iPhone app iPad app Android phone app Android tablet app More

Featuring fresh takes and real-time analysis from HuffPost's signature lineup of contributors
Kim Michele Richardson

GET UPDATES FROM Kim Michele Richardson

Healing Requires Revealing: How the Church is Failing Abuse Survivors

Posted: 11/26/10 09:22 PM ET

While the current headlines reflect advanced thinking by the Roman Catholic Church on topics such as condoms and the 'new princes' elections, I read little on the Vatican's response to the issue of sexually abusive clergy during Pope Benedict XVI's historic meeting of worldwide bishops and cardinals last week.

The Pontiff surely realizes that the Church cannot advance while dragging these crimes and the mayhem of conspiracies behind it. Nor can it redirect our attention by disavowing what it has done.

The opportunity for accountability, resolution and a promise for the protection of vulnerable children is now. If this chance for doggedness and truthfulness is lost, then so crumbles another pillar of civilization and hope. And if the Church is unwilling, then perhaps it is justice that it should pay with whatever is left of its integrity.

Pope Benedict XVI needs to set the stage with the full disclosure of his own record of cover-up and mishandling of the clergy abuse cases under his authority before his ascension to the Vatican's highest seat. Barbara Blaine, president of SNAP, the Survivors Network of those Abused by Priests, said last week, "Before any hopes get raised, let's remember that it's likely that every man in the room next week has ignored and concealed clergy sex crimes or is doing so right now. The prospects of substantial reform happening next week are therefore pretty slim."

If justice is to be met and satisfied and the Roman Catholic Church is to begin the long-needed healing process for the thousands of victims and survivors globally, the Church must also invite government officials, prosecutors and law enforcement officials into these meetings. The men who concealed these most heinous crimes and those involved in silencing the victims of abuse should not be allowed to solve and absolve alone. Just as guilty as the perpetrators -- the nuns and priests who raped and robbed innocent children, and who've left them forever locked in torments of their childhoods -- are those who hid and allowed decades of predatory Catholic Clergy abuse.

Long overdue is our own government's involvement on the national level. Throughout the years since the historic cases of clergy abuse in Boston and Kentucky, news media have reported on many more throughout the United States.

Now is the time for the US government to form a commission that would investigate and study the entire scope of the tragic American clergy abuse cases, more importantly the most horrendous crimes which were perpetrated against those without family or protection -- U.S. orphans. This much needed study would reveal the magnitude of the problems and the countless numbers who have been victimized along with exposing the many predator clergy, further insuring the safety of vulnerable children. We as a society know that the strongest weapon against child abuse is to arm ourselves with information and education.

Our country has just gone through an election process and numerous times we've heard U.S. citizens say they wanted a more open and transparent government. Just as Americans want and deserve a more open and transparent government, victims of clergy abuse around the world want and deserve the Church's hierarchy to finally become more open and transparent concerning the identities of predator priests and nuns. These should include those criminally convicted in courts, those identified by victims and the clergy moved from one jurisdiction to another because of sexual abuse allegations.

Just as each state in the US has created their own convicted sex offender registries which list those convicted in their respective state, the Church's hierarchy should also create a list of all convicted or suspected predator priests/nuns for each country in the world. The Roman Catholic Church needs to let the world know the mistakes it has made by re-affirming the steps they have taken and the policies they've put in place with justice and action. William F. McMurry, an advocate and expertise for abuse victims wrote, " ... without accountability, justice will remain an elusive butterfly."

Survivors of clergy abuse live with devastating and debilitating emotional scars. It is only fair that the Church also live with emotional scars by providing a list of every suspected predator clergy in the world both current and past.

Pope Benedict XVI has said the Church has a profound need to learn forgiveness. But too often the Church confuses being forgiven with righteousness. Many survivors know that absolution is not justice, nor an excuse or exoneration; it is however an action -- a necessary progression toward moving forward and healing. The Roman Catholic Church needs to know that they too need action for civilization to move forward and to heal -- just as every survivor and child who has ever suffered in silence and self blame deserves and should be allowed to heal and be protected with action against further clergy abuse. This begins with the Church disclosing and revealing.

