The contending premises in the debate over gay marriage have thus far been "Same sex couples deserve the same rights and recognition as heterosexual couples" versus "Marriage is only between a man and a woman". Essentially, the question has been whether or not to endorse these relationships as valid.

A thought experiment: Two managers conduct a joint interview with an Iranian man for a job at a factory in Omaha. One of the managers was raised by xenophobic, racist parents who practiced skepticism towards those from the Middle East, while the other manager has traveled extensively, was raised by...