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This is How We Do It

Posted: 10/30/11 09:13 AM ET

I'm a wife, mother of a toddler, full-time employee, runner and a CrossFitter. I'm also currently training for my first ultramarathon.

Let me state up front that I do recognize that I am privileged to a certain degree. I have a husband (AKA The Mister) who is supportive of my fitness goals and will assist me with childcare. I live fairly close to where I work so my commute, including dropping baby off at daycare, is short -- for Atlanta anyway. I have my own car and don't have to rely on public transportation. I am able to afford a gym membership. I have a treadmill at home. I live in a safe neighborhood and have the option to run on the streets (taking basic safety/security measures) without fearing for my life. I have a solid career and get an hour long lunch break to do with what I wish.

I know there are people out there who have situations that make finding time to exercise extremely difficult. However, I can only write about my life and how I do it. We all have to figure out what works best for our own situations. I still maintain that the majority of us can find the time to exercise if we have the desire and we are flexible.

This Is How I Do It.

A Typical Day In The Life...

4:50 a.m. - 5:10 a.m.: Wake Up. Get dressed. Toast a 1/2 whole wheat bagel with some cream cheese for a pre-workout meal. Out the door for workout by 5:30-5:40 a.m.. I either hit my CrossFit gym for the 6 a.m. class, meet my running partner for a run, run solo outdoors, or run on my treadmill. I adjust my wake up time so that my workout is complete by 7 a.m. at the latest.

6:45 a.m.-8:30 a.m.: Get home. Shower, co-wash and bun up hair, and dress while The Mister feeds and gets the baby ready for school. Pack my food and snacks for work. Try (and usually fail) to get out the door by 7:40 a.m. Drop baby off at daycare and sneak into work hopefully by 8:30 a.m.

12:00 p.m.: Sometimes I trade off schedules with The Mister so he can sleep in. On these days, I will skip my a.m. workout, "sleep-in" until 6:30 a.m., and get myself and the baby ready. Then at lunch I will go for a workout. I try to limit my workouts to half-an-hour on these days. That usually means all I can do is a quick climb up and down Kennesaw Mountain or a three mile run on the treadmill at the gym. I've also done a quick run on residential streets near my job. Once I get back to the office, I take a baby wipe bath. Luckily, I have my own office so this is sufficient.

5:30 p.m. - 6:15 p.m.: Pick up the baby from daycare and head home.

6:15 p.m. - 8:30 p.m.: Feed the baby dinner. I cook a hot meal two to three times a week. Other times I rely on leftovers or crock-pot meals made the night before. Sometimes I make something quick and easy for myself and leave The Mister to fend for himself. If I'm feeling especially lazy, I'll order in pizza. After dinner, we have playtime, bath time, treatment time (my son is asthmatic and uses a nebulizer) and story time. This is a very hectic few hours after a long day. The Mister also has days when he gets off work at the normal hours and we can all eat and hang out together. Those are my favorite evenings.

8:30 p.m. - 9:30 p.m.: Baby goes to bed at 8:30 p.m. so mommy is free! Sometimes, I'll watch a bit of a TV show I love, but most of the time I save that for weekends. I usually spend this time getting ready for the next day and enjoying a little me time. I'm also exhausted by now.

9:30 p.m. - 10 p.m.: I try to go to bed by 9:30 p.m. but I usually end up falling asleep closer to 10 p.m. I read a bit in bed and catch up on my Words With Friends games. I try to wait up for The Mister if he works the evening shift but I'm not always successful. Most nights I can hardly keep my eyes open and have no problem going to bed. After all, I have an early day!

My weekends are pretty much the same as far as exercise, except the workouts are usually longer. Saturday means long runs and/or races and Sunday usually involves an additional long run. Just to throw an additional monkey wrench in my plans, The Mister usually works on the weekend and his schedule varies. My weekend day sometimes starts even earlier than it does during the week! During the summer, I would wake up at 3:45 a.m. to do my 20-milers and get back home by 8 a.m. so The Mister could go to work.

So that's how I do it! You don't see a lot of time in there for fun or just goofing off and that's because I don't have it. If I'm not exercising during my lunch break, I do "fun" stuff like grocery shop or run errands. My house doesn't get a good cleaning until the weekend. I simply choose to prioritize my health and fitness goals over watching TV, surfing the 'Net, and folding never-ending piles of laundry.

I absolutely miss vegging out on the couch from 8-10 p.m. watching TV. I deeply miss taking a leisurely bath with a good book every night. I wish I could handle a date night with The Mister that included a movie starting at 9 p.m. without falling asleep.

However, I have this little 50-mile race that I registered for in December and my goal is to cross the finish line upright and smiling. I'm willing to sacrifice now so that I can finish strong December. Even after the race, my days will probably be very similar in structure. I love to exercise -- race or not -- and working out in the morning has become second nature. This is my new normal and I don't mind it one bit.