My name is Kim Michele Richardson and I am a survivor of clergy abuse. I was abandoned as an infant to a Roman Catholic Orphan Asylum for nearly a decade.

 
 
 

Follow Kim Michele Richardson on Twitter: www.twitter.com/writernwaiting

While the current headlines reflect advanced thinking by the Roman Catholic Church on topics such as condoms and the 'new princes' elections, I read little on the Vatican's response to the issue of se...
While the current headlines reflect advanced thinking by the Roman Catholic Church on topics such as condoms and the 'new princes' elections, I read little on the Vatican's response to the issue of se...
 
 
  • Comments
  • 157
  • Pending Comments
  • 0
  • View FAQ
Comments are closed for this entry
View All
Favorites
Recency  | 
Popularity
Page: 1 2 3  Next ›  Last »  (3 total)
photo
HUFFPOST SUPER USER
CarlIII
Liberal Virginian living in Remlap Alabama
05:18 PM on 12/03/2010
So do priests make good babysitters or not? Hey that photo of the old Pope shows he can still hit that bong like the good old days when he was a National Socialist.
03:39 PM on 12/03/2010
I'm not sure whether to use the word "confession" or "allocution." Either way, the Church needs to make an honest effort to investigate, acknowledge, and make amends for their role in abuses. I like the idea of a sex offender registry for the Church. Sounds like a good first step.
03:01 PM on 11/30/2010
Thank you for your article, Kim. You are not alone; there are more of us around than we realize. Hugs and prayers as you heal.
HUFFPOST SUPER USER
vonric
08:50 AM on 11/30/2010
A thoughtful and concise article that speaks directly to the core challenges, clearly written by someone who knows, via visceral experience, and has the capacity to "translate" that for others...

I was not abused in a theologic setting, but sustained childhood abuse and incest. In that context, I have been fascinated at the parallels between the Catholic Church as an enabling organization and any "enabling" parent. The excuses and dodges are the same... it was not that important, think of the family, get over it/it happened a long time ago - all familiar refrains from those of us who have sustained this kind of trauma.

Keep on writing, keep on speaking a clear reality! I am sure that there are many with less articulate voices who thank you for speaking their story along with yours.
This user has chosen to opt out of the Badges program
nikanj
free the fnords
12:25 PM on 11/30/2010
My husband's situation is very similar to yours.

When I married into the family as a young woman,
I had NO IDEA. The parallels to the Catholic Church
are, as you say, striking. It's like a microcosm of the
same unspeakable horrors. All fronted by the image
of the 'good' family. Behind the front -- lies, secrets and silence.

Best wishes to you on your journey. Fanned for truth. Nikanj.
(My screen name is that of a character in the obscure
but excellent writings of Octavia Butler, which you might
enjoy if you like thoughtful science fiction).
New Yorker
Roman Catholic, Anti-DEATH, Combat Vet, Sinner
02:51 PM on 11/29/2010
Police Departmenst have 'Internal Affairs' officers and divisions to expose the criminals within their organizations, that is how often Police officers become perpetrators of crimes. Yet no one seeks to end the police as an organization.
A few bad apples used their knowledge of the Catholic Faith to encourage others to hide their crimes, and seek forgiveness from the 'Confessional' So now satan's disciples, people with a hatred for Catholics, Atheists eager to use the crimes as proof of their mindless assumptions about God, and all the Catholic and God haters who loved to beat this drum spew these endless attacks.

It is just beyond any other purpose at this point, so we Catholics who love God and His Church just can't take it seriously when these attackers write these anti-Catholic articles. The issue has been effectively beaten to death.
photo
HUFFPOST BLOGGER
Kim Michele Richardson
Author, The Unbreakable Child
04:50 PM on 11/29/2010
Hi, New Yorker. First, thank you for taking the time to read my article.

Police departments across America have an Internal Affairs Unit/Professional Standards Unit that investigates misconduct charges/administrative rule breaking by their Officers. These large police departments usually have another unit that investigates possible criminal allegations against their officers and often times this unit is called the Public Integrity Unit.

