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Kim Simon
Writer. Mother. Wife. Not your average "Mommy Blogger." Throwing you a lifejacket when the tidal wave of parenthood sweeps you out to sea. Parenting in public since 2009.

My blog Mama by the Bay is a love letter to Max. Because being his mom has finally shown me what I want to be when I grow up.

Entries by Kim Simon

Undocumented Children Belong to All of Us

(24) Comments | Posted July 7, 2014 | 4:25 PM

I want you to imagine that you have just put your 10-year-old daughter on a bus, bound for sleep-away camp.

You've packed her some snacks for the ride. You've covered her in kisses and sent hearty prayers towards the sky, hoping that your love will build an armor that shields...

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6 cose che ho imparato sull'allattamento al seno

(0) Comments | Posted July 4, 2014 | 4:42 AM

Il mio bambino ha appena fatto un anno. Ce l'abbiamo fatto. Siamo sopravvissuti al primo anno. E contro ogni probabilità, è successa una cosa bellissima e sorprendente, totalmente inaspettata, conquistata a fatica, desiderata. Sono diventata una mamma che allatta al seno.

Abbiamo raggiunto il primo...

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6 Things I Know Now About Breastfeeding

(11) Comments | Posted June 27, 2014 | 11:21 AM

My sweet baby Ben recently turned 1.

We did it. We survived the first year.

And against all odds, something happened that was totally unexpected and hard-won and butt-kicking and prayed for and holy and amazing and beautiful.

I became a breastfeeding mom.

We reached our one-year "nurse-aversary." ME....

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Our Last First Year

(8) Comments | Posted June 5, 2014 | 10:59 AM

There is a moment in motherhood when you realize that you have been holding your breath.

As if forgetting to breathe will somehow slow the passage of time, in all the right places.

It is the deep inhale as your baby settles in to sleep, buffered and bolstered by the...

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My Secret Weapon Against Postpartum Depression

(0) Comments | Posted May 27, 2014 | 10:54 AM

I brought my baby home from the hospital when he was five days old.

Even though it was only 10 months ago, I can't quite remember what day of the week it was. In my heart, it was a Monday.

Mondays are for new beginnings. Mondays are for starting over....

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I Am a Kind Mama

(10) Comments | Posted April 30, 2014 | 2:05 PM

I have something very important to tell you, so I need you to listen up.

Are you ready for it?

Celebrities are not experts on anything other than being a celebrity.

They're not.

They're not doctors. They aren't psychologists. They aren't researchers, or social workers, or childcare providers. They aren't...

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8 Things Mike Francesa, Boomer Esiason and Craig Carton Should Know About Paternity Leave

(2) Comments | Posted April 4, 2014 | 11:52 AM

Dear Mike Francesa, Boomer Esiason and Craig Carton,

I have no idea who you are.

Really, I don't. Sorry. I had to look up how to spell your names for this article.

But I heard what you said the other day about New York Mets player Daniel Murphy,...

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The Meanest Word at Preschool

(2) Comments | Posted March 10, 2014 | 11:53 AM

There's a game that we play, my boys and I, when the sun goes down and we're getting a little stir-crazy. Max balances an overturned stacking block on his hand, or on his head, or at the edge of the couch, and I try to throw a ball in. At...

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Siempre hay una primera vez

(0) Comments | Posted February 28, 2014 | 12:05 AM

¿Te acuerdas de tu primera vez?

No esa primera vez. Para empezar, eso es algo por lo que ahora estás metida en este lío de la maternidad.

Me refiero a las otras primeras veces. Las que definen tu gran entrada en el mundo de la maternidad. Las que acaban...

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The Delta Airlines Breastfeeding Policy, and Why I'm Not Afraid

(3) Comments | Posted February 26, 2014 | 11:05 AM

I wasn't going to get involved in the debate about nursing on airplanes.

I don't even fly Delta.

My baby is 9 months old now, and it's pretty rare that I can convince him to nurse under a cover.

I've flown other airlines and breastfed Ben discreetly in my seat....

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There's Always a First Time

(4) Comments | Posted February 11, 2014 | 2:58 PM

Do you remember your first time?

Not that first time. That's part of what got you into this mothering mess to begin with.

The other first times. The ones that define your grand entrance into parenthood. The messy ones. The ones that aren't always marked on a calendar. The firsts...

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The Secret Society of Stroller Moms

(1) Comments | Posted January 24, 2014 | 12:10 PM

It's 10 a.m. I'm walking out of Starbucks backwards, pushing the door open with my rear end so that I can pull my stroller through the narrow doorway. Without spilling my coffee. Bennie is tucked into his infant car seat, buckled into the stroller, sleeping soundly. If I walk fast...

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Ending School Violence Begins With Me

(7) Comments | Posted December 17, 2013 | 10:38 AM

I sat in the parking lot of my son's preschool today, waiting for the clock on my dashboard to tell me that it was time to pick him up. I scrolled through my Twitter feed, and there it was. Another school shooting.

The social media response is predictable by now....

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Learning to Speak the Language of Boys

(27) Comments | Posted December 4, 2013 | 11:14 AM

I love pink.

I wore pink heels at my wedding. My cell phone cover is pink, my nails are pink, and I've been known to hide a bright pink streak in my hair because I'm partial to living loudly sometimes. I have tiny pink bobby pins, and pink pajamas, and...

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'Twas the Night Before Chanukah

(2) Comments | Posted November 26, 2013 | 4:12 PM

'Twas the night before Chanukah, and tucked on our shelf,

is a beautiful menorah, and not that darn Elf.

No stockings are hung by our chimney with care,

but a warm fire is burning, and we've all gathered there.

For Chanukah is different, and we like it that way.

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Moments With My Mother

(1) Comments | Posted November 8, 2013 | 10:47 AM

At 20 weeks pregnant, I asked my doctor if it was safe to go to Vegas.

"It's not what you think. I'm going with my mom."

Which made it sound even more bizarre than it actually was.

We were going to Las Vegas to see Tim McGraw and Faith Hill...

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Fill the Gap, Feed With Love

(0) Comments | Posted October 2, 2013 | 2:26 PM

There's this thing that my 4-month-old does when he's hungry. I call it "The Dive Bomb." He starts with a sweet cuddle in the crook of my neck and nuzzles his little rosebud mouth against my skin. Within seconds, he turns his entire body toward my collarbone, and throws all...

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Please Nurse in Public

(838) Comments | Posted September 26, 2013 | 3:46 PM

It was 99 degrees out when we visited Disneyland last week.

Have you ever tried to nurse a 4-month-old baby in 99 degree heat? It feels like your face is melting off. My chubby, sweet boy slid across my chest as his cheeks burned a brighter red than mine. His...

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A Different Kind of 'First Day'

(10) Comments | Posted September 17, 2013 | 1:10 PM

Dear Max,

Yesterday was your very first day of Pre-K. As we walked across the courtyard, the voices of the last two years called out to greet you. Your teacher from the 3-year-old class. Your best friend from the 2-year-old class. Your school embraced you like a warm hug as...

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Milk Drunk

(384) Comments | Posted August 1, 2013 | 11:34 AM

I breastfed my newborn son in the Target dressing room today. My tiny boy, the one who lost ounce after ounce in the hospital, is now over 12 pounds. Why? Because I have nursed him in restaurants, in the front seat of my car, in the recliner, in bed, on...

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