How about you? How do you fit exercise into your busy life? If you don't do it currently, do you see ways you could fit it in?

 
 
 
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02:04 PM on 11/07/2011
Your perspective as a working mother committed to fitness is greatly appreciated. I don't have children yet, but I'm always taking notes! I truly admire your approach to parenting and your husband's desire to be an equal parent. You guys are good give-and-take, parent sharing examples. And if any woman or man begrudges that, they should seriously reevaluate their relationship with their co-parent and figure out how to strike a similar, or at least more equitable balance. Ok. Off the soap box. It just bothers me when folks insinuate that you "only spend 2 hours a day" with your child or leave him in the care of "unpaid strangers" or have emasculated your husband. To those folks I say, stop projecting your own fears, insecurities, etc. on to others. Everything ain't for everybody. And "Mister" is a term of endearment from everything I've read on your blog and elsewhere. If you feel the need to reference your S.O. as "your husband/wife" every time you refer to them, that's your prerogative. But don't judge the rest of us who like to mix it up and keep it interesting. Thank you again for Kia for your perspective and for showing us how you do. You're doing it, doing it, and doing it well! Kudos!
05:20 PM on 11/04/2011
It takes a lot of courage to open up your life like that! It's easy to be critical of the details of someone else's life (especially when one can sit safely on their soft little ass behind a computer screen) but I don't understand why there is a need for such criticism. I think the important message here is that you have prioritized your health in a way that works for YOU and YOUR FAMILY. This is a big deal in a society with an obesity epidemic. Besides, ou aren't proselytizing, you're just sharing a day in your life. I find it inspiring that you have set goals for yourself that most people would never consider and manage to work it all out. I think you're setting a great example for your family & look forward to reading about your ultramarathon. Sigue, sigue!
09:05 PM on 11/03/2011
So impressed! Everyone's life is different but at the end of the day, you are trying to stress how you get it in! Its an easy excuse to say I have to spend time with children and kids as a excuse to not exercise but you found how you can work out (which you love) and spend time with your family (who you love more!). I admire your ability to balance and reach such fantastic goals. Not sure what daycare has to do with this (as per other comments) so I hope you ignore those comments!

Keep staying determined to be fit!
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09:34 PM on 11/01/2011
It blows my mind how some women's husbands will do everything and other's won't even come home until the kids are asleep.
05:55 PM on 11/01/2011
I honor and respect the committment to fitness you've made, and agree you should count yourself lucky you've been able to do it. Now that my boys are almost school age, I'm finding we do tons of exercise together biking, running, playing sports most evenings and weekends. That said, I am dead tired by 9-10pm and have a crazy demanding job which requires plenty of 6am, 9pm calls with other countries, and in-the-office meetings sometimes at 8am, and no such thing as a true lunch break. In reflection, my family is my priority, my career second, and friends/hobbies/housework/ me time, exercise, etc 3rd and so on. To me, long term financial security is more important than fitness, because it impacts my family's long-term well-being. That said, I wish all the exercise I do with my kids had more of an impact on my abs and energy!
10:10 PM on 11/02/2011
I can't wait until I can exercise with my son and do more active things with him!

Financial security is very important but so is your health. All the money in the world doesn't mean anything if a parent is not around due to poor health. Exercise is just one aspect of good health but it is an important one. You don't have to go to extremes to fit some time in for your fitness. That exercise with your kids counts though!
05:24 PM on 11/01/2011
Yes chick! I like your style. Smart lady
02:49 PM on 11/01/2011
That schedule is pretty hectic. If you wake up at 4:50 a.m. and go to bed by 9:30 p.m. every day you are getting almost 7 1/2 hours of sleep every night and that is if you get sleep by 9:30. I guess if you have fitness goals you have to find time to exercise. I could not handle a schedule like that, something would have to give so that I can sleep more. I function best on 8-9 hours of sleep every night and I am not a morning person. It is hard for me to get up at 7:00 a.m. every work day so anyone who knows me knows that there is a snowball's chance in hell that I would choose to wake up any earlier. I would prefer to exercise during regular daylight hours if it doesn't work in that span of time then it won't work at all. If I had a choice between anything and sleeping I choose sleep because I would rather not go through my day with a sleep deprived headache.
09:55 PM on 11/02/2011
7-7-1/2 hours of sleep is perfect for me. If I get much less, I'm tired but this works perfectly. I used to make it on 5 hours but I'm older now and can't do that. I also have a rest day from exercise during the week so on that morning I get a little extra sleep. Even then, I can't really sleep past 7AM.
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01:54 PM on 11/01/2011
First, I loved your intro! And second go big on race day! I'm subscribing to you now!
12:24 PM on 11/01/2011
I realize you have a short-term fitness goal in mind, but I think family is a far higher priority. Right now, it's easy to schedule your day this way because your child is small and his whole routine is exactly what you say it is. When he gets older and his opinion, school, homework, sports, friends, etc. start coming in to play, you will have to sacrifice "you" time if you want to maintain a good relationship with your child by being there. It's great to rely on "Mister", but if you want to keep him around as someone to fall back on, you better start finding some time to include him, too. All the cardio in the world can't heal a broken heart.
09:52 PM on 11/02/2011
I understand what you are saying but I primarily exercise while my son and my husband are sleeping. No one is missing out on much of anything from me. Also, I am trying to get this larger goal out of the way while his schedule is fairly routine and before I have another child. I realize I have a narrow window to accomplish this and I am willing to sacrifice for a few months to get it done.
12:03 PM on 11/01/2011
I didn't work that hard when I was in the Marines! Good grief.
02:50 PM on 11/01/2011
And all the Marines I know are pretty fit.
11:40 AM on 11/01/2011
I got tired 1/3 of the way through her article. Didn't finish it. Thank goodness my kids are now older and self-sufficient. But even when they were little, my day wasn't like hers. The big difference between us is that I don't try to be "superwoman" or the better half of Ozzie. We women are only human. We need "down time" to relax and unwind. She's the one who chose to train for a 50 mile race. Geez...