Penalties that are imposed on the Police can range from a letter of reprimand, days suspended without pay, on to termination. These penalties are always more severe than penalties imposed on their counterparts in the private sector. The rationale is that Police, which provide security for our neighborhoods, should be held to a higher standard than your normal citizen.

Hence, Priests that hold our trust should also be held to a higher standard.

So I'm not sure I am able to follow your logic. And I'm neither anti-Catholic nor atheistic. When any person commits a crime, it is another crime to shield that person from the consequences of the law.

To recover its strength, the Church must move past this stain on its integrity. The only way to do this is through a process of full disclosure, the purging and accountability of criminals within its ranks and safeguards imposed to ensure that history does not repeat itself.

Kindest
Kim
08:24 PM on 11/29/2010
The police is the last resort of criminal justice. There is no choice but for the police department to be "self" policed. Other organizations are in no way analogous. If they do not report wrongdoing to the police they are committing a crime. At least in the United States religious organizations are no different and can't use the argument that they answer to a "higher authority" and are above the law. It's not the middle ages.
HUFFPOST SUPER USER
vonric
08:31 AM on 11/30/2010
Um, clear you are a hositle and angry apologist in a comprehensive way for a church, that whatever it's theology is, has failed miserably to protect the most vulnerable in its midst.

I suggest you take upon yourself an excercise of enlightenment... Go to Amazon or any other internet book vendor, enter the words "catholic priest abuse", pick the top three titles, making sure that one of them is the excellent documentary of the insanity in Boston under Cardinal Law, and then read them.

Following that, I suggest you sit in a support group for those who have been abused by priests and nuns for at least three sessions.

You operate from a place of safety; by calling this the action of atheistic church-haters, you seek to minimize the problem and diminish the impact of a theologic administration that not only condoned direct abuse but enabled its perpetration. The cases are well documented, go back decades in this country and now, clearly, in Europe as well.
photo
HUFFPOST SUPER USER
gregory57
Micro-bio, was one of my favorite classes.
10:34 AM on 11/29/2010
It amazes me that people are expecting the church to take responsibility for healing the injuries and insults they have perpertrated

Any other institution that would so obviously abuse it's power would be systematically dismantled and relegated to the history's trash pile.
New Yorker
Roman Catholic, Anti-DEATH, Combat Vet, Sinner
11:26 AM on 11/29/2010
. . and yet Congress, The Whitehouse, and indeed the republican party still exist after George W. Bush, the single worst incomptent and criminal to become President of the U.S.

So clearly we do not dismantle criminal organizations, or even try the great criminals, and we did just elect more republicans/criminals to power.

Incidentally, God heals the victims, we Catholics just pray for his Mercy.
This user has chosen to opt out of the Badges program
nikanj
free the fnords
11:55 AM on 11/29/2010
Well, time and my support seem to have gone
a lot farther in healing my husband than your God.

