeschooling co-ops, religious institutions, and even public schools.

When teens experience schooling as more stressful than helpful, we can do better than simply telling them, "Make the best of it until you graduate." We can offer information and support for a different way to grow up. Instead of forcing teens to remain in the "race" to win college admissions, scholarships, and a place for oneself in the world, we might provide teens with a coherent perspective that encourages them to set their own pace toward these same goals. Many families are already doing so. What we need now is a social commitment to make this option widely available.

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How will I get into college? How will my family pay for college? How will I find something to do with my life that really matters to me? These questions have become increasingly stressful for teens ...
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09:44 PM on 05/07/2012
"What we need now is a social commitment to make this option widely available."
That's happening already. Even top universities like MIT, Sanford etc are offering free online courses. It's called open source learning. It's the way of the future! School is old school.
Check it out.
http://radiofreeschool.blogspot.ca/2011/08/learning-learning-everywhere.html
Now think, how can you contribute to this movement?
04:34 AM on 05/07/2012
4th year of school layoffs in CA. Teaching to the tests. This doesn't make for a positive public school system experience. I homeschooled my kids some 30 years ago. One of my children has children and they are currently homeschooled. You couldn't find kids who are more enthusiastic about learning, passionate about a number of subjects, engaged in their communities, well socialized kids than these ... and their friends as well. It was a lonely endeavor when I was doing it, but boy, today, you've got to give it to these homeschool parents. They support one another, make sure their kids get lots of interaction and opportunities to explore their interests. No, it isn't for everyone and no one should feel guilty for not doing it. But my hat's off to these homeschool communities that have sprung up all over the place in response to the test-focus over education focus of the schools these days.
04:33 PM on 05/06/2012
One of the perceived barriers to homeschooling is having parent/s who works a nine-to-five day job. This scenario assumes that the parent must be present for homeschooling to work and that it will be a mirror image of traditional school. Neither one is necessary or even desired.

Learning takes place everywhere! Your child can be learning at a library, or other homeschoolers homes, or one of a million other places taking in field trips with other homeschoolers. Or they could be just reading, exercising, or going to their job during the day and spending evenings and weekends with you learning academic things.

It takes way less time to cover the same material. When we first began to homeschool we closely followed the state curriculum for fear we'd miss something important but quickly found we could cover that in a fraction of the time "school" did. That left free time to study what really mattered like personal finance, art, civics and taking time to travel and take weekly field trips.

A mutual trust began that created a partnership in learning. We trusted our child to do her work when we were not present because she helped select the work in the first place. Learning became fun again.
03:27 PM on 05/06/2012
I would suggest that two of the benefits of homeschooling are as follows: First, it gives parents far more control over their homes, and second, it keeps the child’s education in one place. As the author says, it is not realistic to assume that homeschooling, regardless of its merits, is a societal wide solution to our educational woes. But I would be interested in the author’s thoughts to my idea which is that one of the main problems with education, today, is the co-opting of the home as an extension of the school, through mandated homework (as opposed to homework assignments over which the parent has the final say), and how that causes education to ooze into all aspects of the child’s day rather than letting it stay in its place and time, with freedom to use the home in other ways. www.thehomeworktrap.com.
02:44 PM on 05/08/2012
I do agree that homework has become a major problem in many situations. Students who are tired by the end of a day that begins at 6:30 and may include a sport or other after-school activity, and faces hours more of demands. That doesn't leave much time for hanging out with family, or reading a book for pleasure, or, dare I say it, wasting time for fun. Some students seem to manage homework smoothly, but the stress of school is extending to younger children and to everyone for longer periods of the evening and night. Parents face a difficult dilemma: push your teens to keep on top of it all, or deliberately allow them to neglect their homework.

I will look at your website to read your suggestions.
06:08 PM on 05/08/2012
Thank you for your thoughts. One reason parents face a “dilemma” is that they lack authority to make decisions without leaving their children faced with potentially severe consequences. You can find other recommendation on my website, but one of my main recommendations is to vest parents with the final decision-making authority for matters in their home. The reality is that most parents will support the teachers in just about anything they ask. It’s the lack of power to make the final decisions, unlike the parent has with any other outside demands one’s children might have – sports practice sessions, time spent practicing the piano, preparations for religious events such as confirmation or Bar Mitzvah – this is the only one where, when problems occur, the parent is not in the driver’s seat. www.thehomeworktrap.com.
11:36 AM on 05/02/2012
For those who are looking for some research data on homeschooling outcomes vs. traditional school setting outcomes (test scores, college admissions rates, socialization, etc.), please see this NHERI website with research data from a homeschooling study done a few years back: http://www.nheri.org/research/research-facts-on-homeschooling.html

Whether you are one of the parents wondering if you are "qualified" to homeschool your child or you are one of the many people making unsupported, uncited, stereotypical, gut instinct comments about how you think homeschooling will wreck society, this is a chance to educate yourself about the true value of homeschooling on a personal level and a societal level.
11:09 AM on 05/02/2012
I've known parents who seemed qualified to homeschool their kids. I've known parents who wanted to homeschool their kids. The second group is larger than the first.

I'm sure there are homeschooled kids out there who receive a great education. I'm not sure they're the norm.
03:39 PM on 05/02/2012
I have known a lot of parents who sent their children to school. I am sure there are some who received a good education but I know it is not the norm.
05:28 PM on 05/02/2012
Well, then you know wrong.
06:03 PM on 05/04/2012
Whether or not it's the norm makes little difference. Is it anyone's business but the ones doing it? A common argument by the skeptical non homeschooler, is that it's okay as long as the parents are doing it right. Really? Defined by whom? What is the norm? How does one define that?

I'm a homeschool parent and I certainly don't go around telling other parents how to educate their kids, or tell teachers what they should or should not be teaching in classrooms. I do what I do and if other people don't agree, then there are PLENTY of other choices for you and yours!

(Besides, I think most homeschool parents would all consider their children exceptional!) If more kids grew up feeling exceptional I think we'd have a lot of exceptional people out there! Seriously, that can't be a bad thing!
06:37 AM on 05/10/2012
More kids growing up feeling exceptional would mean we'd have more people who felt like they were exceptional out there. Not necessarily that they would be.

If your kids where wholly your responsibility, I'd be better able to accept the rest of your comment. They're not. We're all interconnected, and the "Hey, well, maybe homeschooling isn't great, but who are YOU to judge?" argument assumes we're not. If you screw up your kid's education, we're all affected by it. That's why we've got public schools in the first place. I want all kids to get the best education they can. In a few cases, that might come from homeschooling. Given the homes that most kids live in, those cases are rare.
03:23 PM on 05/01/2012
Oh, Oh! I make money off this and you can believe it is the bestest thing ever! Wink- wink.
Seriously? An AD?
12:35 PM on 05/02/2012
There are actually lots of people with no financial connection saying the same thing - it becomes a passion once you've seen the difference it can make in individuals' lives. Here's an article in Stanford Magazine:
http://www.stanfordalumni.org/news/magazine/2000/novdec/articles/homeschooling.html
04:40 PM on 05/07/2012
Lol! I WISH I made money homeschooling my 6 kids (2 are now graduated). Not even a tax credit is given. My taxes have continued to help educate your children for the past 17 years though :)