As to the original headline on the main page...I'd rather do ANYTHING than watch television. Haven't looked at the thing in over 3 years and I don't miss it.
09:47 PM on 11/02/2011
I'm not trying to be superwoman. That is an impossible standard that no one should try to live up to. Exercise is something of a downtime for me. I enjoy it and find a lot of peace on my runs. My fitness time is my "me time." I'm not complaining (much) at all.
11:29 AM on 11/01/2011
Wow, 2 whole hours with your baby a day.
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02:47 PM on 11/01/2011
well put.
09:33 PM on 11/02/2011
I have to work full-time. I don't have any other options. 90% of the time, I exercise while my son is sleeping so I'm not taking that time away from my child. I would guess that my schedule is pretty much like any full-time working mother who works 8:30-5:30.
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09:53 AM on 11/01/2011
Perfect example of another immasculated (sic) male.
12:57 PM on 11/01/2011
Why? Because he helps care for the children he helped make? Because he is willing to support his wife's goals?
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03:11 PM on 11/01/2011
A whole lot of folks might get mad about this comment, but sister, a man is able to everything a woman is except breast feed & give birth. Those who say this & that is a woman's job or a man's job is full of it & need to get with it.

REAL men DO care for the youngins, clean the house, cook & iron when asked to. REAL men DO understand God gave woman to be man's help mate; NOT someone's slave. REAL men DO just about everything if their woman needs a break & a rest.

Honey, if that man helped get that child here he sure better be ready to take care of that youngin since it DID take two to tango! Some of us got lucky in the marriage department!
09:35 PM on 11/02/2011
He's emasculated because while he's sleeping at 5AM he keeps an ear out for the baby crying while I go out for a run. Uh, OK.
09:50 AM on 11/01/2011
The whole idea sounds great! When does anyone at that house do any of the housework? I would love a household where there is no housework! If my household work was all done for me, maybe I'd have time for all the things that can be done in that time.
07:59 PM on 11/01/2011
Well said!!! I put my husband and my 2 children above myself. I also wish all my housework was done for me and just like you said, then I would have time to focus on me. Maybe one day, in a perfect world.
On the other side, I do commend her for doing all that she does. And like she said it works for her and that's great. I just don't see this working for me.
09:37 PM on 11/02/2011
I do the majority of the housework on the weekends. We do light cleaning during the week but the dishes don't get done every day and I fold laundry on the weekend and not immediately after washing. I grocery shop and run errands during my lunch break at work.
09:48 AM on 11/01/2011
I find that morning workouts are best for me. As a single mom, I do dvd workouts because I don't have to leave home. But as my children have gotten older, I tend to walk/run outside. Thankfully, I live close to a park where the walking trail circles the playground area, so I take my kids with me sometimes....they need physical activity too! I work at a community college and last year I began taking advantage of the physcial fitness classes offered. I take Pilates (and sometimes aerobics) in the afternoon and have seen change in my midsection. I sometimes walk on my lunch break, we have a great walking trail on campus. I often tell people we find time to do what's important to us.
Thanks for a great article....made me think about my daily schedule and how I can make it work even better for me!
10:04 PM on 11/02/2011
I did a lot of home workouts before I joined CrossFit and got into running. You can definitely get into great shape working out at home.

You sound like you are getting it in already in a way that works for you. And I absolutely agree - we find time to do what is important to us.