But of course the contribution of a woman would not count.
photo
HUFFPOST SUPER USER
Stokes
09:46 AM on 11/29/2010
(Inspired to write on November 25, 1985)
"Set your eyes and ears on the existing turmoil and confusion. The Lord thy God has tired of the exasperating deceptions which have governed so many of His children. It is now the time to hearken to the calling. He who does not respond to Truth will Know much regret. For has it not been shown to you through many of His chosen ones the deceitful lies that have ruled this establishment. Who calls it the House of God? It is filled with vile corruption. How be it, they walk and talk with all the motions of piety and there is no piety within them.Blow the trumpets. Let everyone hear the Truth. Bring out of hiding all of the hidden evils that have held My children prisoner. Sound the trumpet and make ready to make war on all of the forces of evil."
New Yorker
Roman Catholic, Anti-DEATH, Combat Vet, Sinner
08:20 AM on 11/29/2010
The Catholic Church had a tiny number of clergy out of the many thousands who had any guilt at all over the child abuse crimes, and their cover up. The tiny number has been inflated by writers and anti-Catholic voices because they have their agenda, and find it useful. We Catholics were just as appauled by te crimes, and their enablers as anyone, and probably more so, it is after all our church. The church has come to grips with their failings and the Holy Father himself has made it clear that there is to be no tolerance given to such crimes in the future, and all must be immediately be made public. Satan has kept the Catholic Church under constant attack over the thousands of years since Christ established his church. This is just another such attack, and the Holy Spirit acted as he always does, to protect the church. In this case that was done by making the whole despicable affair public, and all who particiapted held accountable. As a Catholic I put my faith in that justice, for mankind is all too unreliable on that score. Recounting the past crimes as is being done here, is simply Old News, and it serves no purpose.
08:53 AM on 11/29/2010
What you are ignoring is that the writer is not talking about past crimes. He is talking about identifying suspected perpetrators so that children will be protected in the future. Where has the Holy Father ever said that reports of suspected child sexual abuse (including past ones never reported to date) will be immediately turned over to the local authorities with NO intevening action by the church? It isn't happening now and it's not going to happen in the future. The hierarchy of the priesthood considers itself to be an independent authority, loyal to its own members, and not beholden to the greater society. Hopefully no parent is so gullible today that they would take their complaint to the church rather than report it to the police. Of course that wouldn't have helped the writer who was without recourse to a parent.
New Yorker
Roman Catholic, Anti-DEATH, Combat Vet, Sinner
11:05 AM on 11/29/2010
The Catholic Church answers to a much, much higher authority whose justice unavoidable, and beyond reproach. If you imagine that men who devoted their lives to serving that justice would make the mistakes of others in the church you know nothing of the techings on Divine Justice. Reporting suspicions to a world too eager to ruin an innocent man is done by many organizations with less commitment to justice. The FBI, the CIA, The Military, The Congress, the Whitehouse (lest you forget Nixon), etc. are just a few human organizations that don't answer to God for their actions. As a Catholic, I am pleased with what is being done by the church at this point. And as a Catholic I know we who are the Church are paying much closer attention to anything suspicious, so we don't need anyone else to do it for us.
This user has chosen to opt out of the Badges program
nikanj
free the fnords
08:43 PM on 11/29/2010
You didn't notice that the writer is female ?
Other than that, well spoken.
12:08 PM on 11/28/2010
One big problem is that they're still allowed to create NEW future abuse survivors.
Carroll27
Nature's own nice conservative
09:02 PM on 11/27/2010
This is the ONLY story that's allowed to be posted about Catholicism here. What about other denominations? We don't talk about it. How about abuse in our secular schools? Not mentioned. It's anti-Catholic all the way.
10:28 PM on 11/27/2010
It's about the sheer arrogance and hypocrisy of the Catholic clergy and the magnitude of the problem. They are not dealing with it like what would happen in a secular situation.

And you are wrong in terms of Catholocism posts here. Check out articles from Fr. Martin and Sr. Joan Chittester. They are regular contributers.
Carroll27
Nature's own nice conservative
10:57 PM on 11/27/2010
This particular article portrays the Catholic Church and its clergy as arrogant and hypocritical. That's not the church I know. But that's not the church portrayed here. Look at the various articles on this board. About half of them are about the Catholic Church and about 90 percent of those are related to articles on condoms or the current scandal. Now compare with articles about Islam -- they are, almost to a point, love jobs. Or Buddhism. Or Hinduism.

As for Fr. Martin, I pity him. No matter how hard he tries to reach out to the leftwing, they are always there to attack. Why bother?
This user has chosen to opt out of the Badges program
photo
njgal4obama
All others will be towed.
11:35 AM on 11/28/2010
The function of secular schools is to teach facts.

The function of the Catholic Church is to dictate morality, and require behavior consistent with that morality. The Catholic Church needs to live up to the STANDARDS OF BEHAVIOR IT SETS FOR EVERYONE ELSE TO LIVE BY!!!!!!
photo
LMPE
I connect the most dissimilar things
06:45 PM on 11/27/2010
It will be a great day when the Roman Catholic Corporation's members all abandon it.
Carroll27
Nature's own nice conservative
08:49 PM on 11/27/2010
Yeah, but I bet you'd like to see that.
02:20 AM on 11/28/2010
Why?
photo
HUFFPOST SUPER USER
Barbara Graham
Comin at u from Area 5150
06:11 PM on 11/27/2010
It's not funny when religious leaders caught in immoral acts invoke Christian forgiveness when it's their necks on the line. Forgiveness also doesn't get you off the hook. The statistics involving RCC are astonishing.

I remember the first cases to hit mainstream media. From listening to the defensive excuses offered by church spokesthingies, it was clear that protecting the reputation of Mother Church was more important than the children. I believe the RCC is close to a tipping point; once past, the church will no longer have a reputation to defend. If they don't do the right thing now, it may cost them everything in the future. I'll be laughing when the Vatican goes up for sale on eBay.
02:23 AM on 11/28/2010
I like your post, although I don't like the last comment. I think the problem wasn't so much in Rome as it was on the local level. For the most part it was the Bishops who tried to keep things down, and it was their lack of strength that caused this problem in the first place. The church needs to make sure something is done to those priests who have abused their sacred position so that they are no longer a part of society. Personally, I almost want to suggest a prison monastery for these people.
photo
HUFFPOST SUPER USER
Barbara Graham
Comin at u from Area 5150
12:00 PM on 11/28/2010
I agree with your observation, except the part where Cardinal Rat failed in his role and declined to prosecute a particularly abusive priest, and that has made Catholics angry.

A reflective monastery for such priests would be a good way to control them, but I'd ask to please toss in the bishops and cardinals who directed this farce for so many years.
photo
HUFFPOST SUPER USER
Hysterian68
bureaucrat/historian/ranter
05:24 PM on 11/30/2010
This pope is sitting on a gold mine of archival records centuries old. It will all be revealed because Benny16's Vatican is an even bigger sieve than the State Department appears to be. Some little clerk or priest will reveal ALL! Just a matter of time.
HUFFPOST SUPER USER
gsell44
04:00 PM on 11/27/2010
"Survivors of clergy abuse live with devastating and debilitating emotional scars. It is only fair that the Church also live with emotional scars by providing a list of every suspected predator clergy in the world both current and past."
I can't see this happening with the current Pope and Cardinals. To them the less said the better.
photo
HUFFPOST SUPER USER
cadawa
03:53 PM on 11/27/2010
I don't know that the Catholic Church is interested in healing any more than any other corporation. They are intersted in limiting their financial losses and keeping as much of their power and privilege as they possibly can. Like BP, they'll drag whatever they need to behind them to make it work for them.
photo
Mag7
Smarter than the Average Dog
03:42 PM on 11/27/2010
The RCC also needs to get out of the business of politics. My last day in a church was when they asked all of us in attendance to sign a sheet that would be part of the several thousands of signatures necessary to repeal the Massachusetts law allowing same-sex marriage. Many refused to sign and the effort failed.
Carroll27
Nature's own nice conservative
09:03 PM on 11/27/2010
Who is "they"? The priest? Was it during the announcements? Who?
photo
Mag7
Smarter than the Average Dog
09:07 AM on 11/28/2010
Yes, it was the priest that asked us to sign after services. I thought it was a disgusting abuse of authority to ask the congregation to sign a political document of any sort.
This user has chosen to opt out of the Badges program
photo
njgal4obama
All others will be towed.
11:32 AM on 11/28/2010
I was presented with a similar petition while working at an Irish Festival last year. When I told the lady I wouldn't sign it because I support gay marriage, she looked at me like I had five heads, and couldn't respond verbally. She just got a shocked look on her face and walked away shaking her head.

A very little mind that for one second, almost opened up. Almost.
08:32 PM on 11/29/2010
I've gotten the same reaction from people when I say things (and I'm a young college student) like:

"Me and my friends meet at mass before going out for the night"
"I'm pro-life"
"I'm a virgin"

Honestly, people need to be more open to the fact that other people have different view points. This is a two way street. Anyway, I'm okay with churches having a petition, in that they're asking people to sign it,not telling them it's a sin not to or something, but I can't say I entirely approve either.